'supporting each other through really tough times'

sevenup01

Morning all! Its rather wet here this morning but at least it has stopped raining. I've had lots of giggles over the cats and squirrels:rotfl:.
Someone here yesterday or the day before posted something about a person being like a jigsaw - the whole person being made up of tiny little parts. THANK YOU! Eldest daughter had a meltdown yesterday over her depression and i was able to reassure her that the depression is only a tiny part of the jigsaw that makes her 'her'. It helped calm her down. Further investigation into her meltdown revealed she has been suffering some truly awful side effects from some antibiotics she was taking but didnt realise what was happening. She is going to go and get different meds after college today.

I hope to start planning for my middle daughters birthday today. She will be 16 next week. So far i have a me to you bear hot water bottle, and an avon silver necklace that she liked but i would like to get her something a little more special, maybe something we can share as it will be my birthday on the same day. Any ideas? I took her out for a meal at christmas and last year we went to the cinema.

sevenup01

Forgot to say - Peanut i hope you feel better this morning and have a better day today. xx

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SEVENUP how about a Ma and DD Spa treatment if you have a spa hotel near you? or a facial at a beauty salon? Not sure of prices though it's something that both of my girls would enjoy, Hope that helps, Cheers Lyn xxx.

savingqueen

Good morning toughies,

Its wettish, greyish day here and I have lots of housework to do. never mind, I will need lots of tea breaks to keep me going won't I?:D

So glad you are a healthier household Mrs LW.

Peanut - how are you today love? sending hugs

Fuddle - I am angry with you. Just remember who you are - a better person than that jumped up (insert rude word of choice here) or as my DS8 says "BEEP!" You may have to put on a calm, professional front to the agency and others but no-one can control your mind - you can blow the biggest raspberry in your head and smile sweetly at the same time. This is what my boys try and do sometimes when they are feeling cross and can't express it out loud at school.

Having one of those weeks for little things going wrong - think half of them are due to my head state. Yesterday for example I shook a mixed herb jar too vigorously (usually use a teaspoon) and virtually the WHOLE jar full fell into my spag bol sauce. Managed to spooon majority out but boy did it taste herby! Now I have no mixed herbs but had a thought, have lots of herbs like oregano that don't get used so often so am going to make my own mix. Do you think oregano, basil, rosemary, thyme, sage and marjoram would be an ok mix?

Our dehumidifier hasn't been working for a while - and took us dim pair a while to notice the water catcher hadn't been filling up so using leccy for no reason . We need to have a dehum and the thoughts of spending £120 :eek: on a new one - DH took it apart (after looking on webbywonder) and extracted tons of fluff inside and now it works! He was never good at those sorts of jobs but he is learning like me with the cooking and baking, we are gradually building our skillbase.

Here's a funny tale. DH had a big work event - rare time for wearing his nearly 10 year old one and only suit (bought for our wedding.) He went out to lunch with a colleague and he was talking about me and saying how proud he is of me :heartsmil doing voluntary work etc like on Tues when I do my voluntary TA role. Woman thought he meant Terrorital Army and they had a strange conversation for a while until uniform was mentioned... and then the penny dropped for DH! They have been laughing about it at the office. I can see me dropping off the kids at school in combats clutching my shopping bags. I am the very last person to be a soldier believe you me!:rotfl:

have a good day or at least the very best you can
onwards and upwards
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Softstuff

Fuddle, they nastily misrepresented themselves which was unfair and it makes me angry.

Something you've got to remember when greeted by people who think they're superior to you because of where they work in comparison to what you're doing is this:

The job you do doesn't define who you are, it's how you do it that does.

It doesn't matter if you're toilet cleaning or bum wiping, going to an office with a briefcase or having a corporate meeting in a 5 star hotel, believe me I've done all extremes, if you take pride in your work, are kind to those above and beneath you and work hard, that shows your character. And you can take pride in a job well done regardless of those who don't see the value of good honest work.

