'supporting each other through really tough times'

boultdj

VJsmum how about asking her if she would go swimming/ water aerobics/ yoga/spinning with you, 'cause then you both get exercise and more importantly mother/daughter time, that is if your daughter ask's why do you want her to go with you.

tessasmum

VJsmum - my elder DD is several stone overweight and we are struggling with it, but it takes time and effort and working together. I am currently getting up early with her to do sections of Davina exercise DVDs - she won't make the effort to do it on her own, but if we do it together, she will do it. I am supporting her with the food I purchase and prepare, and helping her to understand the right choices when she is out and about, or in the school canteen, and I hope and pray that she will continue to work at it. It isn't going to be a quick fix, but we have had lots of tests at the hospital to rule out hormone problems and things like that, so we know we just have to knuckle down and lose weight. Ours is a more extreme example than yours, but I think that the key is doing things together rather than expecting her to do more exercise on her own.

Good luck.

lisakay_2

ooooh, not posted in such a long time again!
vJsmum, i would try and make it into a family effort or possibly so she thinks she is supporting you in getting fitter. maybe you wouldn't want to go swimming on your own would she go with you for encouragement.
or even competetive, think squash, badminton, netball.

off back into hiding for a little while now until i have good news to share instead of just feeling sorry for myself

elizabunny

I've just finished watching the program about dogs and thoroughly enjoyed it:) They are so clever! I look at ours and wonder if she is capable of some of those things -bless her. I must admit I didn't know that they could detect cancer, how amazing is that! Ours does seem to home in on our moods and always looks a bit sad if we are feeling down. I thought I was imagining it, but after seeing the program, maybe not:)

VJsmum It's a bit tricky isn't it. On the one hand you want your DD to be healthy but on the other you don't want to upset her or make her paranoid. I think some activities that you could share together might encourage her. (((hugs))) so sorry for your very sad news.

kidcat

lisa - are you ok? please dont hide


OH walked the dog earlier and bumped into our next door but one neighbours - they asked him when we had got the dog -:eek::eek: apparently they had no idea we had one:rotfl::rotfl: not sure whether thats good as obviously he hasnt disturbed them or bad that we dont take him out enough

kezlou

Popperwell wrote: »

I don't get a heating allowance but am using the CWP and once I have a better idea of income etc...I will use it more...Planning on saving during summer so there is more to use next winter and also I hope the other plan I had will work...

I didn't say you were receiving heating allowances but you are receiving cold weather payments which is supposed to be for heating your home in the winter. If your not using it you should send it back so someone else can use it who really needs it.
Anyone who does the same as you should be ashamed of themselves, they are many elderly people who starve themselves to heat they homes. While the likes of you who say"i have a plan" just play and take the mick. Its disgraceful.

With regards to housing benefit and the bedroom tax. As i have two boys under the age of 16 then legally they can share a room. so although all rooms will be used technically the council can and will still penalise me. They are a lot of people in the same situation both working and on benefits.

As for council tax each household in m'boro will at least have to pay at least £3.50 a week towards they bill. Regardless of whether they are on benefits or what band they are in.

Worst thing pops your trying to justify to me, but i bet your on far money than i am. Your home is secure at the moment due to an inspection. Your rent and council tax is paid, your a single person and could living a life of luxury.
We are a family of four living what is technically on the bread line.
Get a grip of yourself.

By the way this is not about who pays taxes, or showing off about working etc. Or $lagging people off on on benefits. For gawd sakes working tax credit IS a benefit after all. Its designed to assist people on low incones. Its about money going to people who really actually NEED it.

Byatt

meme30 wrote: »

Byatt:- It's lovely to see you falling in love with your cat.:)

Fuddle:- Driving confidence comes back, just give it time.

Ginnyknit:- So pleased that your garden is nearly sorted, it sounds like it's going to make a big difference to you.

Thanks for the ideas for the cakes, I will let you know how it goes.:)

Yes, he's my boy.

edit, VJ, I wouldn't say anything. If she's confident in her body image then good for her. It may be that she will lose weight as she's still young. Is she the only one overweight in the family? Do you know what is causing the extra weight? is it mainly down to lack of exercise? Does she eat foods that are hight in fat when in school? Can you find out how she feels about the weight without being negative? Does she talk about it? Just asking these questions as a way to make other suggestions.

kezlou

sorry to hear about your sister and clleagues hiusband. hows awful.
regarding your dd, i would do what others have said.
Just play along with things like "oh thers an aerobic session tonight, i really want to go but to scared to go on my own. Will you come with me?" Never know it might work.

:hello lisa!
have you seen all i've wrote, utter whiner and a half!!!!!!!
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: hahah kidcat
poor dog :rotfl: Oh and the cat tower thingy, we had one but had to get the rid of it. THe kids kept climbing all over it and pretending to be tarzan :rotfl:

Popperwell

elizabunny wrote: »

Sorry Popperwell but could you please elaborate? I cannot find anyone quoting from my posts today and I don't need anything verifiying because I know what I posted.

Maybe, it's just me but I really do not understand what you are trying to say to me:o apologies.....

I think I'm mixed up now...sorry to confuse you, the post I thought I had quoted from was not one of yours, I was just belatedly acknowledging both at the same time and I guess I was a little taken aback by what had happened at the time but I think all is ok again?

I hope so...even I am having difficulty working out what I was on about which isn't difficult...call it a senior moment...

Popperwell

kezlou wrote: »

I didn't say you were receiving heating allowances but you are receiving cold weather payments which is supposed to be for heating your home in the winter. If your not using it you should send it back so someone else can use it who really needs it.
Anyone who does the same as you should be ashamed of themselves, they are many elderly people who starve themselves to heat they homes. While the likes of you who say"i have a plan" just play and take the mick. Its disgraceful.

With regards to housing benefit and the bedroom tax. As i have two boys under the age of 16 then legally they can share a room. so although all rooms will be used technically the council can and will still penalise me. They are a lot of people in the same situation both working and on benefits.

As for council tax each household in m'boro will at least have to pay at least £3.50 a week towards they bill. Regardless of whether they are on benefits or what band they are in.

Worst thing pops your trying to justify to me, but i bet your on far money than i am. Your home is secure at the moment due to an inspection. Your rent and council tax is paid, your a single person and could living a life of luxury.
We are a family of four living what is technically on the bread line.
Get a grip of yourself.

By the way this is not about who pays taxes, or showing off about working etc. Or $lagging people off on on benefits. For gawd sakes working tax credit IS a benefit after all. Its designed to assist people on low incones. Its about money going to people who really actually NEED it.

I have a plan, nothing dishonest and it could all go wrong and all it is trying to save a little now to help when things get tougher and they will so that I can use my heating more as all are telling me to and the CWP have only arrived in the last week, nothing before now and are being used for their intended use.

Pity that you have such a low opinion of me. Oh well, so be it.
I am not trying to justify myself, that's not my nature...

I have heard of the problems you have mentioned regarding how sharing of rooms are looked at especially regarding children, the help will be used for the reasons that you mention. That seems unfair.