Christmas presents I have 4 kids buying presents for brother in law with 2

OrkneyStar

sarahemmiehowell wrote: »

Putting it like that your right thank you

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The funny thing is, kids are quite often more taken by the small gift, than the expensive fancy one- seen it time and time again!
Am sure you'll do just fine .

ETA Have a look at the Amazon Top Deals too, might be something nice in there?

OrkneyStar

good_advice wrote: »

Hi Sarah, again...
Glad you like my bubble bath idea.
It is a difficult time as so many children will be getting the likes of laptops, phones, kindles Gm straighteners and all very costly things.

I had this with my young niece a few years ago... I gave everybody's children as it was a big family gathering....a Thorntons chocolate kiddies hamper £15 . Well this one little girl about 8 years old threw our gift on the floor in disgust. Parents gave their kids their old laptops.Mum jumped up of course to retrieve gift but the damage was done.
Now we swap gift vouches every year, £10 voucher per child as we both have 3, now young adults.

That is so sad, as a child we were taught to say thank you to any gift, and receive it with a smile, even if it wasn't quite what we expected to wanted! Vouchers are a good idea imho, especially for older kids, as they can put it toward something more expensive if they like. DS is getting a big electronic present (family gift we can all use, but really will be his!), so he understands the rest will be small gifts. While I don't burden him as such with money issues, we are being careful to instill in him the value of money, and also how Grandma does not need to send him pocket money or gifts, and she does it from kindness and love and we should NEVER expect it. Sadly I think some parents forget to do this. Of course I am sure it won't all be plain sailing with DS, but I hope folk understand the general drift of this.

Seh1985

Ill see if I can find any deals on the lego and I'm going to aim around the £20 mark and get my kids to aim for a few £5 to £10 presents then its up to them what they pick from the list, joint presents dont go down too in my house so will try avoid that, thanks for all the replies and I have changed my way of thinking about spending extra on them because I have more children
Thanks poet123 I though the Santa comment was uncalled for

balletshoes

sarahemmiehowell wrote: »

Hi I'm really not sure what to spend on my oh brothers children for Christmas, we have asked them what they want and they both want lego, we have 4 children aged 7 5 3 and 1 and they have asked what our children want, now don't all hate on me and think I'm being picky snobby or anything of the sort but I'd rather my kids get a few nice presents than loads of tat! I'm not asking to be criticised I'm asking for advice. What would be a reasonable amount to ask to be spent on each of my kids as I don't want to ask for something that is unreasonable? I had in mind I'd ask for about a £20 present each for mine as that's what if we ask for money for presents they tend to give and then spend 40 each on there two I don't particularly get on with his side and I know christmas isn't supposed to boil down to who spent what but I just want to be fair and not to ask for too much I hate this side of Christmas!

everyone is different, and deals with this in a different way. In our family (I have one child, my sisters have 2 each, my brother has one) all the nieces/nephews get roughly the same spent on each other by all of us siblings. We all spend around £25 usually on Xmas presents for each niece/nephew.

In my opinion - unless you are specifically asked what your kids want for Christmas, you don't get a say in what they're given by relatives or friends.

If I am asked what my DD wants for Christmas, I give my sisters a couple of ideas each (they're good at looking for bargains) and leave them to it.

good_advice

Sarah, I think you will do well with what ever you decide.

Here we have told our 3 now all in their 20's. It is upto £30 each on a gift for Christmas and birthdays. It use to be £100 but now with the cost of living - 2 live at home. Me not working much things have to change. They accept it and all have full time jobs so can buy what they want.

Best wishes...

SingleSue

Between myself and my siblings, we don't have an agreed per child spend, we just spend to what our personal means are. So when I was with my husband and in a dual income family, we spent much more on my sibling's children than they did on ours (not in a showing off way and always done in agreement with the parents I hasten to add), didn't bother us, we liked to see the happy faces from both children and parents!

We may say what our own personal budget is for each child and ask if they have any ideas if the child has anything on their list within that budget but we don't say, for example, that we will all spend £10 per child or as one sibling has less children, then that child will get more spent on them (as it is, we each have 3 children now, last christmas it was a different story)

For the record, my spend for nieces and nephews this Christmas is £8 per child, my sister's is between £5 and £8 and similar for my brother but if I (or my siblings) can get something cheaper than that, then I/we do.

All the gifts are well thought out and are def not tat....I have even managed to pick up an unused, still in box UKelele for my niece for the bargain price of £8! Something she really really wants as she adores my middle son and his musical ability and wants to emulate that.

FatVonD

I think you've been very thoughtful, OP, I can't believe some of the replies you've got

victory

sarahemmiehowell wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies I hope I get it right, with lego there so much to choose from. Will have a look at the amazon gift list thing to be honest my one year old would love a doll which aren't expensive then just need to get the others to have a think but the bubble bath idea is good will save me money for a few months! I don't mean to be a ba humbug or the grinch I'm just want to get them a nice give and not spoil them or anything and wondered whether the fact that they have to buy for more should be a factor, which I think every one agrees is no.

You keep saying you have no idea about lego and you get little for the money wait until amazon black friday, the lego that goes on there is fab price and well worth waiting for the savings you make
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Black-Friday-http://www.whsmith.co.uk/CatalogAndSearch/SearchResultsAcrossCategories.aspx?gq=lego%20sticker%20bookDeals/b/ref=amb_link_172273027_2?ie=UTF8&node=161428031&pf_rd_m=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&pf_rd_s=right-csm-1&pf_rd_r=0NTGRVFXJ2SYEKMS8QS9&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=341765827&pf_rd_i=468294

or see lego top ten sellers

http://www.squidoo.com/top-10-lego-sets

the amazon gift list or wish list is great as OP have said.

How about the lego sticker book from whsmith

There are all sorts of 20% off whsmith vouchers or spend £15 get £5 off loads of different ones.

victory

Some presents have no monetary value but are worth millions in memories , my son was bought a book oh maybe 9/10 years ago and he still loves it, he has a teddy he was bought as a tiny child that is his absolute favourite, I am sure the giver never once thought of the cost of it, whether it was equally fair between my two or their one, lego is also timeless and whether you buy it at 342 argos or 20% toys r us or half price tesco or black monday no one other than you will know the cost:D

Counting_Pennies_2

I have not seen the other replies but I would suggest putting a variety of items on the list for them varying from £10, up to £25 then they get a choice what to get them, and choose the amount they spend.