'supporting each other through really tough times'

savingqueen

well done at the dentist nutty - you DID it!

good news about your niece walking and coming home silvasava. Hopefully being at home will help her recovery as well as being much more comfortable and happier for her.

hope your earache doesn't take weeks to go peanut. glad you have a little more time for yourself. I remember those days well, you have bought it all back to me! Baby steps all the way... revel in the little things and gradually it will all get easier... don't think parenthood ever gets to the easy stage exactly.... I must remember my 6 & 8 year olds' strops when they are teenagers :rotfl:

fuddle - glad you have a longer weekend break coming up. Don't forget your littlest was 3 not so long ago so you can use your own experiences with her and eldest DD of course.

am shattered now so off to sleep. Only got my coursework half done but better to get a good night's sleep then stay up tonight and be no good for tomorrow. I know they won't mind if I haven't completed it but I feel a bit disappointed I haven't. I will do it retrospectively over the weekend and get ahead with the new stuff as the course only runs in term time.

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savingqueen

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fuddle glad u popped your head around, alfie will love the attention and the treats. hes lucky to have a lovely mummy like you. Hope hes coping ok with the time on his own.

Pops are you ok????[/QUOTE]

ditto to all above. just thinking about pops too.
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stiltwalker

Silvasava - so pleased that is great news.

Kidcat and Kezlou - have a few more hugs to get you though today! Some going spare so if anyone else needs any, just grab one!

Peanut - enjoy LO and don't worry too much about the weight for now - sounds like your lovely OH is saying and doing all the right things. I didn't diet after either of mine, DD I found I lost most of it pretty quick then completely stalled for months before going through some really stressful stuff and losing more than I intended! After DS I was convinced I was going to weigh that little bit more than I was truly happy with forever more (but not enough more to be @rsed dieting and depriving myself! lol) But then out of the blue when he was 18 months old the last bits and more dropped away - I wasn't even that stressed really, but then I suppose running round after 2 disabled kids probably counts as more exercise than a body really needs.

Well DD has started her art collection today - after I picked her up from nursery we went to the new craft market in town to kill some time before group and she was really taken with a pastel drawing of a donkey on one stall - she wanted it but I said she had no money and got her a little coaster instead. When we got home there was a belated birthday card from DH's aunt which when she opened it had £20 in which she held up and said "I money now, go buy?" Well what could I do?? She also had a tenner from someone else so I said we'd give her the rest (£12) and we trotted off back to buy the picture. How could I have done anything else? 4 years old and that is what she wanted to spend her birthday money on! Said donkey picture is now hanging on her bedroom wall and was greeted with waves and blown kisses when we took her up to bed.

Take care all - X

Peanut2013

Fuddle - Great to hear from you

Baby steps is definitely the way I remember when I was chuffed that I got dressed, then a few weeks later chuffed that I cooked tea Both are now the norm

Working towards doing my hair now to make myself feel better, next challenge is baking. Then exercise!

I'm a ski instructor part time and am very much looking forward to getting back to it. As its so long since I've skied I've got to re do all my assessments and am damn nervous! Need to start my training, but that's not easy with LO!

Decided that when we go away next weekend not only are we looking at rings (not that we can afford one yet, but I can pick one!) but I'm going to treat myself to some primarni underwear :P

Feeling a bit smily at the mo tho snuggled on the sofa with OH while LO snoozes in his Moses basket at our feet. Also got a glass of wine and a bunch of tulips (my favourite) next to us OH knows its the simple things that keep me loving him and keep us smiling. I do at times think I don't do enough for him, but I know that's normal

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Helen, are you as proud of her and her reasoning ability as I am? What an absolute cracker of a young lady she is, that is astounding joined up thinking from one so young, my goodness have you and Mr Stiltwalker raised a together person? Oh yes you have, she's brilliant, Cheers Lyn xxx.

kidcat

Oh stiltwalker that is beautiful

Nuttyp - well done I salute your bravery

Silvasava - its so good to hear good news.

