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Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime
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chewmylegoff wrote: »the only thing i'm really afraid of in life are diseases of the brain. i hope by the time i get old enough to be at risk there is a magical cure for alzheimers/dementia, but it seems to me that it is the inevitable consequence of ever improving healthcare which means there is a mismatch between the length of time that bits of you which are non-essential for life support function properly and the length of time that doctors can keep your heart beating. i think it's probably too complicated for a single 'silver bullet' cure to be identified - i expect there are a wide range of genetic and environmental causes.
As my Dad correctly said, the people that suffer with Alzheimer's is the family and friends of the patient, not the patient himself. Of all the possible ways to die, it actually isn't that unpleasant. It's dreadful for the rest of us though.chewmylegoff wrote: »as far as obesity goes, i suspect that the vast majority of cases are not caused by a genetic predisposition to gaining weight and that psychological help is likely to be a better channel for resources than trying to find some way of stopping people who eat 10 big macs a day putting on weight. i suppose someone might identified a drug which just stops people from wanting to eat.
I do sometimes wonder how 'bad' being fat really is as long as you're fit. I count as overweight but you'd never really know it to look at me. My legs are like tree trunks because of all the cycling I do which will be part of the reason.0 -
Sounds awful. Cyber-hugs coming your way. You've done amazingly to get through all that and come out on top as you have done. :T Oh, and I agree with whoever it was (sorry too lazy to go back and look who
) said that it's hugely impressive that your marriage survived all that. Congratulations to both of you - you have something very special there. :A
Does it happen to everyone? Maybe. I've typed out my own list like yours, and then deleted it again - it felt as though I was either complaining or else trying to compete with you, neither of which is my intention. But it involved some things that were remarkably similar to yours and other ways in which I escaped stuff that you went through but got clobbered by different things instead. Suffice to say it was enough to make me recognise the feeling you describe of "everything hits me at once".
I'm sure some people do get an easier ride through life than others, but most people don't have it smooth sailing all the way. And I am certain that the people who have strong connections to others who care about them are in a much better position to weather the storms than those who face them in isolation. I've been blessed with a great family of origin, and fantastic friends, for which I cannot express how grateful I am. Also, I am always aware that merely by being born in this country and this century (well, the last one actually) I have almost everything massively easier than most humans who've lived on this planet.
It was pretty terrible. In fact it was mind shatteringly horrible. Thankfully I'm past the worst of it. I don't see my suffering as a psising contest (I realise there are some that do) so feel free to post your woes too.
I don't really know how our marriage survived. I think it was partly because some friends were going through some very, very nasty divorces so we could see that it wasn't an easy way to solve the problem. Having young kids was also a powerful motivator to stay together. Also I am quite in love and I am a soppy beggur so that helped too
My missus did throw me out once (I refused to go) and another time she threw an ice cream maker at me. It could all have ended up far worse though.0 -
Amazing how many people go through similar things really.“The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie – deliberate, contrived, and dishonest – but the myth, persistent, persuasive, and unrealistic.
Belief in myths allows the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.”
-- President John F. Kennedy”0 -
How many posts since I went to bed? I'm guessing there's a lot of NPs who don't have to work today.chewmylegoff wrote: »there is a bit of grey in it, but it's nothing like as grey as my hair. i did get some icing stuck in it yesterday, but i was drunk. gf seems indifferent. i think she probably wants it to go but doesn't want to say as if she does it will incentivise me to keep it.
Keep the stubble, not the beard. Beards are never a good look, even on you in Syriana. Stubble is sexy though, especially if it has got a bit of grey in.I do sometimes wonder how 'bad' being fat really is as long as you're fit. I count as overweight but you'd never really know it to look at me. My legs are like tree trunks because of all the cycling I do which will be part of the reason.
There were some new metrics brought out for being overweight/obese a couple of years back. The discovery was that 'bad fat' is stored around the stomach, not elsewhere, so it doesn't matter so much about the muscle weight that made rowers and rugby players register as obese.
A healthy waist measurement is therefore below 37 inches for men and 32 inches for women. Health is deemed to start being affected at 40 inches for men and 35 inches for women.
This link puts this together with BMI:
http://www.gpnotebook.co.uk/simplepage.cfm?ID=1584070728HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »Amazing how many people go through similar things really.
Something I feel with both Lydia and Gen is that they seem like "glass is half full" people even in spite of their travails, though at the time of going through something traumatic it never feels like that. I do wonder if having a naturally 'upbeat' outlook and an ability to see the wood for the trees is a big help.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
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My TV has freeview built in, but it has a glorified (and only very slightly) coathanger plugged in as the aerial.
