Clearing debts, keeping well and sorting myself out...

Kepp

Difficult one Emz - can see both sides really.

Maybe your sister is angry at the situation and taking it out on your Mum as she's not sure what to do now?

I can quite see why your Mum doesn't feel up to doing 25 hours a week!

Could that maybe be a job for you? Your sister could pay you half what she would pay a nursery say? Then you earn money, your sister doesn't pay full price and your Mum gets to relax and put her feet up!

Emzilla

beccie wrote: »

Difficult one Emz - can see both sides really.

Maybe your sister is angry at the situation and taking it out on your Mum as she's not sure what to do now?

I can quite see why your Mum doesn't feel up to doing 25 hours a week!

Could that maybe be a job for you? Your sister could pay you half what she would pay a nursery say? Then you earn money, your sister doesn't pay full price and your Mum gets to relax and put her feet up!

I have suggested that I look after my nephew instead. The only problem is that if I became ill then I wouldn't be able to do it. Plus I already look after my niece in the morning and then drop her off and pick her up from school.

We have settled on me being here with my mum when she's looking after my nephew and seeing if that makes a different.

I do think my sister is being slightly selfish. My mum looked after my niece up until my sister finished work to have my nephew. Plus she has looked after my nephew for over a year. All she seems concerned about is losing money and not about my mum's health. My nephew isn't due to go to school for another 2.5 years, and my mum will be 70 by then.

Emz xx

Emzilla

So, first day of trying to 'keep the peace' between my sister and my mum. It's not going great as I'm trying to do my work and all my nephew wants me to do is play with his toys with him. My sister barely spoke to my mum when she dropped him off and vice versa. All I want to do is tell them to sort it out and go home. But my conscious won't allow me to do that. I don't want my mum getting upset by it all.

At least my eye is better now - I've even got my contacts back in

Emz xx

Kepp

Maybe a quiet word with your sister might help?

That's very unfair - she should be speaking to your Mum when she drops him off!

Emzilla

beccie wrote: »

Maybe a quiet word with your sister might help?

That's very unfair - she should be speaking to your Mum when she drops him off!

My sister is so stubborn, she doesn't listen. On Sunday I was trying to get her to see my mum's point of view and I literally had to shout at her to get her to listen to me. I think that's why she clashes with my mum a lot - they are both very similar. I'm more like my dad - laid back.

She was civil to my mum, but they didn't really say much to each other. Be interesting to see if she stays for a bit when she picks him up (she usually does for a bit).

Emz xx

beanielou

I think your mum is quite right.
My mum is 70 & just wouldent do that.
Your sister could surely make other arrangements for at least part of the time.
If she could not afford childcare maybe that should have been considered.The joys of families~not!!

Emzilla

beanielou wrote: »

I think your mum is quite right.
My mum is 70 & just wouldent do that.
Your sister could surely make other arrangements for at least part of the time.
If she could not afford childcare maybe that should have been considered.The joys of families~not!!

I know Lou, my mum is right. If my dad were still around, he wouldn't stand for any of it and would tell my sister to face her responsibilities.

She reckons my nephew will go to pre-school in September, so it's a case of lasting until then. Still means my mum would have to look after him 2 mornings a week and I'll be a chauffeur and before and after school carer for my niece.

I think they should have thought about all this before they bought a house at the very top of their budget.

Emz xx

beanielou

I so agree.
It's a long time til Sept for your poor mum.
I know how expensive childcare is as my friend is a childminder.
Your sister is very lucky~I hope that she appreciates it.

Emzilla

World War III rages on. My sister did stay yesterday for 30 minutes or so. Her and my mum didn't really speak to each other in that time. Awkward!! She then called me last night asking what was wrong with mum etc etc. I just told her to speak to mum in the end. I did suggest that she looked for another job closer to home (she works 45 minutes away) but all I got was 'I'm not giving up my job'. I'm not a parent, and will never be, but I thought one of the words that came hand in hand with kids was sacrifice?

Getting so fed up of being stuck in the middle. Wish my dad was here .

Emz xx

beanielou

It is very unfair of your sister.
I will say no more :rotfl: