Nosey Mom!

Primrose

It's simply that you're still incredibly important to her and she still wants to be involved in your life. It's not the same as having a nosey neighbour. Wish my mum was still alive to be nosey about what I was doing. My activities always added another dimension to her sometimes rather isolated life so I always tried to keep her up to date even though she lived a fair distance away.

pigpen

Primrose wrote: »

It's simply that you're still incredibly important to her and she still wants to be involved in your life. It's not the same as having a nosey neighbour. Wish my mum was still alive to be nosey about what I was doing. My activities always added another dimension to her sometimes rather isolated life so I always tried to keep her up to date even though she lived a fair distance away.

I totally understand what you mean but when they have so little going on in their lives they are quite prone to telling random people in the supermarket/street/bus/post office at volumes audible in Australia about your smear or your finances or whatever else springs to mind.. There is a need for discretion they just seem to forget once they get to a certain age.

Treevo

Primrose wrote: »

It's simply that you're still incredibly important to her and she still wants to be involved in your life. It's not the same as having a nosey neighbour. Wish my mum was still alive to be nosey about what I was doing. My activities always added another dimension to her sometimes rather isolated life so I always tried to keep her up to date even though she lived a fair distance away.

My must every thread about a complaint with a mother end up with someone turning up and playing the dead mother card? Your mum may have been a saint, mine is fantastic, my friend's mum isn't. She's evil and uses every bit of information she can get to hurt her daughter. Try to remember that when you try and make someone feel guilty for having a problem with someone who gave birth to them.

securityguy

dibuzz wrote: »

She also tries to sneak around, the other day I was upstairs when she came in

Why didn't she ring the doorbell like normal people do?

loracan1

juliethemuse wrote: »

and even when my smear test was due and to make sure I went to have it done.and of course the results whatever they were. I thought it was incredibly rude. I felt I wasnt entitled to a private life at all.


If I had a doctors appointment she had to be given chapter and verse.
She knew how much it annoyed me but still kept on doing it.

I'm amazed anyone would feel that way - it sounds like normal parenting to me. I will spend the rest of my life being concerned over my sons' health and hoping they grow to be old men, if nagging them about medical appointments will put my mind at rest I'll be being 'rude' too!

pigpen

loracan1 wrote: »

I'm amazed anyone would feel that way - it sounds like normal parenting to me. I will spend the rest of my life being concerned over my sons' health and hoping they grow to be old men, if nagging them about medical appointments will put my mind at rest I'll be being 'rude' too!

And God help mine with his diabetes.. I am bad enough now while he is 14.. I can still see me asking to look at his book when he is 75! lol. I'll grill him about hospital appointments for this but probably not anything else.

Nothing in my family is sacred so I know when everyone is due a smear (my sister had hers 2 weeks ago lol), what contraception they use and pretty much their income too... they know very little about my life I'd wager... I seem to be the go-to person when they don't want their mother to know.. lucky me!

Abbafan1972

CH27 wrote: »

I don't see a problem with her wanting to know about holidays when she cares for the children in school holidays.
Out of politeness alone you should be letting her know how much & when she will need to have them.

She already gets to know this well in advance. I don't get school holidays off, so she wants to know how many bookable days I get.

My Mom will read letters if I leave them around, so I have to put them away. When I was job hunting and going to the job centre, I kept my stuff in a plastic sleeve and I always kept it handy, but if my Mom was coming round I had to hide it.

In the past I have teased her with my DH's payslip, they come in the post and have the tear off sides so you can't re-seal it once you've opened it. So I've left an unopened one lying around before, so I know she can't look at it.

securityguy

loracan1 wrote: »

I if nagging them about medical appointments will put my mind at rest I'll be being 'rude' too!

Presumably you won't mind when they stop talking to you?