I was brave enough to call the dentist so I have an appointment tomorrow - just hope I can go.

Its been one of those days that you see in comedy programs and laugh your socks off at - but when you are living it, its far from funny.

DS9 went on trip to zoo, I collected DS14 from his unit and we took DD18 for her driving theory test - back end of a nearby town.
Arrived in a really out of the way spot and my phone rang - you need to collect DS9 from zoo now!

Err at that moment I was so torn - I had said I didnt think it was a good idea unless I went too, a massive trip, long coach journey (he hates long journeys) on a coach(doesnt like coaches) with 60 other excited kids (noise, smells etc) to a place that he associates with fun and family.
They then gave him a worksheet (he hates writing) and told him he had to read info(hates reading too) from wall displays in the monkey house ( he never goes in there - too hot, humid, noisy and smelly)

At which point he lost it and melted down, rather than call then they pushed on so that he had been dragged about for two hours before they called.

BUt I had DD18 and DS14 to consider so I was so torn. I ended up putting DD18 into her test centre and leaving her calling OH to pick her up. Made worse by him not knowing where she was and no sat nav as I had it. By the time I got back to car with DS14 I remembered I was due at his school in two hours for his prep meeting to discuss his visit tomorrow all day for a test.

So I had to co-ordinate where OH was on journey and then when we were close to crossing drop DS14 at side of road and OH scooped him up.
Then mad dash to zoo, to discover they were still inside but at far corner, had to get permission to go in from management and then chase across zoo to get him

Mad dash back just in time for meeting, swapped kids with OH to do DS14 meeting.

It was ridiculous and preventable if I had just stuck to my gut instincts.

meanmarie

Hello all,

Don't really mind going to dentist....apart from damage to my pocket, last weeks clean and extraction left me €140 down!

Kezlou....don't worry about being on anti depressants....I have been on a very low dosage for almost 4 years and it keeps me ticking over, otherwise the tension is just too much.

Fuddle...glad that things are going well at work.

Kidcat....look after you.

It is so cold here, has been snowing almost non-stop for 24 hours now, although not really sticking, just on fields and verges, was at a funeral to-day of a very old friend and churchyard was Baltic....have another funeral to-morrow, apparently there has been a huge rise in number of old people dying this month, it has been so cold I am not surprised.

Hugs to all in need or want of one, stay safe and warm

Marie

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KIDCAT you deserve several medals and then some for achieving all the impossible things that you manage to do every single day of your life!!! I am inclined to think of you as SUPERWOMAN, I know you'll say I'm just Mum, but then there are Mums and there are MUMS!!!!! If I had a hat, I'd take it off to you, but as I don't I'll just say you are an amazing person, and outstanding in this world as the best example of what parenthood should be, they are sooooooo lucky to have you, you're brilliant and don't ever think anything else, good on you girlie, Cheers Lyn xxx.

stiltwalker

Thanks Lyn - yes, we are inordinately proud of her! And would you believe that certain health 'so called' professionals have tried to put her down as learning difficulties just because she wouldn't speak to them!!! (Therefore as they hadn't heard it for themselves I was a delusional parent, making it all up and actually DD couldn't talk at all as she had LD!!)

ETA: - You're right about Kidcat too - we'll recognise her if we see her in the street......she's the one with her pants on over the top of her trousers!!

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Helen, I had a 18 month old who wouldn't speak to the health visitor because as she explained to me when we got home, she was talking to me like I was a baby!!!!! I suspect Little Miss Stiltwalker doesn't like being talked down to either, yes??? When said health visitor came to do the 4 year old pre school check on DD1 and asked her could she show her something blue, she was asked did she mean Sky Blue, Navy Blue, Royal Blue, Light Blue or Turquoise??? I won't post the response to the questions can she dress herself, and can she recognise her name written down, nor to the question is she toilet trained but after DD1 had finished her contribution to the conversation, questions were directed to her personally and not via me!!! Health visitors are not entirely stupid either!!! Cheers Lyn xxx.