Similarly, oarents huge flash and IMO repellant tv than the wall in the kitchen is digital all by itse
F and we cannot get attic arial right so for now has rabbits ears plugged in.0 -
vivatifosi wrote: »How many posts since I went to bed? I'm guessing there's a lot of NPs who don't have to work today.
There were some new metrics brought out for being overweight/obese a couple of years back. The discovery was that 'bad fat' is stored around the stomach, not elsewhere, so it doesn't matter so much about the muscle weight that made rowers and rugby players register as obese.
A healthy waist measurement is therefore below 37 inches for men and 32 inches for women. Health is deemed to start being affected at 40 inches for men and 35 inches for women.
This link puts this together with BMI:
http://www.gpnotebook.co.uk/simplepage.cfm?ID=1584070728
I don't have to go to work but going out in 10 mins and needed to start getting up earlier rather than later
By all accounts I am overweight by BMI, at very high risk for CVD by waist measurement and I'm screwed as my waist/hip ratio = 1. At least I will die of heart disease before dementia.
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And for people being through things without telling anyone, sometimes not talking about the trauma in life really helps. Trust me 0 -
vivatifosi wrote: »Keep the stubble, not the beard. Beards are never a good look, even on you in Syriana. Stubble is sexy though, especially if it has got a bit of grey in.
No no no no no! Beards are OK on some men (although not on others) but stubble is always scruffy, not to mention counterproductive if you want anybody to kiss you.vivatifosi wrote: »Something I feel with both Lydia and Gen is that they seem like "glass is half full" people even in spite of their travails, though at the time of going through something traumatic it never feels like that. I do wonder if having a naturally 'upbeat' outlook and an ability to see the wood for the trees is a big help.
Thank you, but that's not the whole picture, or not for me, anyway. When crisis hits, I generally fall apart spectacularly, make a thorough nuisance of myself bending the ears of all my friends and generally behave as though the world should stop for a while to support me through whatever it is, even if minor. This seems to enable me to process my feelings quickly, so that I arrive sooner than most people at a position of "OK, I'm all right now. Crisis over, glass half full again." Major trauma is dealt with in this way as a series of instalments, sometimes running together so there's no "glass half full bit" between them.
I don't know why I'm like this. It's not something I choose to be - in many ways I feel immature and selfish and lacking in self-control because of the falling apart bit. But that seems to be how my brain works. It confuses people, until they've got to know me over a period of time, because they see the falling apart, and assume that I will be in bits for ages, and are then mystified when I'm fine the next time they see me.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
I like almonds, hazelnuts, pistachios, cashews, peanuts, but especially almonds. Bakewell tart is yum, as long as not covered in icing, which makes it too sweet IMO.
Question for lir or anybody else familiar with the Swindon area. In a few weeks' time I want to go to Worthing for a funeral. Other members of my family will also be going, and the best plan is for me to drive to somewhere very close to J15 on the M4, and then for them to pick me up so we can go the rest of the way together in the morning, and then the reverse arrangement on the way home in the evening. So I am looking for suggestions of a nice place where whoever gets there first can wait and have a drink or something, and where I can park for many hours for free with no particular risk that my car will get stolen/vandalised. Any suggestions, nice peeps?
Googling suggests this place: http://www.arkells.com/pubs_more2.php?id=637
Anybody know if it's any good, and what the parking arrangements are?
Sorry Lydia, I don't know it. I use junction 16 mainly. Have to say....I find that whole area a bit confusing tbh. I get a bit lost.0 -
As my Dad correctly said, the people that suffer with Alzheimer's is the family and friends of the patient, not the patient himself. Of all the possible ways to die, it actually isn't that unpleasant. It's dreadful for the rest of us though.
I do sometimes wonder how 'bad' being fat really is as long as you're fit. I count as overweight but you'd never really know it to look at me. My legs are like tree trunks because of all the cycling I do which will be part of the reason.
Well,I am not fit, and I can say I find my extra weight totally, unreedmingly bad. Good for nothing. It's different to muscle weight. Although theoretically you should also have increased muscle weight from dragging extra fat around.
It's actually healthier for women to be SLIGHTLY overweight than underweight. A message lost in modern life though. Underweight while trying to conceive for example, or carrying a baby, is not healthy, yet we laud those who do it as female examples of beauty.
A person of correct weight is always nice to see, a fit person is going to be healthier in most ways that a thin but unfit and poor diet one, but bother together area good example of balance and beauty IMO.0 -
No no no no no! Beards are OK on some men (although not on others) but stubble is always scruffy, not to mention counterproductive if you want anybody to kiss you.
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I don't like beards for kissing, or anything else. But having food stashed away for later might well appeal to chewy.. Dh often doesn't shave when at home. I like the way it looks, and of it becomes painful I tell him and he shaves. A little bit of rough is a nice sensory change.:D 0
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