'supporting each other through really tough times'

kidcat

VJsmum - so glad you managed to catch up on your sleep, just in time to come home again:rotfl:

GQ- I have done six loads of washing today and still have four to do, would you like to borrow some, yours sounds so lonely :rotfl:

GreyQueen

kidcat wrote: »

VJsmum - so glad you managed to catch up on your sleep, just in time to come home again:rotfl:

GQ- I have done six loads of washing today and still have four to do, would you like to borrow some, yours sounds so lonely :rotfl:

I'm a rotten tease, aren't I? I just do it to wind up VJsMum since she once volunteered me to help with her ironing mountain. It's a true amount that I'm doing; the rest of the load was socks, undies, towels and things made of cotton jersey and my jammies.

Gosh, if I did 10 laundry loads everything I own inc the bedlinen would be wet. It's a whole different ball game when you have a houseful, isn't it?!

The secret sins of the single woman, drinking a small bottle of beer WITHOUT A GLASS and avoiding her housework. woop-woop.

Right, my lovelies, now that katie has reported back in, I can go to my bed as tomorrow is another day, and I will have ceilings to prep for painting.

Sigh. The fun things I get to do on my annual leave.........!

Softstuff

Thanks Kidcat.

Relieved you're in one piece Katieowl, even if it's a bit battered. Hope you heal quickly.

GQ, I much admire your housekeeping skills. I took up even ironing PJs. I know that I'm OCD, but I'm ok with it....

CRANKY40

Softstuff I've just noticed where you live. I bought my house from a lady who lives in Hervey Bay, although that may be a long way from you. It was inherited from her uncle, although she has been over from Australia to visit us.

savingqueen

hello to everyone as I haven't posted for a few days. Sorry can't get my head round replying properly but wanted to say a big YAH to fuddle re the house - such brilliant news. Also a big hug to katie and jem and anyone else who needs one - sorry my brain is like a sieve this weekend.

Feeling really low and can't seem to shake it off. DS2 is having a birthday party - at home :eek: next weekend and I have so much to do - whole house is a state and very cluttered and all the party stuff to organise like games, cake, food, party bags, decs etc as well as DS2's pressies and cards and I have no energy and enthusiasm at all. I am feeling anxious and panicking that I won't be able to pull it off in this frame of mind and it will all be a disaster.

Actually as I type this I realise that at least part of why I am feeling so low is because of DS's birthday and Christmas coming and realising how awful the relationships with our extended family are - if we didn't have friends (mostly DS2's school friends) to invite, they would be no party. Our children are just used to things as they are but they will look back as adults and realise how little their exended family saw them, not even for their birthdays.

Also a close friend, or so I thought, has let me down and really upset me and it has shocked me as she has never acted that way before. I thought at first I was mistaken, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt but then I realied I wasn't mistaken. With all our family issues, friends are so important to me, this has been the case from childhood too. I am a very sensitive person and wished I didn't let things get to me. I probably need to develop a thicker skin but easier said than done I guess.

Sorry I have taken up so much space. I was hoping I can get these awful feelings off my chest and wake up feeling more positive. I don't want to let my darling DS down next weekend.

It is such a comfort to read the posts on here, even posts about ironing! Just seeing familiar names helps loads.

off to bed, perchance to dream. Night night and hoping tomorrow is a good day for you all

sq:)

Softstuff

Byatt wrote: »

Thanks Softstuff, there used to be a Chinese shop in a small town near me, not sure if it's still there, but will look during the week. Sorry you're feeling so rough still. How is your mum? Will she travel to see you over the holidays?

I'm almost certain I'll be having an MRI now, so not looking forward to that (have had one on my leg previously when they found the tumour, that was fine, but sticking my head in it is a whole other ball of wax).

Mum's not too happy at the mo, needless to say (though I haven't told her anything about the MRI). She won't be coming over at Christmas, it'd be far too hot here for her then. Also the inquest is early January. I think she might settle a little after that, she's being asked to relive his last week so much that she can't get any time to grieve. She hasn't been to the docs yet to ask if she can fly here (it is a bit far considering) and if/when she does we have to find some money to rent somewhere for a bit, since we only have a tiny 1 bed unit.... not easy all round.

But thanks for asking .

CRANKY40 wrote: »

Softstuff I've just noticed where you live. I bought my house from a lady who lives in Hervey Bay, although that may be a long way from you. It was inherited from her uncle, although she has been over from Australia to visit us.

Hervey Bay is a couple of hours away I believe. Never been but we have a relative there. It is an astonishingly small world now.

Edited to add: Sorry you're having a rough time Savingqueen, families can certainly be funny things. You're doing your best for your kids, that's what counts and what they'll remember. In the end it's the extended family who don't see them who are really missing out (my biological fathers side of the family never bothered with me, to be frank knowing who they are, I'm better off without)

stiltwalker

jem132 wrote: »

Thanks that sounds like fun stiltwalker I am not sure where Saltaire is? Sorry I am a bit rubbish if it's not leeds lol is there a train station there? X

It's 2 stops out of Leeds on the Airedale line - takes about 15 minutes on the train - it's where the Salts Mill museum is with the David Hockneys - not my cup of tea paintings wise but it is a wonderful building and it has a scrummy home shop upstairs - strictly for drooling only as the prices are astronomical, but oh it's good drooling!!! The Salts Mill Diner food is good but expensive but ther is a lovely little tea rooms across the road which is much more reasonable. I'm free most Wednesdays so shout if you fancy a pick me up and I'll meet you off the train.

CRANKY40

Savingqueen have a big ((hug)). Sorry your friend has let you down.

meme30

kidcat wrote: »

oh ginny but what fun ay?:rotfl:

I have discovered that the pain meds make me loose tongued and I lose all tact it seems - thankfully my friend has stopped me making some major faux pas today on FB - which would have been entirely truthful but could have caused a war!!:D

Kidcat:- Oh this made me laugh!If I remember rightly you are the tactful one in your house!:rotfl:

Ginny:- Grandad's jumpers are magical!:rotfl:

Katieowl:- Pleased nothing is broken, just take it easy for a while...I know, easier said than done!:)

Softstuff:- :grouphug:

Byatt:- I have been reading a recipe for 'Gluwein' and thinking how wonderful it would smell simmering on your stove! Have stove envy now!:D

Savingqueen:- The most important person to your son is you. His party will go fine because of your efforts and your love.
A nice extended family sounds ideal but it's not essential. Sometimes you have to work with what you get. Your little family sound lovely and the credit for that goes to you. Well done you!:)

Possession

Glad to hear it isn't broken Kate, hope it settles down quickly.
Savingqueen - for your DS, not seeing extended family will just be normal, he won't be missing anything he hasn't had. I find having my house really cluttered brings me down a lot, so perhaps if you have a real blitz on that it will make you feel a bit brighter and more ready for DS's party (which will be over before you know it!). (((hugs)))