In the negative (to the not so nice) tune of £19771.50 ...

taxi73

Just read your diary and subscribed x
You are doing fantastic with the debt busting
I am in awe of you managing 3 kiddies whilst on chemo..please don't cut your anti sick meds down as they can really help.Hope you start to feel better soon.Regarding the anxiety/panic about going outdoors I can empathise with you as going through the same thing just now and I now have a counsellor and mental health team helping me...the chemo nurses or oncologist can get you help for that ..maybe worth considering x

kissjenn

You're doing amazingly well WTFI.

Hats off to you coping with the wee ones about. Anything I can do to help in any practical way please yell.

tootallulah

Hi, just nipped over from Taxi's diary, you are doing brilliantly. Hope you start to feel better soon.

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taxi73 wrote: »

Just read your diary and subscribed x
You are doing fantastic with the debt busting
I am in awe of you managing 3 kiddies whilst on chemo..please don't cut your anti sick meds down as they can really help.Hope you start to feel better soon.Regarding the anxiety/panic about going outdoors I can empathise with you as going through the same thing just now and I now have a counsellor and mental health team helping me...the chemo nurses or oncologist can get you help for that ..maybe worth considering x

Thank you the going out is a big problem now my oldest is going to be starting school So I need to sort it I will speak to someone and see if anything similar is available. I should think so you aren't that far from me. x Thank you x

kissjenn wrote: »

You're doing amazingly well WTFI.

Hats off to you coping with the wee ones about. Anything I can do to help in any practical way please yell.

Some days I wouldn't call it coping I'd call it a madhouse Thank you x

tootallulah wrote: »

Hi, just nipped over from Taxi's diary, you are doing brilliantly. Hope you start to feel better soon.

Thank you x

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I'm in a really sticky situation with the OH. We have different views on something he does (Which I totally hate and disagree with)

But it seems being single right now isn't a very wise decision either

rising_from_the_ashes

mmmm difficult on WTFI and I will say before saying anything I'm not the best for relationship advice as I'm very set in my ways & stubborn!

I'd say .... work at it if you can - if it's the only "bad thing" then try to work around it .... does he do it daily / weekly / monthly .... is there something you can do to distract yourself when he's doing it (will depend on whether it's in the house or away somewhere else) etc

If at all possible ... I'd say try to stick things out - being single is hard .... being single and ill is really hard ..... being single, ill and having young kids to look after .... really, really tough ..... (((hugs)))

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rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

mmmm difficult on WTFI and I will say before saying anything I'm not the best for relationship advice as I'm very set in my ways & stubborn!

I'd say .... work at it if you can - if it's the only "bad thing" then try to work around it .... does he do it daily / weekly / monthly .... is there something you can do to distract yourself when he's doing it (will depend on whether it's in the house or away somewhere else) etc

If at all possible ... I'd say try to stick things out - being single is hard .... being single and ill is really hard ..... being single, ill and having young kids to look after .... really, really tough ..... (((hugs)))

Thank you x

Its EVERY day, has been for the last 8 years, any a time we have had rows, but I know if I make the step to go alone. I am really alone and that will be that which is scary. Think I need to speak to someone who can look at both sides and see what solution there is if he wants there to be one of course. I have never been single, never been on my own either, never mind with kids and being ill too. A very scary thought.

kerri_gt

Just found your diary and wow, well done with everything you have on your plate and paying down so much of your debts too.

rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

:rotfl:I love lists .... and spreadsheets .... and I ramble too!

Welcome to the club!

I'm stalking you again Rising - you sure we aren't related with all this rambling and spreadsheet malarkey?

WTFI - I've been reading your diary and don't really have much of an idea about how things are with you / OH but I hope you can work through things together. couples rarely agree on everything (that old adage of opposites attract and all that) and things must be incredibly stressful on you both with three little ones and a serious illness to deal with (not anyone's fault, but just the way things unfortunately are). People often cope with things in diff ways and sometimes what may seem like a lack of support is someone's way of keeping their feelings bottled up because they don't want to add to their partners burden. Perhaps OH isn't showing an interest in the debt busting because he thinks there's enough to deal with atm, or perhaps it's taking him longer to have a light bulb moment? I could be totally off the mark and he could just be a miserable g*t. I know it can be hard, but try to think about the reasons you are together and what brought you together in the first place xx

off to subscribe now.

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kerri_gt wrote: »

Just found your diary and wow, well done with everything you have on your plate and paying down so much of your debts too.



I'm stalking you again Rising - you sure we aren't related with all this rambling and spreadsheet malarkey?

WTFI - I've been reading your diary and don't really have much of an idea about how things are with you / OH but I hope you can work through things together. couples rarely agree on everything (that old adage of opposites attract and all that) and things must be incredibly stressful on you both with three little ones and a serious illness to deal with (not anyone's fault, but just the way things unfortunately are). People often cope with things in diff ways and sometimes what may seem like a lack of support is someone's way of keeping their feelings bottled up because they don't want to add to their partners burden. Perhaps OH isn't showing an interest in the debt busting because he thinks there's enough to deal with atm, or perhaps it's taking him longer to have a light bulb moment? I could be totally off the mark and he could just be a miserable g*t. I know it can be hard, but try to think about the reasons you are together and what brought you together in the first place xx

off to subscribe now.

Its not so much the support side of things (he works full time so I don't expect the help around the house/kids etc) Or the debt he wont understand really its all in my name only. Thank you for replying/subscribing I'm rather boring be warned :rotfl:

notanewuser

rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

mmmm difficult on WTFI and I will say before saying anything I'm not the best for relationship advice as I'm very set in my ways & stubborn!

I'd say .... work at it if you can - if it's the only "bad thing" then try to work around it .... does he do it daily / weekly / monthly .... is there something you can do to distract yourself when he's doing it (will depend on whether it's in the house or away somewhere else) etc

If at all possible ... I'd say try to stick things out - being single is hard .... being single and ill is really hard ..... being single, ill and having young kids to look after .... really, really tough ..... (((hugs)))

He smokes weed around her and their children and doesn't want to stop.

Which bit of that can be "worked at"?