In the negative (to the not so nice) tune of £19771.50 ...

Want-To-Fit-In

notanewuser wrote: »

He smokes weed around her and their children and doesn't want to stop.

Which bit of that can be "worked at"?

I'm sorry but there isn't any need to be like that, The people over here obviously don't know the details of my other thread.

notanewuser

Want-To-Fit-In wrote: »

I'm sorry but there isn't any need to be like that, The people over here obviously don't know the details of my other thread.

That's the point. They can easily find it. You've been open about it.

rising_from_the_ashes

Want-To-Fit-In wrote: »

I'm sorry but there isn't any need to be like that, The people over here obviously don't know the details of my other thread.

Totally agree!

notanewuser wrote: »

That's the point. They can easily find it. You've been open about it.

Quite frankly I've got better things to do with my time than hunt through other posts that people have made ... if they want something known then put it on the thread ....

TBH I'm disgusted that you put that up - not your place to do so at all :mad:

Want-To-Fit-In

notanewuser wrote: »

That's the point. They can easily find it. You've been open about it.

I haven't been open over here about it though. This was to clear my debts and rant without a biased opinion I didn't realize people went looking for other posts

notanewuser

Want-To-Fit-In wrote: »

I haven't been open over here about it though. This was to clear my debts and rant without a biased opinion I didn't realize people went looking for other posts

But this thread seemed to be morphing into the other one. Posters on the other thread are telling you you should leave your OH. Over here, where they aren't aware of the issue, the advice is to "work at it".

This thread reads as if you could just be narked because your OH leaves his pants on the floor, or used teabags on the worktops. Not illegal and dangerous activity around somebody who is very unwell and 3 defenceless children!!!

kissjenn

Hi WTFI,

Not sure where you are in the UK but do you have a Maggies near you? They offer a lot of one to one support and guidance and have benefits experts who can investigate everything you'd be entitled to. Even some complementary therapies (which I think MacMillan can organise too).

They would be able to advise on lots of the issues you're facing; money, support in the home, childcare etc. I'm sure there are lots of people here who would willing help you build a support network so that you don't feel so alone in all of this.

I'm only a PM away. I'll send you over my mobile and if you ever want to text or natter you'll always have someone in your corner.

KJ x

Want-To-Fit-In

kissjenn wrote: »

Hi WTFI,

Not sure where you are in the UK but do you have a Maggies near you? They offer a lot of one to one support and guidance and have benefits experts who can investigate everything you'd be entitled to. Even some complementary therapies (which I think MacMillan can organise too).

They would be able to advise on lots of the issues you're facing; money, support in the home, childcare etc. I'm sure there are lots of people here who would willing help you build a support network so that you don't feel so alone in all of this.

I'm only a PM away. I'll send you over my mobile and if you ever want to text or natter you'll always have someone in your corner.

KJ x

Thank you just have children in the bath and I will reply x

taxi73

Am not going to look for your other postings regarding your husband.
Kissjenn has posted what I would've suggested.If you're not far from me then there aren't any maggies centres.
All the chemo units have access to cancer psychologists plus many more services to help also your oncologist and drs would know how to access any help you need.

Want-To-Fit-In

kissjenn wrote: »

Hi WTFI,

Not sure where you are in the UK but do you have a Maggies near you? They offer a lot of one to one support and guidance and have benefits experts who can investigate everything you'd be entitled to. Even some complementary therapies (which I think MacMillan can organise too).

They would be able to advise on lots of the issues you're facing; money, support in the home, childcare etc. I'm sure there are lots of people here who would willing help you build a support network so that you don't feel so alone in all of this.

I'm only a PM away. I'll send you over my mobile and if you ever want to text or natter you'll always have someone in your corner.

KJ x

Thank you, I'mm going to ask the GP on Monday or even at the hospital next week. I know things need to change. I'll reply to pm in a min x

taxi73 wrote: »

Am not going to look for your other postings regarding your husband.
Kissjenn has posted what I would've suggested.If you're not far from me then there aren't any maggies centres.
All the chemo units have access to cancer psychologists plus many more services to help also your oncologist and drs would know how to access any help you need.

Thank you, the treatments are based between Christie's/hope I'm there next week and will definitely speak to them xx

Happydadof3

Only recently decided to really get finances straight, and on reading your first page can relate to alot of what you're saying. You've done fantastic on the debt front, you should be very proud!

Re the illness sounds horrible but you sound like you're doing really well. On the male side..... Can't relate to that bit as I'm a bloke!!!

Happydadof3 subscribing to your positive and so far successful diary and journey!!