'supporting each other through really tough times'

Byatt · 30 May 2013 at 5:19PM

[STRIKE]I don't know if I'm allowed to post this on here, but all this talk about cinemas reminded me I had 2 codes for tickets for CineWor£d, valid until (book by?) 31/07/13, the cinemas are too far from me to benefit from but if someone would like them please let me know. [/STRIKE] Gone now

Hopefully I don't get a slapped wrist, as I don't benefit from anything, just seems a shame to waste.

[Deleted User] · 30 May 2013 at 5:22PM

The world is an unfair place isn't it? Yesterday He Who Knows took down some dead trees at the request of the ladies in the sheltered housing that backs on to our allotments from thier garden, today he gets a very rude phone call from the allotment secretary shouting her head off because he has according to her taken down trees from HER hedge. He has done so much work for the allotment committee over the years we've been involved it is NOT acceptable to treat him as a minion and shout at him without letting him get a word in. She'll get me on the phone next time, and I feel she might be told a few home truths, Oh I am soooooooo cross!!!

kezlou · 30 May 2013 at 6:08PM

Just came back from the family fun day and i'm completely shattered.
My sister and her three girls came along, ds1 stayed at home with the measles. Poor kid swear were cursed. took ds2 along and he loved it, spent lots of playing with his cousins and other friends.

Thanks everyone for last night, i still felt guilty but i did enjoy myself. She suffers from agrophobia and it was her first alone without children, OH so i didn't come home till very late. We both had a good up and it was great.
I still feel extremely guilty though, ds2 had a go at me about being out all night, he's 9 going on 99:rotfl:

At the fun day they was a lot of cattiness going about, and two people who i thought were my friends just swanned off to a completely different table and didn't bother trying to talk to me. Felt so low, my sister said they were just gossiping about people and kept looking over at me and whispering. She said to you who your real friends are the ones who sat on the table with us.
Have to admit she was right, i got picked up by five other parents and they kids in a minibus to the fun day. Shared the fares and all sat at the same table. I felt comfortable knowing that if i went to the loo ds2 would always have someone to go to if anything happens and watching over him.
My sister has never attended a disability / special needs fun day before, and she wants to come along to a an event on Monday and another at the end of June. She said kez i can't believe how nice the people who we are sat with are. They have never met me before yet they acting like they've known me for years.

Yet the my supposed really good friends just sat between themselves on a different table chatting away and didn't even acknowledge her. Just goes to show, it takes someone new to the scene to see it.

It was really though, i'm shattered as the girls and ds2 had jumping on the bouncing castle. Also me being a mature grown woman, not, decided to chase around a group of kids and play tigs with. I feel like i've run a marathon lol.

So the past few days have been good and we've enjoyed ourselves today so much . Now can't wait to chill out and have a bath.

homerdog · 30 May 2013 at 6:14PM

Happy Birthday Pops xx

kezlou · 30 May 2013 at 6:17PM

Oh i forgot to say even though ds1 wasn't there his friends were all over ds2 and making sure he was alright. I was so pleased, while his supposed friend just left him and played football, which ds2 couldn't do because his arm is still in a cast. the same friends mam p!ssed around the shopping centre for almost an hour and left her kids with me! I was fuming said ooh i'm just getting our lunches form gregg$ and i'll come straight back. Instead she went into all the shops, while i couldn't leave the kids to get our lunch! I was fuming, especially as she didn't apologise nothing, not even a thank you. This is from the same friends who sat on a different table form us the whole time.

And breathe..........

sorry i have no to rant on to at real life, my sister told me to be rid of them and don't give them the satisfaction of acknowledging what they did today. She was fuming, so i'm going to do just that. New start and gad i have a real friends who actually care aand a sister to go to family days / nights with.:D

Happy birthday pops!

Hardup_Hester · 30 May 2013 at 6:48PM

GQ, we have the same problem at work, also with Essex, Sussex & Arsenal!!

kidcat · 30 May 2013 at 7:56PM

Happy Birthday Pop

Kez - your sister is right, I have found that out many times the hard way.
your true friends are the ones who will come out in the middle of the night because you are locked out, or who will sit and listen to you cry at three in the morning.

Byatt · 30 May 2013 at 8:12PM

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

The world is an unfair place isn't it? Yesterday He Who Knows took down some dead trees at the request of the ladies in the sheltered housing that backs on to our allotments from thier garden, today he gets a very rude phone call from the allotment secretary shouting her head off because he has according to her taken down trees from HER hedge. He has done so much work for the allotment committee over the years we've been involved it is NOT acceptable to treat him as a minion and shout at him without letting him get a word in. She'll get me on the phone next time, and I feel she might be told a few home truths, Oh I am soooooooo cross!!!

Mrs Lw, how horribly upsetting.

Whether she feels in the right or not there is no need to be so rude or bullying. If she calls again I would hang up immediately, unless she can talk in a reasonable manner.

kez, true friends, are few and far between and often you can count them on one or two fingers. Anyone that behaves in the manner those 2 did should be wiped off your radar, don't give them any more of your energy.

Popperwell · 30 May 2013 at 8:30PM

Thank you everyone for your best wishes and kindness over my time here and for my birthday...the weather was dull but the rain stayed off...

I am tired and its been a long day. My friend was kind and gave me a meal out. And paid for everything.

Could be my first meal out for many many years. If any criticism the portion was too big to finish and that was one course(how do you eat a starter/desert?)

I had asked for a basic salad but they also brought two very small toppings with it. The containers were the tiniest I have ever seen.

The meal I guess was quite reasonable price wise, mine was £4.95 but those toppings added another £1.95! I avoided having a drink(ancohol or tea/coffee)helped keep the price down for my friend and I persuaded him to come home by bus using a pass(that saved a little too)

My friend added a surprise to the day, a look around the local railway exhibition centre but we squeezed quite a lot into the day(though I struggled physically)hence being tired(in bed now)think I'll sleep well tonight.

I'm glad that we started no earlier than approx 10.30am(it was enough time to do everything)he would have left an hour earlier. It was kind, a change and different to how it probably would've been, on my own.