'supporting each other through really tough times'

Byatt

Mrs LW, I'm truly glad you found someone , I feel if I'd been younger and the later experience of dreadfulness (is that a word) , when ex left with a 17 year old, had not happened, I might have felt less raw and more open to a relationship.

WCS, that's how I feel exactly...I have never dated or been out with anyone, nor had a relationship since separating/divorce. I feel though if I'd done it sooner and not been so damaged it would have been better but now I am ok with being single and honestly don't believe I could live with anyone again. I have made the decision not to date now or in the future, it just isn't something I believe will happen. I have some lovely friends and that's fine.

Anyway, sorry if I;ve stirred things up, I'm a little stir crazy I guess after 5 days of not going out and not seeing anyone! :eek:

kidcat

katie am so sorry I missed congratulating your DD on the job news, I do hope she gets it.

katieowl_2

kidcat wrote: »

katie am so sorry I missed congratulating your DD on the job news, I do hope she gets it.

Thanks - we are keeping our fingers crossed. She has an hours trial on Friday, and then if they say yes, she's going to tell them she's pregnant, but take bits of paper to show them it won't cost them anything, I'm relying on her wowing with her people skills, and maybe her IT skills too, and also the fact she can cook. Even for six months she's excellent value for money!!!

Kate

CRANKY40

Byatt wrote: »

Losing a loved one through death whilst devastating doesn't carry with it the feelings that being left, after a marriage of almost 30 years, does.

I was widowed 3 1/2 years ago when my son was nearly 5. There were times when I felt totally betrayed that someone I loved and trusted had left me alone to deal with everything on my own, including his awful family who weren't best pleased when I didn't start dishing out the insurance money (I paid the mortgage with it instead). There are still times even now when I feel angry at being left, especially when it comes to making decisions involving our son when I have nobody to discuss things with, so maybe on a deeper level it has it's similarities.

kidcat

Katie if they have been looking for so long surely she has got to be an excellent choice - am now interfering I know but is it possible you could cover her maternity leave, that way she could offer a package deal as it were - kick me for overstepping sorry:)

nuttyp

Fuddle when we had mr ben our rescue dog me wasnt good wiith any other dog charging at him. He had a bad start from what the rescue centre said. He was being walked one day when a lady with a puppy on a velco lead came walkig along. We crossed the road, and she did to be walking towards us. We sat ben down gave him a pat of reassurance but the lady was saying oh the puppy wants a friend. Needless to say ben wasnt happy with a boysrous puppy bounding on him. He snapped and nipped the dog, it yelped and then we had one nurotic woman. She demanded our details, and we had a visit from the dog policeman later. He knocked at the door, mr ben barked. We opened the door mr ben wagged his tail and was all fussy over said policeman- he was very nice. He said there wasnt a problem, and said he was offering advise to the other owner as obviously she should have listened. The dogs home also backed up how the dog was.

Fuddle dont worry, if anyone was to call you know your dog and if his ear is sore you would expect him to be grumpy. When i have earache im grumpy!!

kidcat

CRANKY40 wrote: »

I was widowed 3 1/2 years ago when my son was nearly 5. There were times when I felt totally betrayed that someone I loved and trusted had left me alone to deal with everything on my own, including his awful family who weren't best pleased when I didn't start dishing out the insurance money (I paid the mortgage with it instead). There are still times even now when I feel angry at being left, especially when it comes to making decisions involving our son when I have nobody to discuss things with, so maybe on a deeper level it has it's similarities.

Cranky - that makes sense to me too, if OH went I know there would be days when I would be raging that he had left me to deal with everything

My rational self does know though that most days I do that now anyway - but its hard to be rational in the moment There are some days when I resent that he "escapes" to work, and that I am left with it all alone. Yet when he is here its harder.

How perverse is that?

kidcat

Cranky - I remember you bought a special cat for your little boy a good while ago, and you picked it for its caring etc can you remind me what type please?
DS14 has not settled since we lost our big boy at new year, the other two will not sit on his knee and their fur feels wrong apparently!! So I am thinking of trying to get him a specialist one as soon as the other two are settled.

heavenleigh

Can't read all posts, just in need of a hug xxxx

CRANKY40

kidcat wrote: »

Cranky - I remember you bought a special cat for your little boy a good while ago, and you picked it for its caring etc can you remind me what type please?
DS14 has not settled since we lost our big boy at new year, the other two will not sit on his knee and their fur feels wrong apparently!! So I am thinking of trying to get him a specialist one as soon as the other two are settled.

She's a Korat. She's gentle, loving and totally devoted to George. He was doing something on the laptop yesterday, sitting on the floor and she just walked up to him, leant in and poked him with her nose which is her version of kissing him. I have some lovely photos on facebook. If you would like a look pm me your facebook name. I'm friends with a couple of other people on here too.

heavenleigh wrote: »

Can't read all posts, just in need of a hug xxxx

Have a dodgy hug from me :grouphug: