gap between classing dates and interview.

TOBRUK

studentphil wrote: »

I am 21. I am an adult. My parents do look after me, but I have always had independence in my school life and at university.

I know the best thing I could do really is to move far far away from my parents and to an area where no one knows me and to have a fresh and independant life all on my own.

That is a bit extreme isn't it? You are 21 and with support there is nothing stopping you moving into a place of your own and be completely independant is there, if that is what you want. Why move to somewhere where nobody knows you?! You have a disability, that does not stop you living your life apart from your parents does it?

Need_More_Money_2

TOBRUK wrote: »

That is a bit extreme isn't it? You are 21 and with support there is nothing stopping you moving into a place of your own and be completely independant is there, if that is what you want. Why move to somewhere where nobody knows you?! You have a disability, that does not stop you living your life apart from your parents does it?

Moving away might not be such a bad idea. He seems to base so many things on what his friends or parents will think. Being further away might force independence.

Need_More_Money_2

studentphil wrote: »

I am 21. I am an adult. My parents do look after me, but I have always had independence in my school life and at university.

I know the best thing I could do really is to move far far away from my parents and to an area where no one knows me and to have a fresh and independant life all on my own.

Why do they look after you at 21? Is that because of your disability?

studentphil

Need_More_Money wrote: »

I know what you mean but surely there are loads of places that you can get to easily by public transport? Are you just afraid to try new things?

I can drive, so if I found an out of town job then that would be no problem. However, I am just thinking if I got a job in the city centre considering that it takes an hour from my house to get to town on the bus I do not want to have to be getting more buses after that or it will take me forever to get there and home on a night.

studentphil

TOBRUK wrote: »

That is a bit extreme isn't it? You are 21 and with support there is nothing stopping you moving into a place of your own and be completely independant is there, if that is what you want. Why move to somewhere where nobody knows you?! You have a disability, that does not stop you living your life apart from your parents does it?

I just think it might be a good idea to get away from seeing the people I want to school with everytime I go out and that would be an answer to my comparing desires between them and me as I just would not know anything about them.

I am sure i could manage to live on my own but at least a small physcal distance between me and my parents in location would give me freedom as I think if I lived too near them they would come around all the time.

studentphil

Need_More_Money wrote: »

Why do they look after you at 21? Is that because of your disability?

I could survive on my own but I do need my parents to help me with somethings like I can not do somethings in cooking like peeling potatoes and I can iron a shirt but I need my Mum to do my trousers and sew buttons on and that sort of thing.. I do not need major looking after but help with small things.

But maybe when your trousers are falling down as the button has come off it is major:rotfl:

Need_More_Money_2

studentphil wrote: »

I could survive on my own but I do need my parents to help me with somethings like I can not do somethings in cooking like peeling potatoes and I can iron a shirt but I need my Mum to do my trousers and sew buttons on and that sort of thing.. I do not need major looking after but help with small things.

But maybe when your trousers are falling down as the button has come off it is major:rotfl:

Because of your disability or because you just don't know how to do it?
One day you will have to manage without them (your parents, not your trousers)

studentphil

Need_More_Money wrote: »

Because of your disability or because you just don't know how to do it?
One day you will have to manage without them

I can not use a peeler or thread a needle because my hands are not stead enough.

I know one day my parents will die, one day I will die, but you do not think about these things too much. I do not know the future and what help I will have after my parents, who knows what the longer term brings?

annie-c

studentphil wrote: »

I could survive on my own but I do need my parents to help me with somethings like I can not do somethings in cooking like peeling potatoes and I can iron a shirt but I need my Mum to do my trousers and sew buttons on and that sort of thing.. I do not need major looking after but help with small things.

But maybe when your trousers are falling down as the button has come off it is major:rotfl:

Lots of people have fine motor problems and there are aids that you can buy to help. You can get kitchen gadgets that scrape potatoes, for exapmple. And gadgets to help you thread a needle. How do you think other people with motor problems cope?

Lots of people these days can't sew and either use a repair shop or keep their clothes to one side until they can pass them to someone who can help. Or do them slowly and not get het up about whether things are perfect.

Need_More_Money_2

studentphil wrote: »

I can not use a peeler or thread a needle because my hands are not stead enough.

I know one day my parents will die, one day I will die, but you do not think about these things too much. I do not know the future and what help I will have after my parents, who knows what the longer term brings?

I suspect you will need to manage without them long before then!

And surely it is not that often that you need buttons sewing back onto your trousers. (unless you have women ripping them off? )