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chickywiggle

I would definatly raise it with a health visitor ifyou are on speaking terms with them. Noah is 2 in April so I have tried to helpwhere I can.......

caroline78 wrote: »

Jaxon was a late walker, didn't walk until he was 18 months.
Some children do walk late but I would have beenconerned by this point.

He often walks on his tip toes.
I still do He may have shortened tendons inhis heels - this could have had a knock on effect with his walking

He only says about three or four clear words.
This would be a concern for me. BUT there is stilltime. My oldest wouldn't string a sentence together at 2yr and the HV wasconcerned but by 2 and a half there was no stopping him. Noah is alwaystalking.

Often ignores us when we call him if he is engrossed in tv or toys.
Thats normal - very very very normal - well is withboth of mine.

Has to carry either a pillow or teddy with him all the time
I wouldn’t say this was abnormal – has anythingchanged recently? Has he replace hisdummy/ bottle with a new comforter?

Hits himself on the head or bangs his head on his cot bars.
Noah will if he is cross but I would be concerned ifhe is doing it all the time.

Doesn't like loud noises or even tv unless he is watching it.
Unusual but I wouldn’t say anything to be tooconcerned about at the moment.

Will only watch two different programmes.
Doesn't really play with toys except for a shopping trolley which has to beempty. If anything is in tubs or baskets he empties everything out.
Focuses on the wheels of a toy car for ages.
Repeats actions over and over again for ages.
These are all autistic tendancies. What happens if you hide the shoppingtrolley/ cars and give him a train set or books?
Doesn't associate with strange people and hates to be without either me orhis Daddy.
Seperation anxiety is very common. And has been known up to 5yrs old or more

Has real trouble getting to sleep and only sleeps for about three hoursbefore waking, he will go back over but it will take about an hour or two forthat to happen.
The HV’s will be concerned at this. Is he napping in the daytime?

Doesn't like being hugged, cuddled or kissed. Will not sit on anyone's kneefor any length of time, apart from my Dad's.
He’s a boy – Ben won’t kiss me 75% of the time (butNoah will). I wouldn’t be too concerned.

Stands all the time when watching tv, doesn't like to sit at all.
Sit is a bad word in my house, not sure either knowthe meaning. What happens when the TV isswitched off?

Should I be concerned about this or is this just normal behaviour fortoddlers. He will be 2 at the end of April.
Thanks..xx

flowerofscotland

caroline78 wrote: »

I am not looking for medical advice, just general advice.

I have some concerns about Jaxon and I know some people on here have children with autism so was wondering if any of this would have concerned you.

Jaxon was a late walker, didn't walk until he was 18 months.

He often walks on his tip toes.

He only says about three or four clear words.

Often ignores us when we call him if he is engrossed in tv or toys.

Has to carry either a pillow or teddy with him all the time

Hits himself on the head or bangs his head on his cot bars.

Doesn't like loud noises or even tv unless he is watching it.

Will only watch two different programmes.

Doesn't really play with toys except for a shopping trolley which has to be empty. If anything is in tubs or baskets he empties everything out.

Focuses on the wheels of a toy car for ages.

Repeats actions over and over again for ages.

Doesn't associate with strange people and hates to be without either me or his Daddy.

Has real trouble getting to sleep and only sleeps for about three hours before waking, he will go back over but it will take about an hour or two for that to happen.

Doesn't like being hugged, cuddled or kissed. Will not sit on anyone's knee for any length of time, apart from my Dad's.

Stands all the time when watching tv, doesn't like to sit at all.

Should I be concerned about this or is this just normal behaviour for toddlers. He will be 2 at the end of April.

Thanks..xx

Caroline - you need to take this list to professionals who can help with an assessment. Individually each one could be nothing to worry about but you have listed a lot of concerns and the cumulative picture should be looked at someone with knowledge and experience outside of being a Mum. Children do develop at different rates and all have idiosyncracies but some may need additional help and support. MY BF's 3rd chold did not speak properly even by the time he went to school and had to see a speech therapist. He will graduate this year and is a very sociable young man with lots of friends. I sense (though I may be wrong) that you are worried that by going to your doctor or HV you will be told that there is an issue but the way to look at it is that the first stage in dealing with any problem is to admit that it exists. Hope all goes well


EDIT - chicky I hadn't read your response when I posted the above so I wasn't disparaging your comments when I said "experience outside of being a Mum".

winniepooh

Ive just got back from the nec its a cross stitchers dream

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winniepooh wrote: »

Ive just got back from the nec its a cross stitchers dream

Really? I was going to go on Saturday or Sunday, but wasn't sure... More details pleeeeeeeeeeeeease!!! :j

brednall

Wish I'd booked a ticket now but some people said it wasn't very cross-stitch related so didn't bother.

Glad you had a good time

EMma

caroline78

Okay, trying to answer everything..

Jaxon was a late walker, didn't walk until he was 18 months.
Some children do walk late but I would have beenconerned by this point.

I read online that children seem to focus on one thing at a time, either walking or talking, but he didn't talk early either.