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SQ have just googled mixed herbs recipe and they have given me the exact list of dried herbs you list as having already as the constituent parts of Mixed Herbs, go for it!!! Cheers Lyn xxx.

fuddle

Oh soft stuff, those words are just wht I need thank you!

Thanks for the support friends.

I called about the post just 20mins ago like I was asked. I was told there was no feedback and she would call when she had news. I have just received an email saying that try are still collating CV's and if I'm short listed for interview I will find out in the coming weeks.

But I also applied for one nursery nurse position on Monday too. They got back to my email with an application form attached. I just didn't send it back because I thought I had a job. Just minutes ago I received an email saying 'thank you for your job application via submitting your CV, we would like to offer you an interview on Monday at 2pm' I'm thrilled but have to switch mentally from caring to working with children again and to be honest it's thrown my whole future plans in the air.

I'm a bit lost but at least I still have hope of an interview.

Isn't the job hunting game soul destroying? I have been doing it for a week, on and off a bit longer but honestly, if I have to do this fr a long period of time I am sure it will break me.

Off to go throw myself in housework. I need to do something mindlessly while being in my own thoughts.

boultdj

Fuddle, is there any nursing homes in the area? It might be worth your time to go round and ask at the home it's self rather than go through agency, also keep an eye out for home help's and ask them if their firm is taking on, only reason I surgest that is 'cause my friend work's for a private firm that's doing nursing/home help stuff seeing as the council's are cutting back on that kind of work.

savingqueen

I also wanted to say a massive thank you to all the kind posters who responded to my family post. Your compassion, understanding, wisdom and humour is much appreciated and has helped me no end. I really can't thank you all enough.

I was sitting here in tears reading the posts and also those others who have posted with their family stories. I can empathise with all who have family difficulties of any kind. I can't pretend to know exactly how you feel but I do know what it feels like to hurt and I am thinking of you all and sharing my strength with you all. Thank you for sharing, especially monnagran who started the ball rolling.

I am still feeling pretty awful about my family but I realise these feelings are normal and are part of me coming to terms with the situation and trying to move on.

I know it is not my fault and that is a major thing to realise.

It is not my fault we lived in a household (primary school age) with grandparents who were horrible. The house was split down the middle and every door had a lock and key like being in prison. My "nan" used to try and steal money from my parents and we girls were frightened of her.

It is not my fault I stammered as a child (or as an adult) and I had to cope with it on my own. My dad used tell jokes about stammering in front of me with guests present.

It is not my fault my dad wasn't there for me emotionally or practically. Two occasions in my adult life (the only two) I needed his help and he told me to ask a friend instead- which I did.

It is not my fault my mum stood by and let others treat me badly - she was just as much at fault for not looking out for me when I needed her.

It is not my fault I had a breakdown. None of them visited me whilst I was a virtual recluse, not once. My sister actually phoned me to ask for help with an application form and had a go when I said I couldn't catch a bus and go out.

It is not my fault for a whole heap of other similar things.

It is not my fault they cannot deal with emotional issues, preferring to sweep things under the carpet. It is not my fault that appearance matter more than feelings.

There I have said it. I also acknowledge they have a good side and I know they love me as I do them. I just don't like their behaviour towards me and I don't have to put up with it if I choose not to.

I am sorry this is all me me me. I really needed to say it. I will draw a line under it all now. I have so many other people to care about and so many big and little projects to get on with - I will be fine. I am putting it behind me from today. I have decided to give/send cards to my favourite friends, mums or not, over the next few days and let them know I love them.
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kidcat

Peanut - I hope you managed to rest last night and are feeling better today.

I have another migraine after DS8 was up ill most of the night, feeling weak and high temp, so today we have a poorly DS8 to add to the usual mix of thursday rush. Add in MOT for little car which will definitely fail and its gonna be a long day
Have got presents to wrap for tomorrow yet and decorations to put up, then its party prep all they way.