'supporting each other through really tough times'

Molly41

I would save it for a rainy day or to make up your shortfall x

7_week_wonder

Morning folks,

This is our week off work and we're not going away except next weekend so we're determined to do domestic stuff to get organized.

VJsmum - I feel for you. We had a similar situation a couple of years ago where OH "loaned" his brother a large sum of money. Fortunately OH mentally wrote it off as he was doubtful that we would get it back: and he was proved right. I guess one thing you maybe have to think about is could you afford not to see it again. I hope you and OH manage to sort it out.

Peanut: how about treating yourself to a couple of small luxuries (if it was me I'd go for bubble bath and a book, or maybe a really nice photoframe for a picture of LO) and then save the rest either for a rainy day, or when you are ready to buy clothes again.

Nuttyp I hope you get through the dentist trip and breaking the news about OH's Uncle ok.

Hope everybody's week isn't too tough.

xx

juliettet

Oh Mrs LW, Pushkin is lovely. Maine Coons are made for cuddling. I have a very independent Tortie who does not do cuddles (or much else really) I do envy you him and that beautiful faced Docky.

sevenup01

Morning all.
Nuttyp i am sorry to hear your OH's uncle has passed away.

I have had a very nice weekend and family has been really helpful with stuff like carrying a very big, solid wood chest of draws from the bottom of my town house to the top:)
Eldest daughter has a very nearly finished living room as i was able to wallpaper for her yesterday. Just one more coat of paint on the far wall and then only her bedroom to go. It looks lovely.

MrsL Pushkin is gorgeous! Eldest daughter took her cat home with her yesterday and the house feels a little empty without him - not even two teenage cousins staying has filled the empty spot in the house:(.

VJsmum

7_week_wonder wrote: »

VJsmum - I feel for you. We had a similar situation a couple of years ago where OH "loaned" his brother a large sum of money. Fortunately OH mentally wrote it off as he was doubtful that we would get it back: and he was proved right. I guess one thing you maybe have to think about is could you afford not to see it again. I hope you and OH manage to sort it out.


xx

Thank you - we have decided that we will lend it. She is extremely proud, my sister, and it would have cost her to ask. It should come back to us when her house sale goes through. I think I am more concerned about two things - the effect on her if for some reason the house sale falls through and whether she is then in a position to pay it back or if someone less reliable in the family finds out we've lent it and comes asking. We can afford not to get it back, at least in the short term - in the long term I believe we would get it back. Anyhow she can have it - OH was more instantly agreeable than I thought he would be.

On wards and upwards

I am still in Wales until tomorrow. DD is at home, OH and DS have gone to do some voluntary work here, Preservation Society stuff. I have a day to myself, have just done a bit of work and have decided I am walking along the beach to Aberdovey for lunch. Tis a bit breezy but v. pleasant. TOnight we are walking the other way (a bit anyway) to Barmouth for chish and fips - Yum. We come here a lot so I don't feel the need to explore, just to enjoy doing some simple things.

RAS

VJsmum

You need to insist that your sister has a written agreement about the loan which make clear the conditions when it is repaid. Then everyone is clear about the expectations. It avoids he said, she saids

You could ask for a charge against the house sale to prevent others making offf with the proceeds BUT if the mortgage and charge exceed the value of the sale, the sale might be held up.

mardatha

The RV and son have just pushed son's Suzuki (Hayabusa) - a really big, heavy bike - up the hill into our street. Both looked like heart attacks waiting to happen. Then son said "oh look!"......and they saw the kill switch was on.
Think husband's kill switch went on too then .. :rotfl::rotfl:

BitterAndTwisted

VJsmum wrote: »

My lovely sister - who I would do (almost) anything for, has asked if she can borrow a not inconsiderable sum of money for a couple of months. We can afford it and I am sure we will get it back eventually.

Not any of my business really, but as you've raised it: all I will say is that if you cannot afford to kiss that "not inconsiderable sum" goodbye forever please do not lend it. With the best will in the world bad things can happen to the best of people. One only has to read that "Lending Money To Friends and Family" thread over on the Loans part of the forum to see what hell on earth doing such a thing can bring about.






Mrs LW: your new kitten Pushkin is the cutest ever. I keep revisiting the page just to look at him. I'm very envious indeed!

nuttyp

Hi everyone, safely back from the dentist - all ok for once as well. I emerged from the dentist room with a small smile. This is something very special for such a scaredy cat at the dentist.

OH has received an update, his uncle was last seen thurs/fri and his friends from the allottments became worried so they called family. Then they called the police. There will be a post-mortem on Wednesday. His sister has taken his mum over to secure the flat and to sort out some paper work.

I have no idea what else with happen.

Im going for a shower and then im off to work.

mcculloch29

That is a relief, Nuttyp, sad that he died on his own, but at least it wasn't long until he was missed. So many thoughts come to mind of those less fortunate - some of those stories still haunt me.

Peanut, I would go for clothes that can cope with a size change to buy for yourself - so no tight jeans or trousers, but perhaps some loose fitting tops.

Just announced on radio that Maggie Thatcher is dead. God, that woman's policies caused me some personal hardship. Her death was peaceful, following a stroke.