divorced couples - how often do you see your kids?

Errata

I don’t live in America but you’re right that I’m not in the UK. But since I’m not asking a legal question, I’mnot sure that countries really matter in this

So where do you live? In other posts you talk about different states and that the father gives $5000 a month to support his children.
Different countries do matter, different countries have different cultures and different ways of nurturing and behaving towards offspring and children in general.

daska

Excitement at the prospect of a sibling is perfectly normal and understandable. Unfortunately expectations, desires and reality aren't always in sync and at 11 and 13 their expectations and desires are likely to change rapidly as they become more independent. You probably need to assume that whatever is decided, even giving them plenty of thinking time, will need to be revisited regularly to take account of that.

sharrison778

daska wrote: »

Excitement at the prospect of a sibling is perfectly normal and understandable. Unfortunately expectations, desires and reality aren't always in sync and at 11 and 13 their expectations and desires are likely to change rapidly as they become more independent. You probably need to assume that whatever is decided, even giving them plenty of thinking time, will need to be revisited regularly to take account of that.

True.

We have bedrooms for them both at our place. When they get a bit older, I hope they'll make their own decision when they want to come and go. We live in a bigger city with more to do, so they might even want to bring a friend up for a mini holiday. But thats all a few years down the track.

FastCash

It's so thoughtful of you to negotiate on your husband's behalf regarding the schedule of visiting his kids. You are a sweet step-mum, I wish there will be more like you