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fuddle wrote: »

I've been for my first week review at the doctors and found that the tablets can effect my driving :eek: I didn't know this as last year I didn't have a car. Anyone experienced this who is on citalopram? I must say I haven't felt like they have effected me, a bit worried now though.

I have been referred for counseling. I was supposed to go last year but had to wait 12 weeks and in the end, chickened it. The issue with Mam is a whole other ball game now though and I think I need all the help I can get.

A bit scared at the noises the doctor was making towards the idea that I may need citalopram indefinitely :cool:

The girls know. I explained that my brain didn't receive the signals it was supposed to and the tablets helped fixed the connections. That doesn't make sense this time round though because I don't feel like the problem is me, more her. Hey ho. Feeling blergh but I'm quite alright.

Beef burgers in buns tonight Go on, I'll stick a slice of cheese on 'em too!

Aw Fuddle, chin up. It isn't easy but keep working at it. My anxiety is miserable at the moment and so frustrating but I dream of the time when it will be behind me, at least for a while, and how great that will be. Dh is a real advocate of counselling, especially if you have the chance of one to one.

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FUDDLE take all the support you can get little one, as you say the situation with your Mum is complex and difficult and not one to tackle on your own. If the ADs are making a difference to you feeling able to LIVE life and not just exist from day to day then be guided by the GP and take them as long as he thinks you need to, for your sake lovie, and the counselling too, grab it all with both hands and use every tool available to you. Sorting out the situation with your Mum won't be easy, but you might just learn the right strategy for dealing with the problems she brings and that would be a good place for a Fuddle to be wouldn't it? Sorry you're feeling low and sending many hugs and giggly thoughts to cheer you up!!! He Who Knows is sanding down the garage door ready for repainting it - Hooray the black handprints have gone !!!!!!!!! but it sounds like a giant bee just outside the window, never mind it'll be nice when it's done!!! Love Lyn xxx.

FairyPrincessk

Fuddle, sometimes when life keeps hurling hard things at you, you're brain gets used to being in "emergency" mode. The wiring gets stuck in constant worry and stress and fear. Some brains are more prone to it than others. I like to think about it in terms of a sports injury. Yes, some joints are more prone to injury than others, but if you're an athlete and put unusual stress on it, you might also get an injury. Some combination of the two can be the case. I really hope the combination of tablets and counselling helps you get your wiring back in order. I should clarify--I thought this might help your girls!

Pops, been thinking of you.

NuttyP, I think she is trying to get in touch. I hope she is there when you do the garden.

OH has passed his last exam and is officially and NQT. So proud of him. I'm off to make dinner and see about a special pud.;)

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FPK what wonderul news, and it was the exam he was most concerned about wasn't it? Huge congratulations to Mr.FPK and welcome to the wonderful world of Teaching, so well done, Cheers Lyn xxx.

monnagran

Hi all.

Fuddle: I understand what FPK says about the brain being stuck in anxious/worry mode. When you have been brought up in that sort of atmosphere it becomes part of your make up. I think you have done marvellously well to survive as well balanced as you are.
The Rev had similar problems. She came from a large family but was thoroughly rejected by her parents and had to endure years of emotional and physical abuse. Before she was ordained she put herself through a year of intensive counselling and reckoned that it saved her as a person. So go for it sweetie. And just remember that life does not go backward, we have to keep going forward.
My Mum left me a book that she used to write down little poems she'd found - and some she'd written herself - One of them was
Store the past. Enjoy the present,
Live a life that's free from sham,
For your 'wasness' doesn't matter
If your 'isness' really am.
I often think it when I start to beat myself up over something.
Crickey! I'm getting obscure.
Mint. Yes it does spread like wildfire but it takes a while.

Mrs Chip: Mint is my favourite herb too. I had a large bed of it in the cottage, right under my bedroom window. On summer nights I went to sleep breathing in the delicious smell of mint. Heaven.