He often walks on his tip toes.
I still do He may have shortened tendons inhis heels - this could have had a knock on effect with his walking

Wouldn't this mean he would always walk on tip toes, he doesn't, it's not all the time just quite often

He only says about three or four clear words.
This would be a concern for me. BUT there is stilltime. My oldest wouldn't string a sentence together at 2yr and the HV wasconcerned but by 2 and a half there was no stopping him. Noah is alwaystalking.

He has been like this for about three months now, doesn't seem to improve although he knows what items are. He will point at various animals and things and gets us to make the noise.

Often ignores us when we call him if he is engrossed in tv or toys.
Thats normal - very very very normal - well is withboth of mine.

Has to carry either a pillow or teddy with him all the time
I wouldn’t say this was abnormal – has anythingchanged recently? Has he replace hisdummy/ bottle with a new comforter?

We have just moved house, but he has always been like this. He still has his dummy, although he doesn't use it very often. He likes to have it going to sleep, but often falls asleep without it

Hits himself on the head or bangs his head on his cot bars.
Noah will if he is cross but I would be concerned ifhe is doing it all the time.
He does this quite a lot, and doesn't seem to be in a bad temper while doing it

Doesn't like loud noises or even tv unless he is watching it.
Unusual but I wouldn’t say anything to be tooconcerned about at the moment.

Will only watch two different programmes.
Doesn't really play with toys except for a shopping trolley which has to beempty. If anything is in tubs or baskets he empties everything out.
Focuses on the wheels of a toy car for ages.
Repeats actions over and over again for ages.
These are all autistic tendancies. What happens if you hide the shoppingtrolley/ cars and give him a train set or books?

We have tried, but he has no interest in anything else. He will play with toy cars, but only by holding them and spinning the wheels.

Doesn't associate with strange people and hates to be without either me orhis Daddy.
Seperation anxiety is very common. And has been known up to 5yrs old or more

Has real trouble getting to sleep and only sleeps for about three hoursbefore waking, he will go back over but it will take about an hour or two forthat to happen.
The HV’s will be concerned at this. Is he napping in the daytime?

We lift him from his cot about 9ish, he goes for a nap about 2ish for maybe an hour, or hour and half. Goes into his cot about 8ish and doesn't go to sleep until about midnight, and will be up about tow or three times during the night

Doesn't like being hugged, cuddled or kissed. Will not sit on anyone's kneefor any length of time, apart from my Dad's.
He’s a boy – Ben won’t kiss me 75% of the time (butNoah will). I wouldn’t be too concerned.

Stands all the time when watching tv, doesn't like to sit at all.
Sit is a bad word in my house, not sure either knowthe meaning. What happens when the TV isswitched off?

The tv isn't on for long during the day. He will play with his trolley or just follow me and his Dad about. He watches more tv at night going to bed, and then he will sit in his cot or mostly stands at the bars.


Should I be concerned about this or is this just normal behaviour fortoddlers. He will be 2 at the end of April.
Thanks..xx


Think I have answered everything..xx

caroline78

flowerofscotland wrote: »

Caroline - you need to take this list to professionals who can help with an assessment. Individually each one could be nothing to worry about but you have listed a lot of concerns and the cumulative picture should be looked at someone with knowledge and experience outside of being a Mum. Children do develop at different rates and all have idiosyncracies but some may need additional help and support. MY BF's 3rd chold did not speak properly even by the time he went to school and had to see a speech therapist. He will graduate this year and is a very sociable young man with lots of friends. I sense (though I may be wrong) that you are worried that by going to your doctor or HV you will be told that there is an issue but the way to look at it is that the first stage in dealing with any problem is to admit that it exists. Hope all goes well


EDIT - chicky I hadn't read your response when I posted the above so I wasn't disparaging your comments when I said "experience outside of being a Mum".

Thanks for answering. I think I will get a wee appointment with the doctor just to check. I am not overly concerned about his having any illness, I am more concerned about the doctor thinking I am just being an over anxious parent...xx

winniepooh

The sewing for pleasure hall was mostly cross stitch, long stitch and tapestry. Along with sewing machines and quilting. I would say there was at least 30 + cross stitch stalls.

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winniepooh wrote: »

The sewing for pleasure hall was mostly cross stitch, long stitch and tapestry. Along with sewing machines and quilting. I would say there was at least 30 + cross stitch stalls.

Oo maybe I will then. It's a 4 hr drive so it has to be worth it

chickywiggle

caroline78 wrote: »

Thanks for answering. I think I will get a wee appointment with the doctor just to check. I am not overly concerned about his having any illness, I am more concerned about the doctor thinking I am just being an over anxious parent...xx

i'd try your HV/ local childrens centre if you are on good terms with them rather then dr as they are far better at child development.
but then thats just me.

i would also cut the nap (if you can cope) and put him to bed earlier. but again you know him better then me.

lol fos - i may just "be a mum" - I also have a BTEC in childcare (which involved a development module) and a primary teacher (again more on development). but i certainly don't claim to be an expert.