'supporting each other through really tough times'

monnagran

Kidcat: Would you like me to come up and set about your mother as well? I'm just in the right mood.

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Oh KIDCAT I wish I knew how to stop the world for an hour or two just to give you some time out to yourself!!! Would your Mum be amenable to the suggestion that the house would be much too cold for her and you'd rather she stayed in the warm and perhaps the cousins might call in to see her when your Uncles house is sorted out, I don't know if that is even a feasible option but it might appease her and give you some time with your cousin to give her some comfort. I just wish I could do more than send you hugs and caring, and wish someone would give you some comfort too!!! Chin up pet, with you in spirit bless you, Love Lyn xxx.

fuddle

Hey kidcat, that's mother's for you. Mine likes a ruddy good 'look at me' drama in a crisis and I feel for you for having to put up with the backlash. I don't want to call your mum, we all act weird in a crisis but I'm so sorry she's brought your parenting at this time in it. For me, that was a bit too low. Why do people bring children into things to win/back up their argument?

You are the strongest woman I know and whether you know it or not I'm in complete awe of you. I could not possibly cope with 1/4 of what you have to on a daily basis. I'm so sorry your mum seems to think that you are playing the attention game too.

fuddle

monnagran wrote: »

Just popped back to see what's happening.

Fuddle: Stop worrying NOW. Stupid woman. What was she playing at?
I bet if she had a painful corn or bunion and she said to one of your children, "Don't get near my feet," but they trod on her toe anyway and she went through the roof with pain, do you think that she would have smiled sweetly and patiently put up with it while they went on trampling over her toes? Of course not.
I wish I lived up there, I'd go and have a snap at her myself.

Returns to planning a church service full of love, peace and forgiveness.

x

so apt! Your humour is amazing and makes me laugh time after time. :rotfl:

Popperwell

fuddle wrote: »

I don't know how the heck the government thinks that by reducing the amount of staff to look after our children in the UK is going to help us with our childcare costs. No nursery is going to reduce their fees! looking after 6 toddlers is easy... interacting with 6 toddlers in a way they deserve is not. Leaving it at that as I've been on my soap box far too much recently.

Lots on the radio about this Fuddle and saying much the same, no one thinks fees will reduce and it has been emphisised that people doing this worthwhile job are not well paid but few think the wages will improve.

Softstuff the space station astronauts keep tweeting images of the Earth and recently posted some of the recent floods in Australia...

Byatt

Kidcat, been there, done that, got the t-shirt, my advice is to ignore her over this and do what you feel is right for your cousin and uncle. It's tough her feelings are hurt but she's not the only one hurting. Appeasment IMVHO and experience does not work, and I hope you don't give into her. She brought your parenting into question as she's so desperate to take over, all about her again, not you at all. Ignore. x

fuddle

Popperwell wrote: »

Afternoon all,
Must catch up on all the posts since yesterday...

You know how we save on our food bills looking for bargains, storing food and cooking comfort food etc...

Looks like the message is getting through at last...

http://uk.finance.yahoo.com/news/your-cupboards-could-be-costing-you-dear-181823441.html

I have to admit I feel a little out of control with these slim line, teeny tiny excuses (however lovely and appreciated they are) of kitchen cupboards I have. Today for instance, I needed passata. I knew I had some in the cupboard but the thought of emptying through the masses to check filled me with dread... so I spent 65p and bought another. I need to get to grips with it

kidcat

Thank you all, I am not moving on this, he loves off mainland, its a long journey and it needs a car both to travel to ferry then over the other side too, practically she is useless here.
And to be honest if she keeps visiting while we are gone that is a very real role that is needed, its not like we are blocking her out. But she wont get to play the sympathy card with the relatives.

fuddle

Popperwell wrote: »

Lots on the radio about this Fuddle and saying much the same, no one thinks fees will reduce and it has been emphisised that people doing this worthwhile job are not well paid but few think the wages will improve.

Softstuff the space station astronauts keep tweeting images of the Earth and recently posted some of the recent floods in Australia...

Nursery Nurses are paid little more than minimum wage. I have the qualifications they're talking about and I would still be paid the same as a ill qualified worker. I get the 'making sure NN's are adequately qualified' part and wholeheartedly support it (even though childcare is about 'talent' and love for children. I'd rather a person with grade E at Maths but a lovely enthusiastic personality than a highly qualified 'I don't give a darn, in it for the money' person, looking after my children) but surely to have higher qualified staff would push up their wage therefore cancelling out any savings made by reducing staff numbers.

Childcare costs are at a level, no amount of faffing with staffing levels are going to lower those rates now. If I get a job (when, I have 4 on the go and seen another one advertised today ) I will have all this to come to and I will see both sides. Working in childcare to give away a high proportion of my earnings to childcare before and after school.

kidcat

Fuddle - Ikea do little shelf thingys that help lift things higher and make it easier to see what is at the back of the cupboards.