Well folks, my beer has claimed its first victim. I went down the garden this morning and there he was, floating flat on his back with a happy smile on his face.
One down and 999,999,999,999 to go.

x

Popperwell

Thank you so much, heartfelt hugs are sent your way...
x

It has been easier than I thought. It does seem strange that physically that is all that remains of someone special but what matters is what remains in the heart and the memories I have.

I could go out but don't feel the "need" to or have to.

Fuddle's talk about meds has jogged my memory and I realise I haven't taken any of mine today...:eek:so I'll just start a little later than normal.

Did I say I am looking into another addition to my diet? I saw some cans of mixed bean salad and white bean salad(59p each)in Morrisons and half a can is said to be one of your five a day. So not too expensive. Will look some meal ideas up online.

Mrs_Veg_Plot

When I had to take citalopram I never noticed that it had any effect on my driving at all.

Mr VP is settling into his job at the airport. It is quite a change for someone who has had office jobs for the last 25yrs. We have now had the results of the MRI of his neck and the news is not good. There are a few things going wrong in there but the worst one is that two discs are calcifying and he has bars of bone that have grown into his spinal column, fortunately these have not reached his spinal cord yet. He is having worsening symptoms of pain and numbness especially down the length of his right arm from his shoulder to his fingers. We are seeing the Consultant next week to discuss treatment options/surgery. I am just so relieved that it has been found before any spinal cord damage occurred.
DD2 who has the genetic bone deformity of the neck has been told this week that she has extra bone growing inside her nose and this along with the facial asymmetry caused by her syndrome and her deviated septum following her broken nose are likely to be the cause of her frequent bouts of sinusitis. Following allergy testing and a CT of her sinuses they will then make a decision on surgery.
MIL needs a hip replacement and OH wants us to have her here for a while after the surgery which is absolutely fine by me.

My crystal ball is telling me to refresh my nursing skills.

A friend has gone away to Spain for 5 weeks leaving 17yr old daughter behind (she did not want to go) and we are on standby to help her deal with any emergencies. Not sure what state the house will be in as housework/laundry is not something she ever does :eek:.

The veg in the garden are growing really well and salad leaf production is fantastic. Blackbirds have beaten us to the first red strawberry (time to get them netted) and OH has knocked the other one off the plant. The allotment is slowly coming together but I am still restricted due to my back although the physio this time seems to be helping.

Mar your Kelp tablets really seem to have made a wonderful difference to you,make the most of your new found energy and enjoy yourself.

Popperwell

I am on a small dose of that AD and I feel I am doing most of it myself but it has been a wonderful help. I don't feel like a zombie or that I am not in control. Just don't dwell on things. They are placed where they should be. They don't take me over.

I only started in May and I think it is a six months course. So I had already managed the hardest period without a crutch.

shegar

MRS V PLOT , I think citalipram are not very strong at all, I started on small mg and worked up but it didnt do me any good whatsoever, plus hubby had the same affect as me on them, and has been taken off them, drs usually start you off on them ............

Hubby now on 30mg Mirtazipine, and im on 20 mg prozac............

Its been very cloudy here today , no rain which would have been nice for the garden, but no summer either...:mad:.....What a bl**dy year for weather again, no wonder people go abroad , at least the weather is near enough guaranteed, cant say about UK , need winter coats on in the summer here.......
Sorry to hear some of you in the wars way way or other.......

Got a bleeding rat under summerhouse :eek:, ive got 2 traps set ,must get him before they multiply, thats the only animal I would ever kill, I just cant stand them ......................
Ive not been up to much at all, just peace and quiet of the home and garden and the wildlife in it.............

Ive got loads of gooseberries, about another week and they will be ready to pick, nice crumble:D.......

Bramley apple tree looks full of fruit too , plus the orange pippin eating apples, I do love my fruit......
I reckon I will be in bed by 8 tonight , still feel drained , but sleep will cure me.......Sheila

bunbun2

I wanted to pop in and say hello and that my post the other day was not just a one off. It takes me a while to settle in but I will...

fuddle my OH takes citalopram. he did stop a few months ago as he said they were making him really tired but this time hasn't commented on the tiredness. he has had one to one counselling and is now doing a wellbeing and mindfulness course. He said both have helped him.