Really want someone to talk to right now. :-(

gingin_2

You not listened to the advice given here and I think until you do and learn to back off, give space, take time, not over-analyse and enjoy and take each day as it comes, you will continue to have these short, intense relationships.

Your posts in this thread seem emotionally turbulent, up and down, confused and angry.

'Fraid I've given you the honest truth, as I see it. I feel very sorry for this girl, she's been through a lot these last few weeks and I think you have just added pressure on her. Leave her be and if she wants you, she will come calling.

VestanPance

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

I've been too busy with sorting some stuff in my bathroom today. I only texted her the once this afternoon, just to ask her how she was getting on. No response. Frankly I no longer care.

I honestly just did a real world facepalm on reading that.

jen007

OP you're acting like I used to.
Stop it, you're always going to self destruct relationships if you carry on like this.
You still care and in a few weeks, if you're like 'the old me' as I suspect, you'll be texting her to see how she is.

You've ruined it, move on and learn from your actions.

Errata

You've moved on, and it wasn't so difficult was it? Now ........

Do. Not.Txt. Or. Phone. Or. Write.

podperson

VestanPance wrote: »

I honestly just did a real world facepalm on reading that.

Glad it wasn't just me. OP -really, all the advice has been pretty much unanimous but you still don't seem to take any notice of it. Are you actually capable of not contacting her for a few days? This obsessive and over-analytical behaviour is really not healthy - and I strongly suggest you try and look into ways you can deal with it (possibly with outside help) otherwise every other relationship you attempt to have is going to go the exact same way as this one.

System

oh dear, your really not doing yourself any favours by messaging her again.

bright_side

I would suggest you leave this now before she (understandably) gets nasty. I have been in your shoes, so I know what happens when you continuously push someone who's just not interested.

Just because you were/are both looking for a serious long term relationship doesn't mean you were destined for each other.

lufcgirl

You sound exactly like I used to behave with an ex of mine. I've just sat there for the past twenty minutes laughing at how stupid I actually was!

The point is though, the fact you need to tell us all you text her (again) shows you are bothered. If you weren't you wouldn't have text her in the first place to ask how she's getting on. I should know, I did the same myself.

What you really need to do is put your mobile to one side, even if it's for a few hours while you go shopping/out with friends and learn to not keep feeling like you have to text her. It doesn't work, they get annoyed, they don't reply and then you feel ten times worse for texting! So my advice would be to stay away from her, don't even ask how she is. If she wants to talk to you she will make it happen, mine does the same with me now all of a sudden because I don't chase anymore.

It worked out for me, and we're really good friends a year on. Just because we don't work in a relationship didn't mean we couldn't be awesome friends.

OptimusNemesis

Said it before and I'll say it again - you guys have some funny ideas about me! lol

I get the impression some of the replies are based on reading other replies, rather than reading what I said. It's a bit frustrating but never mind - I do still appreciate the feedback all the same.

I haven't been texting incessantly for weeks - it was for a few days this week because I haven't been in a good place. I had my mum crying on the phone to me saying she was in pain, my ex demanding £5,000 from me and also the fact that someone I really liked had moved away, just as things seemed to be going really well.

I didn't realise what the volume of the texts I was sending was until she pointed out to me that I was sending 3 or 4 for every 1 she sent. Once she said that I went back and looked and saw she was right - so I apologised and said I'd back off. Which I've done. I only sent one yesterday and I haven't texted her at all today; although I have replied to an email she sent me because she said she'd like for us to start emailing again like we used to.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over myself. As has been pointed out on here, we've only been seeing eachother a few weeks although, to be fair, we've both said how surprised we are at how quickly things fell into place for both of us. There is a definite connection and chemistry between us when we are together or when we talk online or similar. I can't really explain it - I think it is the kind of thing you can only understand if you experience it. Fortunately we both feel it so it makes sense to us if nobody else!

I need to think some of the stuff over myself because, as exciting as it has been, there is some stuff she has mentioned that concerns me (I'm not going to say precisely what). I think I need to be careful that I don't get carried away with it all, agree to make regular trips or whatever and then make a big mess out of it.

A lot of my posts on here have been thinking out loud kind of posts - I never really had any intention of quickly finding someone else - it was more me letting off steam than anything.

Having said that, she has told me the reason why she hadn't texted me and it has made me think that I'm not as sure about things as I was before.

When the time is right and she's ready, I will talk it over with her. Right now, I feel a bit worn out and tired of it all - so a break while she thinks over whether she wants to try or not is a good idea.

- G

AppleGirl_3

i had to sign up and post when I read this thread.
i think there are some real heartless people on here this poor guy is clearly is having a tough time and your hurling abuse at hime calling him a stalker a nut job and other things I bet he feels lots better now.
it soudns to me like this girl is just messing you about blowing hot and cold. maybe she has someone in ireland that she is hoping to get back with and your her plan b? it sounds like shes keeping you hanging on for a reason and juts stopping replying to texts is plain childish especially if she is still talking to you through facebook and emails!!
you sound nice to me just stressed at the mo. if that girl really liked you then she would miss you so i think that something is not right there if she is happy to not speak to you. you should just move on and find somebody else. ignore some of the snots on here who are saying its all you as it doesnt sound like it is.

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