Messy sibling (vent)

*max*

KxMx wrote: »

Personally I would pick amongst it to tidy up anything that is your fault. Then leave the rest for Mum to see and when she comments make sure to say "I did clean my stuff up yesterday".

I doubt they are children. I don't see why the mum should have to do anything or act as a mediator. It's the sisters' responsibility to sort it out between themselves as adults, it's their home.

FunWithFlags

KxMx wrote: »

Personally I would pick amongst it to tidy up anything that is your fault. Then leave the rest for Mum to see and when she comments make sure to say "I did clean my stuff up yesterday".

By picking up after her you are only making a rod for your own back. You won't get any thanks and she will do it time and again because you will have taught her that you will clean any mess she leaves.

And what a nice surprise that would be for poor mum who is expecting to return to a reasonably clean house!

OP, your sister sounds a bit selfish but if she doesn't intend to clean it up, I would do as previous posters suggested and dump all her stuff in her room and just do the rest as a favour to your mum. After her stuff has been dumped, the list doesn't really seem that long so probably won't take a full day off unless you turn it into a "woe is me" type martyr situation. I feel your pain though having messy sisters myself. My favourite mess was when my (at the time) sixteen year old sister was sick all over the bathroom and decided she was too tired to clean it up. I couldn't force her (unfortunately) and didn't want it to be a nice welcome home pressie for my mum so I had to suck it up (not literally) and clean it up. It wasn't fun and my sister "won" that round since I cleaned it but my mum was very glad I did lol.

Molly41

Poor Mum:(

MrsAtobe

Saturnalia wrote: »

Scoop up everything of your sister's that's cluttering the place up and either:

a) put it all in her bed

b) hide it in the boot of your car, your room, a friend's house etc. and tell sister you've binned the lot.

I'd just put the whole lot in black bags and put it out with the rest of the rubbish.:D

durham_girl

I woud dry off off the pee soaked clothes, fold them up.....and very generously put them away for her

KxMx

*max* wrote: »

I doubt they are children. I don't see why the mum should have to do anything or act as a mediator. It's the sisters' responsibility to sort it out between themselves as adults, it's their home.

From the OP it sounds like she is resigned to clearing up her sisters mess.

Perhaps if Mum gets home and sees that one sister is not pulling her weight something more forceful will be done- yes they are all adults but it's mums house, mums rules.

I am 25 and live with Mum, I live in her house and by her household rules in terms of cleaning and pitching in with the chores.

If one sister decided not to clean up after herself then the rule maker will carry more weight than a nagging sibling.

I've been in this situation, and can call myself a prize fool for cleaning up the other persons mess for so long and being taken 500% for granted time and again!

If OP cleans up after her sister it will just happen again and again, hence my comment about making a rod for her own back.

Denene

Wow - didn't expect so many replies! Thank you all.

Unfortunately my mum is well aware of my sister's messiness; she (mum) has even gone "on strike" a few times with no effect. It just doesn't seem to bother my sis, which would be alright if she lived alone, but the rest of us don't enjoy living in a midden!

I know what I've described doesn't seem too awful, but the house is just a trail of clutter and mess right from the front door (as she didn't bother lifting the post, or bringing in the bins either :mad:) Unfortunately it doesn't seem to cross her mind to do these things - she must think there's a magic tidying fairy or something!

Re the suggestions about dumping it all in her room - it would just moulder there, and it's already so messy I don't know if she'd notice) or car (boot is already full of her stuff, no idea why). I think we'll have to leave her on her own for a few weeks, and then maybe the penny will drop!

However, I'm feeling much better after some tea and a moan on the Internet, so I will get stuck in tomorrow morning, as I don't want my mum to come home to her house in a state. I am definitely considering hiding the cat-pee-shoes under sis's bed, though!

KiKi

...and as for the cat, a cat vomiting four times a day isn't normal. Has it been seen by a vet, poor thing?

I hope you get the house sorted; personally, I wouldn't bother cleaning anything that your sister left - I'd dump it in her room.

KiKi

Saturnalia

Put all the soggy stuff in her room and sprinkle cress seeds into it.

And scoop the cat vom into her shoes.

shjo558

If it was me, I would dump all her clutter on her bed, tidy your own stuff and sort the cat sick and litter tray as it's not the moggies fault!

If you tidy up for sis, you'll just set a precedence for all eternity.