Help! Pregnant

ScaredNConfused

Am I a bad person? I feel like one

[Deleted User]

Hi,

wow, stop, you are not a bad person.

You've got your friend to help you through this, she knows the story.

Here's another wee story from a while ago, with a happy ending.

Be happy.

ScaredNConfused

I feel like a bad person though. It will destroy my relationship with my boyfriend. I know he will be mad at me for not telling him. He will hate me.

I just want to cry and be hugged by him telling me its ok.

jaqui59

Did he know you were going out with friends to a nightclub, or had you told him something else?

ecoelle

Hi. A similar thing happened to my friend. She did did not get pregnant but the vile rapist passed on an infection to her. She was very scared of telling her boyfriend too, but eventually with the help of a councelor (sp) she did and although he was angry he was never angry with her. He was angry with the man who had hurt her and with himself for not being able to protect her but not angry with her, They managed, with the help of a rape councilling charity, to move on and are still a very happy couple planning their wedding.

I know you must be incredibly scared, and you must be having very intense feelings of wanting things to go away, but, unless you face this you will have even more problems to deal with. Try to take things one step at a time. Firstly, get the support of your friend and ring rapecrisis, maybe ask her to be with you while you do, or let her know thatyou are going to contact them so she can be around on the end of the phone if you need to talk to her after. Secondly, take their advice and try to stay as calm as you can. You can deal with this and you can move on and you can have a brilliant relationship with your boyfriend after this, you will feel like you can't cope but you are an amazing person to have got this far and you can beat this, you will survive.

x

ScaredNConfused

jaqui59 wrote: »

Did he know you were going out with friends to a nightclub, or had you told him something else?

I told him I was going to a nightclub, He always tells me to be safe and to either call him or reverse the charge from a payphone and he will come get us if we didn't feel safe etc.

ecoelle

It doesn't matter what you told him, you need help and support and lots of it so please make sure you get it. If a termination is what you want then you need to get in touch with your GP as soon as possible and they will offer you support too. Please, please do not try and go through this on your own. x

ScaredNConfused

My boyfriend will ask why I'm going to the doctors and worry about me. I'm just so so so scared.

I just want it all to go away

MissKeith

You have a PM.

Saturnalia

Your boyfriend won't be angry with you. It sounds like he loves you a great deal. He'll be angry at the scum who attacked you, and maybe angry with himself for not noticing something was wrong. It doesn't sound like he'll throw you out, he'll want to stay and help you through this.