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Messy sibling (vent)
Denene
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I am almost indescribably hacked off right now. Currently living with my mum and sister. Mum is away for 3 weeks, due back tomorrow, so sister and I responsible for housekeeping etc. I have worked full-time for past seven days, having had probably worst week of the year. Sister's day off today. Came home to find:
-handbags and shopping bags strewn in the hall, several days worth.
-shoes (several pairs) discarded wherever she kicked them off
-containers of last nights dinner and her plate left in kitchen ( I made dinner)
-tub of marg left on counter all day, so it has gone melty and manky
Baskets of dry clothes(hers) left unfolded for several days
-basket of soggy towels, which she was going to re-spin, then tumble dry, left in kitchen
- baskets of dirty clothes left outside washer
-cat has a bad habit of peeing on things if left on the floor. Noticed he has peed on 2 piles of her stuff, which she didn't bother putting away. She has neither cleaned her belongings or wiped up the pee
- cat also vomits. Left four little deposits today. She has sprayed carpet cleaner on, but not bothered to remove it
- duvet which needs laundered, has been spread out on the upstairs landing for 2 days (why?)
-bathroom is not too bad, as I cleaned it last week, but there's a big clump of her hair which she has pulled from the drain and left in the shower
Discarded belongings, including dirty makeup removal wipes (!) and coffee cups in the living room. This is not even going into the state of her foul bedroom.
kitchen counters need cleaned, but she doesn't do this. Also won't wash pots and pans etc by hand, wash cat bowls
- weird smell coming from fridge. Apparently it's my job to clean it.
The one thing I asked her to do today was replace the cat litter. Unsurprisingly it's not done. Apparently this is because she was saving it until just before she takes a shower. Again why? I not asking her to scoop up the litter with her bare hands.
When I ask her to do something, I always get the bare minimum effort, or she complains so much it's easier to do it myself. Right now, I'm in bed, because if I have to look at the rest of the house, I'll cry. There is literally no room unaffected. If I mention it to her, I know already she will a) moan, b) blame me or c) say her job is harder than mine, so she doesn't have time/energy for cleaning.
I don't claim to be Miss Clean, but surely this is not right. She is not a teenager, she is an adult. I'm now going to have to spend tomorrow (my day off) cleaning everything before my mum gets home, because my sister will be at work. Don't really know why I expected anything else.
Sorry not exactly mse-related, but thanks for letting me vent!
-handbags and shopping bags strewn in the hall, several days worth.
-shoes (several pairs) discarded wherever she kicked them off
-containers of last nights dinner and her plate left in kitchen ( I made dinner)
-tub of marg left on counter all day, so it has gone melty and manky
Baskets of dry clothes(hers) left unfolded for several days
-basket of soggy towels, which she was going to re-spin, then tumble dry, left in kitchen
- baskets of dirty clothes left outside washer
-cat has a bad habit of peeing on things if left on the floor. Noticed he has peed on 2 piles of her stuff, which she didn't bother putting away. She has neither cleaned her belongings or wiped up the pee
- cat also vomits. Left four little deposits today. She has sprayed carpet cleaner on, but not bothered to remove it
- duvet which needs laundered, has been spread out on the upstairs landing for 2 days (why?)
-bathroom is not too bad, as I cleaned it last week, but there's a big clump of her hair which she has pulled from the drain and left in the shower
Discarded belongings, including dirty makeup removal wipes (!) and coffee cups in the living room. This is not even going into the state of her foul bedroom.
kitchen counters need cleaned, but she doesn't do this. Also won't wash pots and pans etc by hand, wash cat bowls
- weird smell coming from fridge. Apparently it's my job to clean it.
The one thing I asked her to do today was replace the cat litter. Unsurprisingly it's not done. Apparently this is because she was saving it until just before she takes a shower. Again why? I not asking her to scoop up the litter with her bare hands.
When I ask her to do something, I always get the bare minimum effort, or she complains so much it's easier to do it myself. Right now, I'm in bed, because if I have to look at the rest of the house, I'll cry. There is literally no room unaffected. If I mention it to her, I know already she will a) moan, b) blame me or c) say her job is harder than mine, so she doesn't have time/energy for cleaning.
I don't claim to be Miss Clean, but surely this is not right. She is not a teenager, she is an adult. I'm now going to have to spend tomorrow (my day off) cleaning everything before my mum gets home, because my sister will be at work. Don't really know why I expected anything else.
Sorry not exactly mse-related, but thanks for letting me vent!
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Nothing on that list would take all day to do, you're just peed off and tired (I know the feeling!). At most there's half an hour of work there, if that.
Take all her stuff that she left and dump it in her bedroom tomorrow. There. Done.0 -
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Um, it doesn't sound all that messy to me, it'll probably take her about 5 minutes to sort it out in time for your mum to get back.
Try to relax, if you've got a stressful job don't add to it with unnecessary extra stuff.0 -
I have been in virtually the exact same situation, except without the cat. So I know your pain, it's not the doing of the housework, it's the sheer injustice of it all! Because she knows that you care more than her and she's using it to make you do all the work.
I think you should dump all her mess on her bed, even the rubbish, do the cleaning, and grass her up when your mum gets home. Yes, you're all adults, but there's nothing like a good grass to make you feel better
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I agree, shove her stuff in her room.
Fwiw, I prefer to do the litter just before my shower too.0 -
Leave it for your mum to see? Or shove it all in her room.:heartsmil
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Get rid of your sister. Get rid of the cat.
In that order. Problem solved!Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!
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Scoop up everything of your sister's that's cluttering the place up and either:
a) put it all in her bed
b) hide it in the boot of your car, your room, a friend's house etc. and tell sister you've binned the lot.Public appearances now involve clothing. Sorry, it's part of my bail conditions.0 -
Dump everything that is not yours to discard or clean in her room.Declutterbug-in-progress.⭐️⭐️⭐️ ⭐️⭐️0
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Personally I would pick amongst it to tidy up anything that is your fault. Then leave the rest for Mum to see and when she comments make sure to say "I did clean my stuff up yesterday".
By picking up after her you are only making a rod for your own back. You won't get any thanks and she will do it time and again because you will have taught her that you will clean any mess she leaves.0
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