just after opinions and a moan! am i being unfair being annoyed at husband?

londonsurrey

Have you tried making a big deal about how his friend is a real find, and you've really got to introduce him to single friends, as a lot of women would find such a strong caring considerate man quite sexy?

Any

I got lost with another man on my OH's school reunion do (the man was also just spouse, so he had no idea where we are either) and while EVERYONE was worried about us my OH (or his OH for that matter) weren't one single bit..
My OH said "you obviously don't know my wife very well, she can kill with one look, hell I wouldn't cross her"
For some reason I took it as compliment.. And really I am not that bad!!
But he knows I am not that type to be affraid to ask people for directions or affraid to speak to anyone.

Though at a concert full of worked up mass of people I might be looking at it a bit differently..

Just to add to explain - we were moving accross a town from one location to another and took wrong turn.. Following people we thought belong with us but they didn't!!

princeofpounds

Whilst it's a little neglectful in that you weren't the focus of his evening, I'm not sure that wandering around looking for you would actually have been that productive. You could easily have passed each other in the crowd and both wandered around for the entirety of the rest of the show.

Once you left on your own without a rendezvous plan there wasn't much else he could really do apart from stick to the one spot you both knew you could meet, although it seems he probably wasn't really thinking about it in those terms.

After all, you found your way back before his mate actually found you.

It's pretty normal at concerts/festivals to have people peel off for whatever reason and either get themselves back in position or not make their way back to the front until a suitable break.

The only difference here is that you are a couple which I suppose might hold you to a higher standard of care. But then again him accompanying you to the loo would be quite nannying as well.

So if I were you, I'd be feeling a bit down, but I'm not sure I could be that angry either. It's not like you arranged anything else except to meet at that spot once again.

heartbreak_star

I really don't think I'd be bothered, but I don't think any of my lot stick together at gigs!

HBS x

scooby088

loulou123 wrote: »

Am I being unfair being pretty annoyed over following situation...

Me and husband went to a rock concert last night, with 2 of his work mates (who I had never met before) I love this sort of thing, but I was abit nervous of 1 of the bands as their crowds are known to be fairly "aggressive." Hubby was aware of this.

Anyway half way through this bands set, I needed a wee, hubby said he didn't want to miss the music, so I went off reluctantly by myself damning my bladder on the way!

When I tried to re enter the concert, the crowd was really worked up and I couldn't find them, so I stood at the back, waiting for the crowd to calm down.

30 mins later, the band went off stage and I made my way back to them, my hubby was oblivious to fact I'd been gone for nearly 45 mins and when I asked him where his friend was he said "he was worried about you, so went off to look!" Apparently his mate had got really worried as the crowd was kicking off and my hubby (this is what husband told me!) Had told him "she'll be fine and will make it back eventually!"

Can't believe a man I barely knew came looking and husband didn't! And that he wasn't remotely concerned and even tried to talk his friend out of looking for me.

Am I petty for feeling really annoyed about this?

Sort answer to your question is YES...and if you are annoyed don't goto a rock concert again with your OH.

loulou123

princeofpounds wrote: »

Once you left on your own without a rendezvous plan there wasn't much else he could really do apart from stick to the one spot you both knew you could meet, although it seems he probably wasn't really thinking about it in those terms.

After all, you found your way back before his mate actually found you.

It's pretty normal at concerts/festivals to have people peel off for whatever reason and either get themselves back in position or not make their way back to the front until a suitable break.

The only difference here is that you are a couple which I suppose might hold you to a higher standard of care. But then again him accompanying you to the loo would be quite nannying as well.

So if I were you, I'd be feeling a bit down, but I'm not sure I could be that angry either. It's not like you arranged anything else except to meet at that spot once again.

But we did arrange to meet up at the bar at back of venue (where I was waiting) he just didn't come and find me even during the break in bands!

tizerbelle

loulou123 wrote: »

But we did arrange to meet up at the bar at back of venue (where I was waiting) he just didn't come and find me even during the break in bands!

Now remember he's a fella. Did you specifically arrange to meet up during the breaks if you got seperated or just a generic - "if we get seperated we'll meet at the bar"?

If the latter, then in his mind he'll likely have heard "if we lose each other we'll meet at the bar after the gig is over"

midnightraven3

maybe he said he was going to look for you, and his mate said i am going to find the toilets, so i will look while i am going anyway?

loulou123

tizerbelle wrote: »

Now remember he's a fella. Did you specifically arrange to meet up during the breaks if you got seperated or just a generic - "if we get seperated we'll meet at the bar"?

If the latter, then in his mind he'll likely have heard "if we lose each other we'll meet at the bar after the gig is over"

LOL it was the latter...if we get separated we'll meet at the bar, so yes he would've properly come their to find me at the end or when his pint ran out!

loulou123

midnightraven3 wrote: »

maybe he said he was going to look for you, and his mate said i am going to find the toilets, so i will look while i am going anyway?

Nope according to my husband his mate became worried as the crowd got so excited and a bit aggressive and he insisted he was going looking for me, even tho hubby told him not to bother as I'd be fine and can look after myself!

Fair enough I can as I've been going to concerts for years and I wasn't expecting hubby to panic and start rushing around looking for me, just to show a little concern! or even send me a text asking if I was ok...