New mum- am I being unreasonable

AnnaLicious_2

Reading all of these and your replies, somethings really strike me.
1. You know your baby being taken away from you and passed around to strangers upsets him.
2. You know it is very wrong of your MIL to whisper nasty things about you to the baby and that this will increase.
However, you seem to have taken a really passive stance to this, and just getting worried to the point of being sick. Why are you waiting for your husband to sort this out? Why are you not telling him that he visits on his own now?
You will have more and more fights to battle as your child gets older - rude parents at school, bad and indifferent teachers, kids pushing your son around on a playground. This is the time you learn to stand up for your child. When he goes to your inlaws he cries. He doesn't like being passed around, and when he gets older he will be upset by her insulting you. Stop contact. It's so simple. Your husband visits without you, and she never babysits.
After she has agreed to stop undermining you, and if she really wants to see the baby, she can perfectly well drive over, don't believe the nonsense about her driving certain places. She decides where that car goes.
YOU are the mother, and only YOU can protect that baby in the way that is needed now.

Poppyblue_2

My OH will not visit if i don't come with him. I know that there will be bigger battles in the future and am totally prepared to deal with horrible parents/teachers/children etc however I do not want my relationship with my inlaws to affect my little ones relationship with the paternal grandparents or my husbands relationship with his parents. I suppose I am trying to please everyone and ending up pleasing noone....... I have not visited for the past two weeks but am running out of excuses not to go.

CH27

You are not running out of excuses. Your OH doesn't want to go & that is reason enough.
Let him sort it.

PinkLipgloss

Poppyblue wrote: »

....... I have not visited for the past two weeks but am running out of excuses not to go.

Stuff that!

I'd be saying, "I'm not wiling to visit because I found your behaviour on my last visit to be unacceptable. If you wish to see your grandchild you may visit me at X (hours) on Y (day)."

LannieDuck

Why are you the one giving excuses? Let your OH deal with his parents.

Sambucus_Nigra

Poppyblue wrote: »

My OH will not visit if i don't come with him. I know that there will be bigger battles in the future and am totally prepared to deal with horrible parents/teachers/children etc however I do not want my relationship with my inlaws to affect my little ones relationship with the paternal grandparents or my husbands relationship with his parents. I suppose I am trying to please everyone and ending up pleasing noone....... I have not visited for the past two weeks but am running out of excuses not to go.

What are you on about? It's your inlaws that are affecting it...not you.

What are you trying to achieve here?