Christmas presents I have 4 kids buying presents for brother in law with 2

Lunar_Eclipse

Wickedwitch wrote: »

We got her panto tickets to take her niece, which I know she should love as she really wanted to go last year, but unfortunately the price is clearly displayed on the front.

I think that sounds like the perfect gift and it's very sad if she doesn't see the thought behind it.

Will you see her in person on her birthday? If you do, I think I might be tempted to get very excited when she opens her gift and say things like 'the best things come in small parcels' and 'I know you're going to love it because it's something you really wanted recently', 'it'll probably be your favourite present in fact.':rotfl:

OrkneyStar

sarahemmiehowell wrote: »

Hi I'm really not sure what to spend on my oh brothers children for Christmas, we have asked them what they want and they both want lego, we have 4 children aged 7 5 3 and 1 and they have asked what our children want, now don't all hate on me and think I'm being picky snobby or anything of the sort but I'd rather my kids get a few nice presents than loads of tat! I'm not asking to be criticised I'm asking for advice. What would be a reasonable amount to ask to be spent on each of my kids as I don't want to ask for something that is unreasonable? I had in mind I'd ask for about a £20 present each for mine as that's what if we ask for money for presents they tend to give and then spend 40 each on there two I don't particularly get on with his side and I know christmas isn't supposed to boil down to who spent what but I just want to be fair and not to ask for too much I hate this side of Christmas!

So a total of £80 for his nieces and nephews? IMHO that is way too much, and I'd say £10 max. You can get books, decent sized Lego sets, craft things, a voucher toward something, jigsaws, games, educational things (like from ELC) for £10. Christmas gift giving is also not about being fair and making sure the value adds up, it is about buying a small gift which the recipient will like/want/need. Not meaning to sound harsh, you did ask for opinions .

Seh1985

Thanks for all the replies I hope I get it right, with lego there so much to choose from. Will have a look at the amazon gift list thing to be honest my one year old would love a doll which aren't expensive then just need to get the others to have a think but the bubble bath idea is good will save me money for a few months! I don't mean to be a ba humbug or the grinch I'm just want to get them a nice give and not spoil them or anything and wondered whether the fact that they have to buy for more should be a factor, which I think every one agrees is no.

OrkneyStar

Hope you manage to sort it all out, it's not easy, but am sure if you use your imagination a little, and focus less on the fairness of the cost (within reason of course!) then it will be fine!

flipper_72

For lego gifts have a look at the Grabbit board there is a lego thread where people post all the offers they see - you may be able to get them a £40 set for £20 :-)

mummyroysof3

we have 3 children and both my sister and sil have 2 children each. we usually spend 10-15 per child but tbh it doesnt bother me if i spend a few pounds more as im buying for less children.

mummyroysof3

last day of argos 3 for 2 today btw...taking advantage of offers like that you can spend less than it looks like you have lol

good_advice

Hi Sarah, again...
Glad you like my bubble bath idea.
It is a difficult time as so many children will be getting the likes of laptops, phones, kindles Gm straighteners and all very costly things.

I had this with my young niece a few years ago... I gave everybody's children as it was a big family gathering....a Thorntons chocolate kiddies hamper £15 . Well this one little girl about 8 years old threw our gift on the floor in disgust. Parents gave their kids their old laptops.Mum jumped up of course to retrieve gift but the damage was done.
Now we swap gift vouches every year, £10 voucher per child as we both have 3, now young adults.

poet123

Some of the replies on here surprise me. I have seen many threads where posters are complaining that family members (parents, siblings etc) do not spend an equal amount on all their children, and invariably people post to say the monetary amount should be equal or it is unfair. This poster is trying to be fair monetarily but is being told not to bother!! Personally, I don't like things bought to be shared. We always bought our own children a family game for Christmas, but I always bought individual gifts that I had tailored to the child for my siblings children.

I also spent roughly the same on each child, whether I was buying for three or four. If budget was tight then they all got a slightly cheaper item.

I would also far rather they made a wishlist too, mine still do it! They know that they won't get everything on it, and that there will be additional "surprises" but it is better than buying stuff they have no interest in.

As for there being no "Santa" why take anyone to task for this, how we celebrate Christmas is quite personal and quite frankly no one else's business. Ditto how much is spent and on whom. If you can afford it and give it in the spirit of Christmas it is entirely your own business how much you spend.

Seh1985

OrkneyStar wrote: »

So a total of £80 for his nieces and nephews? IMHO that is way too much, and I'd say £10 max. You can get books, decent sized Lego sets, craft things, a voucher toward something, jigsaws, games, educational things (like from ELC) for £10. Christmas gift giving is also not about being fair and making sure the value adds up, it is about buying a small gift which the recipient will like/want/need. Not meaning to sound harsh, you did ask for opinions .

Putting it like that your right thank you