cant teenage girls be horrible

FatVonD

londonsurrey wrote: »

Really, get her to develop her own interests and be her own person. I pretty much did my own thing in school, and what I found was that by doing that, even the "A" list girls think you're interesting and want you to join them, and you can then flit between the groups because you want to, not because you're stuck in one group.

That was me at school too, I was friends with a few different 'groups' and would flit from one to another without really being a 'key' member in any of them but accepted in all of them IYSWIM.

I was however bullied at the school before that by my friends and it was horrible, girls are frikkin' weird, at least boys bully their enemies but girls bully their mates, what's that all about??

aliasojo

FatVonD wrote: »

I was however bullied at the school before that by my friends and it was horrible, girls are frikkin' weird, at least boys bully their enemies but girls bully their mates, what's that all about??

Ironically, when we moved to a new area and daughter had to start a new secondary school after leaving her old primary, it was the boys that gave her the hardest time.

There were several that took the mick about her accent (we moved to central Scotland and ironically the worst offender had an English accent, so either he got the same treatment and was 'passing it on' or he was just a little !!!!!! generally). They drew on the back of her blazer with chalk, pulled her chair out from under her etc etc and generally made her life unpleasant for a while.

It all settled but I was surprised it was the boys and not the girls who were nasty.

Hermia

Saturnalia wrote: »

I can't remember who told me this but unfortunately it was after I'd left school, it's the truth though:

The popular girls are only popular with each other. And that changes day-to-day in the catty, backstabbing world they inhabit. And they're usually popular with the boys for one reason only. No-one else can stand them.

That's so true. In every school/college I went to the popular girls were loathed by absolutely everyone except the small group they hung around with. Now when I meet adult women who claim they were popular at school I start to wonder what they were actually like!