"Sealed Pot Challenge ~ No 6"

jakes-mum

ooo and 2p roadkill found outside the post office today looooooooooooove other peoples money

crimson.addict

jakes-mum wrote: »

He'll get there he just needs a bit more 'help' from me :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I'm not a smoker, but i don't understand how someone could go back to smoking once they have given up for a while. Surely it would just make it harder to quit each time. And he knows he will quit cause you say so!

My friends are currently quitting and he said the hardest will be sitting outside in the summer but i don't see how he could give up giving up as it would have been months and months by then......

You smoking people confuse me! lol


On a potting note: i found £2 odd in my holding purse today that i didn't know i had

System

little_sweetie wrote: »

Hi rosy why don't you try something similar on your OH? Try tempting him with something he really wants and could have if he only gave up the ciggies? It's no good for you breathing in his second hand smoke either :eek:

SusanneCape wrote: »

rosyq, when all else fails, why not get him to try electronic cigarettes to get over the worst? They don't smell, they don't contain any harmful chemicals and they seems to do the trick, surprisingly for heavy smokers. And best of all, they are waayyyyyyy cheaper than cigarettes :eek:. That really helped me and I am now relying less and less on the electronic cigs. Left mine at home this morning, but am not too bothered (yet !).

Let me know if you need any further info and all the best.

jakes-mum wrote: »

Its always the guilt trip that gets him rather than the lecture and I always like to catch him off his guard so he has no time to prepare a counter arguement :rotfl:.

As we are now debt free we were supposed to start getting £30 pocket money a month, hes been getting his but this month I couldnt afford to have mine so I just made a quiet point that it wasnt really fair that he not only got HIS pocket money to spend on whatever he wanted, money to go to the pub and then took MY pocket money to buy himself fags, especially as at the moment im contributing way more money than him to the household and when it was t'other way round I went without to make sure he got a couple of quid in his pocket for the pub .

I also like to throw in a carefully worded 'so justify to me taking food out of your childrens mouths/shoes off their feet/clothes fof their backs so you can smoke as they need *enter needed thing here* and I cant afford it as someone spent £30 on fags last month that I hadnt budgetted for. Give me a good reason and i'll never mention it again . . .' This is normally when he gives in and we get a few months non smoking before the secret trips to the shed start again but I see it as every day he doesnt go to the shed is another £1 back in the house fund .

He'll get there he just needs a bit more 'help' from me :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You see that's why I like this thread, people care about each other

OH would like me to stop eating chocolate cos he says its bad for me so I've tried the 'you give up fags and I'll give up chocolate' tack but no luck there.
We don't share finances so I can't use jakes-mums lecture sadly cos its a goodun
If he wants something he just buys it so no leverage there
I've suggested the electronic ciggies they seem a good idea maybe I'll try again with those. Bottom line is he doesn't want to give up cos he likes smoking, my dad was the same and even him dying of lung cancer didn't affect OH.
I'm making him sound bad but he's really not, he's loving & kind & generous & hard working so I sort of see this as his one vice and maybe we're all allowed one?
Thanks though for the thoughts, I'll keep plugging away cos I know it's not good for him.

rock_queen

found 12p in coppers in the carpark. Their loss my gain!!! whoever throws money away must be mad. Well what can I say? every little helps!

haybel19

potted £2 today :j:j:j

mossy

Had to nip into L so have another 8p to the pot plus £1 for a Mossys market purchase.

Verityemilia

Potted a few coins today ... Going to really try hard this month

Sue-UU

Bunny82 wrote: »

Well, we couldn't help ourselves so we cracked open the full tin a week ago and I took it into the bank to feed into the change machine. Grand total was £74.56! Previously grumpy OH was definitely impressed, so much so he sourced a bigger tin from the £1 shop to start all over again. :rotfl:

Bunny. being as you've already banked your savings would you kindly put the amount saved onto your signature, thank you. Great saving! :T

I hope you enjoyed Les Mis, Helen, not seen it myself yet, but definitely will when it's on TV.

Verityemilia wrote: »

Hi Bunny82 ... Which banks have change machines?

Most have them, Verityemilia, ask when you go in so you know for November.

little_sweetie wrote:

Hi rosy why don't you try something similar on your OH? Try tempting him with something he really wants and could have if he only gave up the ciggies? It's no good for you breathing in his second hand smoke either :eek:

LC 2 and little_sweetie, forgot to say yesterday (LC 2), very well done on your DH's having given up smoking!!!! :T :T They did terrifically!

