Manners - are they changing?

OrkneyStar

-lack of please and thank-you, in almost any age.
-ramming into you with a trolley or hovering behind, instead of saying 'excuse me'
-allowing dog to poop everywhere
-allowing kids to act like they are in a playground wherever they are. I have a 5 yr old, I realise kids need to run and play, but some places are just not suitable environments for that and children need to learn that sometimes they have to be quiet and still!
-laughing when their child hits or otherwise hurts another child, or completely ignoring the child's bad behaviour, or (even worse) saying something like 'oh the shop assistant will tell you off'!
-OAP's who assume they are ALWAYS in the right, when sometimes they are and sometimes they are not! Eg the lady who shoved me out the way to get a trolley but then growled at me for being startled when she did!
-folk who park in front of other cars/at stupid places even when there are parking spaces free!
-folk who ask me to get them things on the high shelf then give me 'the look' when I explain I cannot due to my back.........
Think that is all. I try to ignore it mostly, but this thread did ask us, so hey that's my vent. Feel better now

meritaten

Feel free to vent!!! and especially newbies, feel free to join in! I did ASK for your opinions, stories etc!!!!!!!!!!
if the thread goes off at a tangent - well, thats fine too! sometimes one topic will lead naturally to another and we can always get back on track if someone wants to! I believe its called 'conversation'!

lostinrates

meritaten wrote: »

Feel free to vent!!! and especially newbies, feel free to join in! I did ASK for your opinions, stories etc!!!!!!!!!!
if the thread goes off at a tangent - well, thats fine too! sometimes one topic will lead naturally to another and we can always get back on track if someone wants to! I believe its called 'conversation'!

Ok, as you offered vent space.....

I can cope with quick eaters, it's their body that gets indigestion, but not huge mouthful takers and noisey ones. I find the noise of people masticating can be really off putting. (my problem I accept). One of my parents now has a sinus issue which makes them a noisey eater, and I find this really, very difficult ad off putting. We keep a chatty table to limit the impact. Should this person take an oversized bite or something I become somewhat revolted.

This hang up I see as my problem, because it is a genuine medical issue for my parent, but I still find my appetite is reduced eating with them.

As for not blowing nose at the table, while its not desirable the alternative would often be worse, so I 'cope' with that with relief!

TheBanker

How's this?

I was waiting in the bank last weekend. The arrangement is that you take a ticket and then sit down until your number is called. A mother was waiting with her son who I think was about 4. Suddenly he announced "Mum, I need a pi$$".

Mum's reaction: She didn't tell him off for using foul language. Instead she said to me, "If my number's called, you can go. I need to take my son for a pi$$"!

LameWolf

OrkneyStar wrote: »

-allowing dog to poop everywhere

I so agree! I'm a host for a dog-sitting service, so I get all kinds of canine guests staying with me; but I never ever take them for walks without a goodly supply of poo-bags about my person.

It's vile, and if you get it on wheelchair wheels, it inevitably gets transferred to hands and sleeves as well.:(

OrkneyStar

LameWolf wrote: »

I so agree! I'm a host for a dog-sitting service, so I get all kinds of canine guests staying with me; but I never ever take them for walks without a goodly supply of poo-bags about my person.

It's vile, and if you get it on wheelchair wheels, it inevitably gets transferred to hands and sleeves as well.:(

There is frequently poo on the paths very near our local primary school.....I just question what sort of person lets a dog foul so near where primary school children will clearly be! Annoying!
It must be really annoying to roll through it-yuck!

Fruball

andygb wrote: »

I reckon that 90% of people do not know what manners are.
How many "yummy mummys" can keep their children under control, stop them blocking pavements, stop the running riot in shops, stop them barging into people, make them apologise when they are wrong, do not give dirty looks to people going about their daily business, as if your daily tasks are more important.
Have a bit of consideration for other people.

I can and am often told that my children are a credit to me because they DO know how to behave and be polite. However, I know a lot that can't.

meritaten wrote: »

Feel free to vent!!! and especially newbies, feel free to join in! I did ASK for your opinions, stories etc!!!!!!!!!!
if the thread goes off at a tangent - well, thats fine too! sometimes one topic will lead naturally to another and we can always get back on track if someone wants to! I believe its called 'conversation'!

Best post ever!!! I dislike it when people on threads are 'accused' of going off topic when, like normal conversations, that is what happens naturally! Topics seem always to go back to topic at some point.

I had an interesting experience at a T0by Carvery today. A couple (mid 30's?) sat opposite my DDs and me - she ate with cutlery in wrong hands but I have no issue with that if other manners are acceptable but HE.... ate the whole big roast dinner with only a fork!!! I really didn't know this was even possible.

On trying to 'cut' his yorkshire pud with the side of the fork, he managed to cover himself, the table and chair with gravy. I quickly filled my mouth just to stop myself from commenting! Anyway, he obviously learned his lesson and picked up [STRIKE]his knife to cut the yorkshire pud properly [/STRIKE]the Yorkshire, dunked it in the gravy and ate it with his hands :eek:

As the meal progressed he began to notice that each time he laied his arms on the table, more gravy would appear on his top... By this time he was mildly embarrassed, making jokes about it and had noticed me trying to hide my mirth... I pointed out, with a grin, that the gravy was also on the hem of his jeans and on his boots too.

His GF couldn't believe it and said she ought to get him one of those t0mmie tippie plastic bibs that catch food... at which point I laughed and said "I can't believe my girls haven't a drop of gravy on them and yet you are covered in it!"

She then said that when they got home, the dog would think he was dinner.

It was all done with good humour. It was an accident and it was quite funny, but would have been avoided if he had just picked up and used the knife!!!

(I wonder if they noticed when I was reminding my DD to hold her cutlery correctly?!)

lostinrates

I naturally eat wrong side round (I do a lot of things the wrong way round left/right) but always eat right way round when not just at home with family, our close friends...it's one of those things, I can do, it just feels odd to me.

Since I developed neurological issues I often find I eat with only a fork if possible. This is partly because it's easier for me, and also because resting a wrist (of for an elbow opn the table) both steadys my movement, but most importantly takes a lot of pain and pressure from my back. No idea why. I tend to prepar a little food, swap to eat 'American style' with fork, then change again and cut some more. All properly.


I think if we were more regimented and always ate at a table I perhaps would have Been concious of how small movements can really alleviate pain. Tbh, dining is now a bit of a hell rather than a great pleasure, as sitting t a table for a long time is extremely uncomfortable for me. I hate that.

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Interesting thread. Many people have mentioned quick eaters - this has always been an issue for me even as a child. As the slowest eater in my house as a child, the rest of my family would help themselves to food off my plate once they had all finished theirs! More recently I was invited for dinner to a colleagues house and was amazed when both my hosts ate their food so quickly I had barely eaten half of mine. They then started clearing up, leaving me at the table to eat alone.

I also agree with other posters about children's behaviour when eating out. Recently, at a local eatery with 3 children aged between 10 and 6 the children screaming, shouting and anywhere but their seats, running around the table, under the table and being rude to the waiters. At no point were they checked by their parents.

And yet there are alot of great people out there who even although their manners may not be polished by any means are people I would rather be with than those who have 'perfect' manners due to their sense of fun, down to earth nature and the fact that they would always be the ones to be there when you need someone the most. Even if their elbows are on the table;).

CupOfChai

While reading this I've just learnt a lesson about not playing with my food. I currently have some Maltesers and tried to do the trick where you make it hover, failed and dropped it. Hunted about for said Malteser and couldn't find it anywhere, then slowly came to the realisation it had fallen down my cleavage