Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

misskool

lostinrates wrote: »

Nope, she has to be there for a reason. And if it's not holidaying together or his property portfolio or his relaxed attitude to laundered documents it must be something...:D

(chewy, really is tremendously good natured about al, of this isn't he?):D

must be the break she gets when he goes out with the lads.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

Right, well, while catching up, the oven's heated up, my chips and breaded chicken nuggets have cooked.... and I've sat here with the plate on my lap and eaten the whole lot (with a big splash of sweet chilli sauce) using only a fork.

What I need now is a big burp and a fag.

I made soup for parent and I but cannot be bothered to eat it. Lost my appetite a bit tonight.

I do quite crave apple cider vinegar but cannot reach it (for reasons best known to dh it's in the drinks cabinet which is blocked off be stacked up furniture ATM. )

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

Well firstly I would not get wrapped up in the 'beholden' thing. Your children are delightful, and I think people are probably very happy to spend time with them, we are enchanted by them both.

Also, consider that other mother's with different jobs might be grateful for their child being able to spend time with a good friend 'in return' for having yet he one of yours that is the respective friend stay for a weekend or whatever, for prolongued adult social interaction time.

Finally, the children will probably BENEFIT from the time with other adults close to them. In an other situation they would be getting complimentary but not necessary identical, and some times contrasting, input from parents and finding their own opinions and places amoung these differences is important. Time with adults in a similar adult role (similar but different) can expand your children's realm of normal and give them more choices. Even in two parent families the extended family role is under appreciated on this front I think.

So stop feeling guilty over something you should not. Your family will enjoy it, and it's good for the kids and you. Where is the down side?

You really are lovely. Yes, I know my kids benefit from interaction with other adults. And believe me they get plenty. I am forever farming them out on generous friends who live locally - one of my friends had DD on Friday afternoon when her school had inset and I was working, and then another friend picked her up from the first friend, took her home, where DS had arrived having walked home from school. The second friend then fed them both and looked after them all evening while I was doing parents' evening at my school and then going to the pub with the other teachers.

Meanwhile I am having a third friend's child on Thursday, when her single mum is at work and it's half term for the kid, and for me and my kids too. She has my kids sometimes on a Saturday if there's something I need to do.

The downside is that the people who live locally are people I don't like to ask *too* often or for too long, and the uncles and godparents are all busy people who live at least 2 hours away, and some a lot more than 2 hours. Believe me, my kids would see a lot more of extended family if they were geograhically closer. But if you're offering and you're well enough when it comes to the point, you'd be very welcome to have my kids for a weekend if I meet a nice man.

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

You really are lovely. Yes, I know my kids benefit from interaction with other adults. And believe me they get plenty. I am forever farming them out on generous friends who live locally - one of my friends had DD on Friday afternoon when her school had inset and I was working, and then another friend picked her up from the first friend, took her home, where DS had arrived having walked home from school. The second friend then fed them both and looked after them all evening while I was doing parents' evening at my school and then going to the pub with the other teachers.

Meanwhile I am having a third friend's child on Thursday, when her single mum is at work and it's half term for the kid, and for me and my kids too. She has my kids sometimes on a Saturday if there's something I need to do.

The downside is that the people who live locally are people I don't like to ask *too* often or for too long, and the uncles and godparents are all busy people who live at least 2 hours away. But if you're offering and you're well enough when it comes to the point, you'd be very welcome to have my kids for a weekend if I meet a nice man.

Of course we would, if they are happy to come here we would love to have them. But also accept uncle in Scotland, and other uncles, because they love you and your darlings too.

And I did not mean to imply they did not get adult interaction, their manners and comfort in interaction makes it very clear they do. I am just saying, don't feel guilty about it, because it's not something you are not providing them with (your undivided attention and input) its something you are SUCEEDINg at (giving them a secure, guided but not closed childhood).

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

Plate's in soak .... and I've still to make tomorrow's packed lunch. Also, can't get the !!!!!!!' telly to work. Been trying many times in the last 40 minutes. D4mned old fashioned thing it is, with a manky remote held together with sellotape.

Pfft, still no remote here, without which nothing other than what I think might be bbc3. Therefore no tv.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

Pfft, still no remote here, without which nothing other than what I think might be bbc3. Therefore no tv.

Maybe I should watch it live online... but this is the small laptop, so tricky as I can't chat and view

zagubov

lostinrates wrote: »

Pfft, still no remote here, without which nothing other than what I think might be bbc3. Therefore no tv.

How come nobody's made an app for changing channels from an ipad/phone etc.?

Chewie, you don't want to be further out from London - trust me, it's bad enough the probelsm you're having commutiing from an outer London borough, - well itll get much much worse.

You can get 4-bed houses in London for less than you're talking. Getting a decent chunk of land with it's not easy at all though. We're in a 4-bed semi in a nice villagey area with tons of shops and a train line to London. but we have to park down a side street as not everywhere's got a driveway. The garages round here would struggle to store a skateboard. Mind you the schools are really good in this and the borough next door. :beer:
Good luck Chewie. The NP planning committee wil be updating us all regularly on the progress, I'm sure

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

Maybe after 20-30 years' marriage he's prepared to suffer anything to get 4 hours out of earshot of the wife

As I've mentioned, DH works for airline. For the first time in goodness knows how long, we didn't get upgraded. Only one seat available. This was given to me. Ostensibly because he is a mighty fine gent and knew that I was poorly. But there's probably also a little bit of 8 hours out of earshot too:o.

kabayiri

PasturesNew wrote: »

By the way ... new job .... they still think the sun shines out of mine

With my new job, I see my situation more like "they haven't sussed out that I'm a fraud yet"

The ruse continues

Spirit_2

PasturesNew wrote: »

I washed my hair this morning, pinned it down so it'd dry pretty straight .... and still spent 10 minutes just now straightening it, so in the morning when I straighten it it'll only take 5 minutes.

How long does it take other people?

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I have never straightened my hair. I consider it the height of glamour if I use a hair dryer. Mostly hair drys in the car on the way to work.