just after opinions and a moan! am i being unfair being annoyed at husband?

luxor4t

Idiophreak wrote: »

..... If the mate says "should we go look for your wife?" and you say "nah, she'll be around somewhere"...

... your friend starts to think he has has better manners than you?

God, I'm old fashioned

Idiophreak

luxor4t wrote: »

... your friend starts to think he has has better manners than you?

God, I'm old fashioned

I don't think it's got anything to do with being old fashioned, or having good manners for that matter.

When I was little, my sister was late home from school one day. I said "mum! I'm going to go look for her!" and my mum said "it's OK, she was probably just late out of..." Whatever she was doing that day...I don't remember. Now, being an "old fashioned", "well mannered" type, I headed out to look for her anyway. Of course, she was sat at home with her tea and crumpets when I got back from looking for her.

...So, in your world, my mum had bad manner, right? For not going to look for my sister with me?

ska_lover

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I really don't see your logic. The method of taking your husband worked fine, you say yourself you have been going to gigs for years and so he would have expected you to be able to go to the loo by yourself. And lo and behold, you met up when you were able to and everything worked out well.

Are you seriously saying that if you go to a rough gig again and make your way to the bar you expect your hubby to spend all the gig wandering round looking for you? And why is it him that has to text you? You could have just texted - 'I'm at the bar, will stop here til it calms down' - problem solved.

I totally agree with Sambucus

The OP's post seems very selfish. He was expected to leave his mates, and the stage area while a band was on, to trail after his missus so she could go for a wee! I would hate for my hubby to feel he had to babysit for me in this way

luxor4t

Idiophreak - wrong.

My post was about your remarks about the OP's incident with her husband, not with an incident in your distant past.

Idiophreak

luxor4t wrote: »

Idiophreak - wrong.

My post was about your remarks about the OP's incident with her husband, not with an incident in your distant past.

Whatever....

System

It wouldn't bother me, when i went to gigs with exes i just left them too it. I'm not keen on mosh pits after nearly dying in one , so i always just stood to the side or the back and found them after. I would never expect them to come searching for me.

loulou123

ska_lover wrote: »

I totally agree with Sambucus

The OP's post seems very selfish. He was expected to leave his mates, and the stage area while a band was on, to trail after his missus so she could go for a wee! I would hate for my hubby to feel he had to babysit for me in this way

Just for the record I never expected nor asked him to come with me to the loo, nor babysit me in anyway (or his friend for that matter) but if the situation was reversed and he disappeared for nearly an hour I would be a little concerned and send a text to check he was ok, not because I was babying him, but because he's fairly new to concerts and occasionally people do get hurt at gigs but mainly because he's my husband and I love him - if that makes me selfish then I'm happy to be!

Anyway its all forgotten now, so whether it was OTT of me to be annoyed doesn't matter to much, thanks for all the opinions.

Ruby_woo

I had no idea what moshing is so had to you tube it.

Its hellish and I'm sure people won't agree with me but !!!!!! is it all about.

Can your husband not take you out to dinner? I'm no prude but not for me.

He would have stood no chance in finding you. I had palpitations watching it.

duchy

If it was only his second gig and you are an experienced concert goer perhaps HE was the one who needed support and reassurance as he was nervous at the thought of fighting through the crowds ? Sorry but if you can handle a gig with your mates I don't understand why you turn into bone china just because your partner comes along. If you wouldn't be miffed if your friends didn't look for you -why be miffed with him ?????

ska_lover

loulou123 wrote: »

Just for the record I never expected nor asked him to come with me to the loo, nor babysit me in anyway (or his friend for that matter) but if the situation was reversed and he disappeared for nearly an hour I would be a little concerned and send a text to check he was ok, not because I was babying him, but because he's fairly new to concerts and occasionally people do get hurt at gigs but mainly because he's my husband and I love him - if that makes me selfish then I'm happy to be!

Anyway its all forgotten now, so whether it was OTT of me to be annoyed doesn't matter to much, thanks for all the opinions.

Hmm, thread entitled ''after opinions...'' yet not really wanting to accept any opinions that are not a reflection of your own.

Tell your husband I said good luck!