Quitting smoking is terribly hard, though to be honest, only those who have smoked can ever understand what it's like to stop smoking.....or not to be able to! Even going without one for that very first morning is extremely hard and I'd urge you all to encourage your loved ones who smoke; nagging and lectures will never work - not long term anyway!

little_sweetie, you have the right idea as the thought of being able to buy something your DH really wanted/needed was enough to get him through. I smoked for years and finally cracked it on Christmas Day 1998 after cutting right down to 2 per day which I had in the evening! Little point to that after all so I thought "If I can manage all day without any, I'll do so full stop!" I would never go back to it - ever, but some have real struggles even after a few months and stress is usually the reason..or too much alcohol!

Spur him on, jakes-mum, but be careful as it is very hard!

If anyone on here wants/needs help with stopping smoking please have a look at my quitting thread "My Quitting Smoking Diary - yours too!" on DFW diaries; I've been helping folk quit on MSE for around 5 years and will gladly help others.

crimson.addict wrote: »

I'm not a smoker, but i don't understand how someone could go back to smoking once they have given up for a while. Surely it would just make it harder to quit each time. And he knows he will quit cause you say so!

My friends are currently quitting and he said the hardest will be sitting outside in the summer but i don't see how he could give up giving up as it would have been months and months by then......

You smoking people confuse me! lol

It's difficult I know, Ruth, I wouldn't be able to understand what it would be like to stop drinking, gambling etc, we can't be expected to, but to those who battle with doing so - it is very difficult and requires much courage and willpower. Mostly though, it's the thoughts of doing so that are far worse, especially "however will I manage without them?" Taking it up again? In the initial weeks and months it's hard at times of stress not to buckle, but stress won't help at all, often it has the opposite effect and makes folk smoke even more as the drugs back in the system.

Your friend might be fine once he's got that far ahead (to be sitting outside) but I bet it's the fear that it will be bad for him that worries him far more right now. Fear of the unknown affect us all - in different ways.

Well done, Susanne!!!! How far have you gone without those 'orrible fags now? Surely it has to be nigh on 3 months?

More fantastic saving going on here, everyone, keep up with it.

Sue x

Anyone wishing to join, please just ask, you're more than welcome, it's never too late.There may be a lot of us, but don't feel intimidated, we're a lovely lot, so come on in.:grinheart

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Bambisbelle

Lonely 1p for me found the blighter hiding behind the fluff

jakes-mum

crimson.addict wrote: »

I'm not a smoker, but i don't understand how someone could go back to smoking once they have given up for a while. Surely it would just make it harder to quit each time. And he knows he will quit cause you say so!

My friends are currently quitting and he said the hardest will be sitting outside in the summer but i don't see how he could give up giving up as it would have been months and months by then......

You smoking people confuse me! lol

Im an ex smoker (much to my parents horror as I wouldnt even have a babysitter who smoked when I was a child :eek:) and I really dont understand people who say they are addicted. I decided one day I didnt want to smoke anymore, threw my packet on the table and never went back to them. DH on the other hand is horrible (and I mean REALLY horrible) when he gives up fags as he craves the nicotine so badly *shrugs*

The main problem we have is that he doesn't see himself as a smoker as he only has one once in a while (think my answer to that was 'whatever you ejit') I'll give him his dues as he was a 20 - 40 a day man when I met him, but i'd still like him completely smoke free .

rosyq wrote: »

You see that's why I like this thread, people care about each other

OH would like me to stop eating chocolate cos he says its bad for me so I've tried the 'you give up fags and I'll give up chocolate' tack but no luck there.
We don't share finances so I can't use jakes-mums lecture sadly cos its a goodun
If he wants something he just buys it so no leverage there
I've suggested the electronic ciggies they seem a good idea maybe I'll try again with those. Bottom line is he doesn't want to give up cos he likes smoking, my dad was the same and even him dying of lung cancer didn't affect OH.
I'm making him sound bad but he's really not, he's loving & kind & generous & hard working so I sort of see this as his one vice and maybe we're all allowed one?
Thanks though for the thoughts, I'll keep plugging away cos I know it's not good for him.

I did buy DH an ecigarette and it did help him give up, his dad has also just quit (and hes smoked for well over 50 years :eek::eek:) he also has an ecigarette and hasnt reachd for the tobacco since he put the pack down. Its alot harder to get them to quit when they dont want too, DH does actually want to be a non smoker but the lure of that god darned weed still gets its claws on him :mad: when I used to lecture him (and his dad . . no-one escapes me) and they didnt want to quit it was like talking to a brick wall, heart disease happens to other people, we've never had cancer in this family, ive smoked for years with no problems blah blah blah.

I do think his dad quite liked me telling him off every time I saw him though, he knew it meant I cared . I did get him to go outside in his own house to smoke though when I had our son :rotfl: even DH's mum was gobsmacked as he had always smoked round all the grandchildren, but I wasnt having it with my kid :rotfl: