'supporting each other through really tough times'

kidcat

Mardy - you see thats like us - we spend most of our time not speaking - only way he has survived this long I think

mardatha

Yep, its a survival mechanism on both sides here! lol

fuddle

Byatt wrote: »

Being happy in your own company, (which I am) is very different when it's 24/7...I read something recently, in a magazine I think at the doctors, about a daughter worried about her mum who had not dated/met anyone since divorcing (about 10 years), her mother had said, I have plenty of great friends and family to do things with, but no-one to do nothing with...

that struck home, very true and very poignant.

I actually understand that point. I sit on sofa with laptop talking to you or knit/crochet while DH sits watching TV. Neither of us talking much but happy to have the company. When he's away for work I'm so bored. I can't fathom that.

Mar happy wedding anniversary enjoy your peace

Byatt

mardatha wrote: »

I'm with Mrs L - I don't worry much about anything, wee niggles about the family but I also know they'll find their own way and manage.
It's our 47th anniversary today (I got married very young. I wis 2) and as usual, we aren't talking. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Why break the habit of a lifetime?

kidcat wrote: »

Mardy - you see thats like us - we spend most of our time not speaking - only way he has survived this long I think

That proves my point... :rotfl::rotfl:

edit, it's the little things that are missed, like something funny happening during your day you think oh X would love that, or a news item you've heard or just a chat about what's for dinner, the day to day stuff that is a gaping chasm when it's gone (at first, of course I'm ok now)...

kidcat

Byatt - in all honesty I dont do that stuff with OH anyway, his problems are so big and I find him so hard to deal with being auty (well I think so) and having memory issues I find it more frustrating than anything. I now share with friends on FB, we message each other on and off all evening sharing bits in programs we watch etc. Its sad really but it is the way I relax

Pooky

Happy anniversary Mar, that's a long old time.

Fuddle - I'm sure everything will be fine but for future reference don't give out your name and address. You've no need to and it's very dangerous to do so, just imagine if that person had dodgy friends and called them to tell them your address and that you were out walking the dog.

kidcat

Pooky wrote: »

Happy anniversary Mar, that's a long old time.

Fuddle - I'm sure everything will be fine but for future reference don't give out your name and address. You've no need to and it's very dangerous to do so, just imagine if that person had dodgy friends and called them to tell them your address and that you were out walking the dog.

Excellent point, am not sure you are obliged to, its not like a car accident.

fuddle

Aw gawd pooky, good point but :eek: Yeah, I was stupid. I just felt so awkward/upset/sorry etc and wasn't thinking.

Hey kidcat, that's not sad. It's normal. At least we have a portal with which to communicate through. It's still interaction.

Byatt

kidcat wrote: »

Byatt - in all honesty I dont do that stuff with OH anyway, his problems are so big and I find him so hard to deal with being auty (well I think so) and having memory issues I find it more frustrating than anything. I now share with friends on FB, we message each other on and off all evening sharing bits in programs we watch etc. Its sad really but it is the way I relax

I understand that and it's not sad, having someone to share things with no matter who or what (cat in my case ), is important. I was just sharing what it was like when first taken away. I;m sure despite the difficulties there would be things you missed about your OH. It's not until people are gone that you realise it's the little things (to others) that matter.

I can't share with my DD, sometimes I end up like this :silenced::think:_pale_:doh::wall: after what should be a simple chat about something. :cool:

Although she seems to be able to hold a conversation with others quite well, do you find that with your OH?

kidcat

Yes my OH can communicate better with others, I always assume its because its not the important stuff if you see what I mean?

And yes I probably would miss him, but not hugely unfortunately which is sad, in itself but that is how it is.

Byatt if you ever join FB pm me I am happy to chat and you can moan about your DD whenever you feel the need.