Concerns Over Next Door Neighbour

ragdoll

I think I would be a little nervous too, but do think the best approach is, like some others have said, is to get to know him a little bit. If you know him when he is at his best it is true you will know the signs if he starts to become ill again.
His mother clearly still cares about him even though he caused the death of her daughter so there may be more to the story than the neighbours gossip has implied.

sassyblue

I feel for you OP, you're living with fear of the unknown for the moment... lm sure no one would choose to have a murderer for a neighbour despite all the pleas to 'live and let live. Mitigating circumstances or not, you're living next to someone who's taken another persons life.

l probably would ring the police and see what they can advise, just for security advice? As long as your family's security in place that's the main thing. You can bet his rehabilitators know a young family is living next door and he wouldn't be released if he was a threat.

l would still be polite to him and his family if you get the chance to speak, his mum is his best judge of character and she hasn't turned her back on him, you can be sure he will be watched closely as he comes back.

floss2

harrys_nan wrote: »

Im sorry but in the scheme of things I do have some sympanthy for the op, he doesnt know this family so have nothing to judge his feelings on. Once the chap moves in and a little while has passed the op feelings may very well change and they all become good neigbours to each other.

antw23uk wrote: »

Sorry i would be looking to move if i thought for one second my wife and children could be at danger! Sorry

To be quite honest, you are basing your opinions on repeated gossip from the OP's neighbours - which may not even be 50% accurate, never mind 100%.

OP, I would as others have suggested greet the neighbour & his mum when you see them, encurage your family to politely do the same.

Oh, and IF he or his mum ever share any personal information with you then respect their confidences and do not reply "Oh yes, mrs such-and-such at number 94 said that you'd killed your sister".

bluestarlight

His mum sounds like she has been through so much.
It cant be easy to deal with something like that and still go round and tend the house and look after your ill son while the neighbours gossip about you both.

duchy

So did you google or research in any way or is your only source neighbourhood gossip ?

duchy

Checking land registry will cost you about a fiver.......if you are genuinely concerned that hardly seems an excessive amount to spend on research.

It seems unlikely *if* the gossip is correct that there wasn't some mention of this incident in at the very least the local papers -which would show up on google or at worst require an archive search at the paper.

pearl123

Under the mental health act he has a right to privacy, which is why you would not get much info from the Police.
http://www.bihr.org.uk/sites/default/files/bihr_mental-health_guide.pdf

He would be medicated and therefore unlikely to pose a treat. With schizophrenia it pretty soon becomes obvious that someone has a problem and should that ever evolve it should be reported promptly. The fact that he has family around him is great as he is supported. Also he would have a mental health team supporting him if he's done what you suggest he has.

Gordon_Hose

Anyone one of us on this forum could be living next door to a killer. It's only because someone told you that you're now worried. If you'd never found out you'd have got on with your lives.

If it bothers you that much. Move.

LEJC

nfollows1982 wrote: »

Hi everyone,


Here’s the story…………………………


To my surprise/horror I’m not sure if it was a murder charge or manslaughter, but either way, he killed her


an old lady comes round once or twice a week, cuts the grass and potters around; I eventually found out this woman is his mother. I’ve never really liked her or got on with her but I have seen her around over the last few years.


I don’t want to sound too judgemental but we are concerned about him being there.

I wouldn’t be that bothered if it was just me but I have since married and we have a daughter who is 9 and my wife is 29 weeks pregnant. She is becoming very anxious when she knows he is in the house on his own.

I’m not really sure what to do. Do I have any right to find out about his mental rehab? Is he fit to be released into the community etc etc?

What would you do?

ok I admit its an edited version of you original post Ive quoted ...but to me it does sound like you have an issue with this just as much as your wife...you have been jugemental of the man and his mother and it seems that over the years you havent made any attempt to get to on with the mother when she has been there...I doubt that youve ever had a meaningful conversation with her,relying instead on the accounts of other neighbours.

Even if what has been recounted to you is only half the truth, you seem very concerned about your families safety...whether that concern is justified only you can answer that,but honestly when I read your posts I cant help think that the only way the situation will be resolved is if either you and you family or he moves...no amount of security on your property will change how you and your wife feel,so its really up to you to either change your mindset or move,and I'm sorry if that sounds blunt.This man deserves the right to return to his home without interferance from you or anyone else.

Fire_Fox

nfollows92 may I suggest you edit your last two posts urgently, it is VERY easy to find the case with the information you have supplied. You have not only identified yourself but brought it to the attention of a load of complete strangers - possibly including people in your local area - that this person has moved home. Ever heard of vigilante action? What about privacy? :mad: