Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

SingleSue

LydiaJ wrote: »

No no no no no! Beards are OK on some men (although not on others) but stubble is always scruffy, not to mention counterproductive if you want anybody to kiss you.



Thank you, but that's not the whole picture, or not for me, anyway. When crisis hits, I generally fall apart spectacularly, make a thorough nuisance of myself bending the ears of all my friends and generally behave as though the world should stop for a while to support me through whatever it is, even if minor. This seems to enable me to process my feelings quickly, so that I arrive sooner than most people at a position of "OK, I'm all right now. Crisis over, glass half full again." Major trauma is dealt with in this way as a series of instalments, sometimes running together so there's no "glass half full bit" between them.

I don't know why I'm like this. It's not something I choose to be - in many ways I feel immature and selfish and lacking in self-control because of the falling apart bit. But that seems to be how my brain works. It confuses people, until they've got to know me over a period of time, because they see the falling apart, and assume that I will be in bits for ages, and are then mystified when I'm fine the next time they see me.

When a crisis hits, I get the Blitz spirit and carry on...when the crisis is over, I then fall apart, not for long though, the fighting spirit usually comes back within a few hours of sitting there going "Oh woe is me"

My not falling apart in a crisis is why I am the first person my parents ring when dad is not well, they know I will deal with stuff without all the usual emotional responses people have (they tend not to see the falling apart stage though), it is also why I am the named executor of their wills. My siblings are just too emotional to deal with things and let their hearts rule their heads, whilst I will take the logical step, coldly and firmly and process hard to listen to information with no problems at all.

Well, until the crisis is over that is, then I am the most emotional person you could meet, sobbing in the corner and away from everyone until it is all out of my system.

SingleSue

On the nut stance, we have to be very careful as youngest is very allergic to pretty much all nuts....but I love nuts, absolutely adore the blessed things, so will sneak some every now and then.

Generali

vivatifosi wrote: »

Keep the stubble, not the beard. Beards are never a good look, even on you in Syriana. Stubble is sexy though, especially if it has got a bit of grey in.

I have gone for the full beard over Xmas for the first time in almost 20 years. Mrs Generali and the Generalissimos think it looks terrible and complain every time I kiss them. It'll be taken off on 13th Jan, the day before I start New Job.

vivatifosi wrote: »

There were some new metrics brought out for being overweight/obese a couple of years back. The discovery was that 'bad fat' is stored around the stomach, not elsewhere, so it doesn't matter so much about the muscle weight that made rowers and rugby players register as obese.

A healthy waist measurement is therefore below 37 inches for men and 32 inches for women. Health is deemed to start being affected at 40 inches for men and 35 inches for women.

This link puts this together with BMI:
http://www.gpnotebook.co.uk/simplepage.cfm?ID=1584070728

My waist is 34" although I'm trying to get that back down to 30-32". I've still got a mad plan to ride my bicycle across the Nullabor Plain through about 1,000km of desert and I could really do without carrying any unnecessary weight.

vivatifosi wrote: »

Something I feel with both Lydia and Gen is that they seem like "glass is half full" people even in spite of their travails, though at the time of going through something traumatic it never feels like that. I do wonder if having a naturally 'upbeat' outlook and an ability to see the wood for the trees is a big help.

I am less a glass half full person than one who secretly thinks that the glass is more like 60% full and that it is probably a valuable antique!
I am a worrier though.

I read something years ago that said that if you smile you get happier so I try to force myself to have a sunny outlook on life. I have little time for the Eeyores of this world as I feel like they drag me down too. I'd like to be more sympathetic to them and I am inside but I just can't spend time around negative people.

sss555s

LydiaJ wrote: »

Does it happen to everyone? Maybe.

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

Amazing how many people go through similar things really.

I'm pretty sure most people go through very tough times by the time they are 50 in the rollercoaster of life.

sss555s

Generali wrote: »

I am less a glass half full person than one who secretly thinks that the glass is more like 60% full and that it is probably a valuable antique!
I am a worrier though.

I read something years ago that said that if you smile you get happier so I try to force myself to have a sunny outlook on life. I have little time for the Eeyores of this world as I feel like they drag me down too. I'd like to be more sympathetic to them and I am inside but I just can't spend time around negative people.

Sounds a bit like me, hmmmm. Are all blokes like that or are you a Virgo too?


I'd suggest you get some "safe" (ring fenced) savings behind you when possible. Not investments or any risks, plain old savings!

Helps stop the worrying when you know you've got something there to tide you over if things go t!ts up.

:beer:

Wheezy_2

vivatifosi wrote: »

I'm guessing there's a lot of NPs who don't have to work today.

I'm guessing I'm the only NP at work today.

chewmylegoff

as far as i'm concerned, not only the is glass completely empty, but it doesn't have a bottom, and there is a hole a mile deep beneath it (which is also empty).

chewmylegoff

Wheezy wrote: »

I'm guessing I'm the only NP at work today.

i can confirm that i'm not at work. i should have gone in though as the office shuts at 1pm on new year's eve, and i could have introduced the beard gently.

sss555s

Wheezy wrote: »

I'm guessing I'm the only NP at work today.

I'm with you wheezy and in my office as we [STRIKE]speak[/STRIKE] erm type. Just waiting on my phone to ring or email enquiry.

Right, sorted that and must go and get a shower and get dressed. Had a bit of a "silvercar" morning seeing as it's Hogmanay and may be a late night.

:beer:

misskool

I have been out and returned. It's windy out there. which means we are not going out tonight.