Siblings, Easter and Nut Allergy

Carmina_Piranha_3

don't take this the wrong way but it's probably not going to upset your children too much if these are family that you don't see from one year to the next.

super41

MINMOUSE wrote: »

From what my mum says they think we are OTT by not allowing nut products and things with warnings in the house so are trying to prove a point by making out what we are being awkward.

Well I think you're better off not receiving things from them then. I have nut allergy and have come across this attitude before, thankfully not as often these days with growing awareness. Keep up your nut awareness, it may be hard but it is worth it - vigilance is the best defence with allergies and better be safe than sorry.
Personally I see presents as a nice surprise rather than something to be expected every year. We don't give presents at Easter so its not something that would bother us.

ailuro2

Don't let it bother you, especially if the kids aren't bothered.
Better having a nut-free house than letting them in..:p

It's only a couple of quid a year, and if you continue to give but not receive then it makes them look worse in future years,imho.

Carmina_Piranha_3

does your mum understand that nut allergy is serious? perhaps she could explain to them ... how old is your brother? if this happened in my family my mum would buy extra presents to pass on, and pretend they were from the brother.

Oldernotwiser

Carmina_Piranha wrote: »

we're all different aren't we. i don't see chocolate eggs as having anything to do with Jesus

There's actually quite a lot of religious symbolism in Easter eggs and even without this, they're traditional. I object to the commercialisation of so many occasions ( Valentine's Day, Hallowe'en, New Year) where presents were never given but the public is now encouraged to see present buying - and cards - as the norm.

Justie

MINMOUSE wrote: »

thanks for all your replys. My broth and SIL are more than aware where to get nut free (Kinnerton) etc but think they are trying to prove a point. From what my mum says they think we are OTT by not allowing nut products and things with warnings in the house so are trying to prove a point by making out what we are being awkward. I am just more peeved that I have always made the effort with their kids and still continue to buy birthday/xmas pressies for them and their kids (now 21 and 24) although never see them from year to year. Mine are still young and he did give eggs to my sisters kids (all adults) but ignored mine. Will be rethinking this in the future. Sorry if this sounds petty but hate people that have double standards and would do anything for my dd not to have this horrible allergy. Even a card wishing them a happy easter would have been nicer than being ingored.

:eek: so you're over reacting because you don't want something in your house that could seriously harm your child? I really don't understand that. It sounds very petty on their part and I hope they never have such worries with their own children or grandchildren when the time comes.

I would keep doing what you're doing, if you're giving gifts because you want to then carry on, if you're doing it because it's expected or because you want to appear fair then maybe you should reasses that but there's no reason to make it tit for tat and if they refuse to put in a little bit of effort to make sure a gift is suitable then it reflects badly on them imo.

It may be worth reminding your mum and your brother of the consequences of what happens if your child comes into contact with nuts but I suspect it'd make little difference...

MINMOUSE

Have thought long and hard re this. My brother is 47 so old enough to know better. From now on going to give them cards but not pressies for Xmas etc as don't see the point. My kids will not miss things from them at all and although I do not give to receive would prefer to give pressies to people who mean more to us as a family than in name only.
Thanks for all your posts re this much appreciated.

lestinch

I think someone beat me to it, but what about books, clothes, or even vouchers? I don't like giving money, but my nieces & newphew are older <teens> now so they prefer that, they can then save it up & buy something they want.

looby75

asda have some lovely tshirts for £1.50. My best friends dd can't eat chocolate and tbh doesn't really like sweets full stop, so each year I get her a couple of tshirts for easter.

OP tbh your brother sounds like a total pratt, he's being pig headed not you. ((((hugs)))

pinkshoes

Easter Eggs rot your teeth!! I always got book vouchers for Easter instead!! With the exception of an easter egg that I won in a raffle, I've never had one, and never want one! besides, if it's the chocolate you want, then for the same amount of money you can get alot more chocolate in a bar than in an egg!!!

i do see your brother's point, i.e. knifes are also dangerous, as are household chemicals, and you wouldn't leave them in the reach of children, so it's not hard to lock up the chocolate, so maybe that's why he thinks you're overreacting? Personally, I would send his kids (only if they live at home) an EXTRA big easter egg just to make him feel bad!