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wondercollie

mardatha wrote: »

Ooooooo can you get aniseed/liquorice tea??? What's that called?

In my kitchen? Foul, disgusting, blewww:D

mardatha

Oh god I love anything that tastes of liquorice...and tea is bound to be cheaper than ouzo or pernod !

Popperwell

Thank You everyone...
Hope they don't land earlier than that...not sure I have time to dust but I have hoovered...No, if I had stuff from floor to ceiling and was having to squeeze past lots of stuff I could understand it!

Will continue to get rid of stuff using the wheelie bins and my gardener...he's better than the refuse collection but it cost me a fair bit. A bit too much to be totally honest but he did strimmer the back garden down too. And the tip is a bit of a distance away so what with the cost of petrol etc...

Anything that needs going through is the garage where most of it was in the first place...I have those small strong blue bags for garden rubbish so can do it one or two per week...

He said should they want to go into the garage and should they say anything to let them know he's helping. I have thrown some items away that were not rubbish but I couldn't be bothered to have them take space up...glass decanter with glasses and a hand bell as examples...I let a scrap man who was passing take a way a foot spa, just happy to see it go.

I emailed my phone number to you but will be ready to phone your landline if they arrive before you do, Thanks again, I really appreciate it. Wish I had been given the bank holiday weekend and they'd visited on Tuesday when the repairmen visit to check out the heating system...

wondercollie

mardatha wrote: »

Oh god I love anything that tastes of liquorice...and tea is bound to be cheaper than ouzo or pernod !

I have very vague memories of my 18th birthday, an off duty crew of Fireman buying me birthday drinks and Pernod was in the mix. Add in a Haggis Supper and it wasn't a pretty evening.

VJsmum

Good luck tomorrow, Pops - I really like your J M Barrie quote, if only we could, eh?
McCulloch - you are one super kind lady

Hello all - I am back after a marking marathon. But tis all done and I am once more in the real world looking aghast at the devastation that is my house. Ironically DD's room is the only one that is tidy - there's a turn up for the books.

Kidcat - you are amazing, if I may share a little story. My aunt (mum's younger sister) caught meningitis when she was only a few months old and it left her with a mental and developmental disability. I would say she is roughly aged 10 - 12 mentally. Her and my nan lived with one of mums other sisters (who was childless) for many years. After nan died Aunty asked to go into a unit with others like her - at this point she must have been 40 ish. She lives in a - I don't like to say "home" - but a room in a shared house with a warden I guess. She is safe and happy and has been there 30 years and doesn't want to ever leave. Mum and her siblings used to worry themselves silly over what would become of her when nan died and they needn't have.

Now tea. I love a darjeeling - it is one of the lighter teas and more palatable than Assam. On a day to day basis i drink Rooibos tea which is a herbal tea from S. Africa but tastes similar to real tea - but not so tea-y. I even took some to Cape Town years ago :rotfl: I'm also quite partial to tea made in a pot that usually has earl grey or lapsang in it - or adding a pinch of either to a pot of tea. Just gives it a flavour without being overpowering.

I really must go to bed.

kezlou

oh my OH just came back in, he's worked a total of 14hrs today. Its been like this all week.Came in gave him his sausage casserole, think he was that tired he only had half. Then got another phone and he's back out on a job. I'm fuming told him to tell the guy to leave it till Saturday.

Hmm not happy at all, he's shattered and is coming down with a cold.Well i think its a cold, fingers crossed its not measles.


So now just waiting for him to come back so we can go to bed, i'm shattered but lift the mattress on my own where ds2 wet the bed earlier.

I think darjeeling is the one in between i sometimes buy, it medium and mild at the same time.
I can't get away with roobi tes vj, it just isn't tea, tried it and couldn't handle being without caffiene.

mcculloch29

Pops thanks, somehow I'd missed your mail with your number. Got it now. See you in the morning, cycling in that wind will be "interesting" . As long as it's below 35 mph I'll be ok, above that is a bit dodgy.

savingqueen

Hi everyone,

sorry missed posting recently, lost a couple of long posts and then I couldn't seem to find the right words to say some stuff so took it as a sign to stay silent (phew you all say!)

Kidcat - you have had a tough couple of days, good you are taking stock and making a plan.... nearly everything is better with a plan. You are an extraordinary mum and your son (and all your family) are so lucky to have you on their side.

Been all over the place emotionally of late but I am plodding on peacefully with life and ok with my lot today.

I have been assertive with someone who has been trying to take advantage of me. I have looked after her child a few times before (she is a neighbour and her son is a classmate of my son) and she never collects him as arranged so I have to go over to hers. The last time no-one answered the door for ages and then a grumpy man (child's dad) snapped that he was asleep! Errr excuse me, I am bringing back your child much later than planned, waiting on your doorstep with my kids for a long time and your 5 year old child is getting anxious (didn't say all that but thought it). Neighbours have never offered to have DS over and woman often blanks me at the school.

Today a text comes through near school run demanding (not even asking) me to collect her son, though she did add please. I ignored it this time. I know she uses after school care and just before school pick-up she texted to say she has arranged them to collect so I knew her boy would be safe and anyway school wouldn't let him out on his own. I texted her to say best not ask me again as I often have my phone off during courses or when I am driving (both true, well on silent anyway in case the school phone) and I am not a named contact for her child. I got a text back simply "noted...thx". :rotfl:

Feel a bit uncomfortable as will see her at school and in the street but I would rather cope with feeling uncomfortable than feeling a doormat. This is the newly emergent, assertive savingqueen!! I helped a woman who couldn't get her last 10p in the car park ticket machine with a coin today and went up to an elderly man quietly sobbing on a bench to offer him some comfort so I know I'm not really 'orrible and some karma has been restored .

I alternate between earl grey tea, basics tea and instant coffee in both ordinary and decaff varieties. Earl grey is my favourite tea and I use my china teapot and cup (all in one job) for a special treat - otherwise it's just in a mug!

I love reading all the garden(ing) posts as our garden isn't up to much. One day I will have a lovely garden though .

I have posh cat on my lap as I type, he has the softest fur like black velvet and the loudest purr. Total stress relief to stroke him.

sq:)

meanmarie

Good luck tomorrow Pops....glad that McCulloch will be with you as I think that you may have been a bit too meek and mild with them.

Think that we are all suffering from too little sun, too much cold and too much stress....hopefully we will have even a few weeks of summer.

Kidcat....guilt is a mother's thing, try to put it on a shelf now and then as it is unlikely to go away although quite unnecessary in your case.

Hugs to all who could use some

Marie

savingqueen

meanmarie wrote: »

Good luck tomorrow Pops....glad that McCulloch will be with you as I think that you may have been a bit too meek and mild with them.

Think that we are all suffering from too little sun, too much cold and too much stress....hopefully we will have even a few weeks of summer.

Kidcat....guilt is a mother's thing, try to put it on a shelf now and then as it is unlikely to go away although quite unnecessary in your case.

Hugs to all who could use some

Marie

ditto all of above from me too! night Marie and everyone and lets see what tomorrow brings for us all...hopefully a little sunshine! I will try a little game I play tomorrow. I smile at as many strangers as I can and see how many smile back.