Help! Pregnant

ScaredNConfused

I've been with my current partner for 10 years, We met in school and been together either as friends then later as couple. I am not blowing my own trumpet here or anything but he worships the ground I walk on, He (against my better judgement) gets up every morning at 6 to make my lunch for work, run me a bath and bring me breakfast in bed as I just recently got a job.

Earlier this week I did a pregnancy test. I found out I was pregnant, but its not my boyfriends. I was out with my friends and I was raped in a nightclub. I haven't told my boyfriend, My best friend knows and she has been helping me get through it.

I haven't told my boyfriend yet, When I do he will leave me and never speak to me again, he will hate me, I love him to bits, he won't want anything to do with me again

Please help

jaqui59

How old are you?

ScaredNConfused

I'm 26 and he is 27

Amanda65

I am so very sorry to hear what you have been through. You need to tell your boyfriend about the rape, with your best friend if you need the support, and report it to the police.

I am sure your boyfriend will be hurt (for you), angry (with the rapist) and devastated that he wasn't there to protect you but if you love each other as much as you say you do it surely has to be worth trying to get through this together.

And contact Rape Crisis for support and advice

http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/

gibson123

I am so sorry this has happened to you. Get in touch with Rape Crisis and speak to your doctor immediately. If you are raped you need to get checked for STI's and internal damage, you could be putting your partner at risk. You will also get proper advice on how to deal with the pregnancy and how to talk to you partner about what has happened.

ScaredNConfused

I'm scared my boyfriend will throw me out and never speak to me again. I'm really scared to tell him. Not that he is bad but he will be angry. I just want it to go away.

I'm sorry for going on I just want it to all go away

ScaredNConfused

Is RapeCrisis completely private to talk to, I don't want anyone knowing, It won't show up on my bill will it if I call them.

Carl31

how do you know its not your bf's?

ScaredNConfused

Carl31 wrote: »

how do you know its not your bf's?

We haven't had sex in months. I preferred cuddling up instead of that.

[Deleted User]

Hi,

so sorry about your predicament.

Not very acquaint about things, but if you know now that you are pregnant, things must've happened some time ago?

ScaredNConfused

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,

so sorry about your predicament.

Not very acquaint about things, but if you know now that you are pregnant, things must've happened some time ago?

It did, I've been blocking it from my mind

It was recently my boyfriends birthday, I was so close to telling him but I'd have ruined it and I didn't want to. I'm just scared of it all