Rent at parents house

FATBALLZ

barnaby-bear wrote: »

because they are an *adult* living in london, so paying £500 would be about 66% of the going rate and they might want their kids to have a grasp on the cost of living in london and perhaps make career decisions based upon the reality of standing on their own two feet???

The reality for young adults in modern London is that unless you have a fantastically well paying job you're best off moving at least 100 miles away where you can live for a halfway sensible cost. Just because London landlords make an absolute killing out of their tenants doesn't mean it's ok for London parents to do the same out of their kids.

harrup

rara....before asking strangers here - have you discussed this matter with your parents?

Since their opinion is the only meaningful one.

I can't quite work out why you feel that £100 x week is an inordinate contribution in order to have a roof over your head and to eat. Especially in view that your impetus for moving back wasn't that you lost your job, experienced an illness or any other curveball that life can throw at you.

If you truly feel that the requested amount is unfair, have a think why you have come to this conclusion and then approach your parents with a counter suggestion and then explain the rationale why you feel that ought to pay less.

That's what adults do - they discuss and negotiate.

Just as aside - if I envisage moving back to my parents house and then debate and feel hard done by if they ask me, an adult, for an adult contribution to my living expenses ....because I want to go travelling and I am their "child"!....they would likely have me certified. There comes a time in everybody's life when they are done with the role of "child" and "parent". When we are just all adults.

midnight_express

rara879 wrote: »

Well the reason for me asking is that my mum is making me pay £400 per month and compared to what all my friends pay at their parents house it seemed a bit steep especially when she knows the whole reasom ive come back is to save for a purpose! I just wanted to find out what other people thought as she is adamant im gettig a good deal?!!

I'd say that was good deal for London. If you were in a flatshare you'd paying more than that in rent. Of course if you can get a better deal elsewhere you can always move out.

POPPYOSCAR

I personally think £400 per month is a lot, I would not charge any of my children that much. However, if your mum is adamant about this amount, what can you do, other than move out.

DRP

if the OP is earning a decent amount then I don't think 400 is outrageous , although personally I would charge less (only enough to cover the additional food, bills etc). Especially as no doubt it would be expected for the OP to contribute to household tasks, food shopping, cleaning etc

Catblue

The OP's brother has the larger bedroom and pays precisely nothing. The OP has the box room and is expected to pay 400 per month.

Are people on here really saying that they'd charge one of their adult children 400 per month and the other nothing? I must say I'm surprised at that.

OP, if I were you I'd smile sweetly and pay up.

Then next year when you are abroad and your parents wish to visit you at your new apartment, well then's the time to work out how much it would cost them to stay in a hotel and then charge them precisely that to stay with you. Of course, if they get all offended well then they are of course free to search for a better deal elsewhere.

sparklefrog

It depends what the £400 includes. many adult children move back home and expect mum will be the one cooking them a meal,cleaning up after them and washing clothes.

If that's the case then £400 for a room, all bills and a personal servant is pretty cheap.

geri1965_2

I'm all for people paying their way but I think £400 a month is taking the p*ss when the brother is paying nothing. I would at least expect the bigger room for that.

I suspect that maybe the parents want rid of both children and are trying to put the OP off.

Notmyrealname

Colin297 wrote: »

Offer her 250 max.

Maybe im Mr Silver Spoon, but isn't the point of living at home to save money?

BTW, im 26, live at home and i pay nothing but i eat most of my own meals.

The OP is 24. They should be standing on their own two feet, not still poncing off their parents.

Poppie68

Blimey..We charge all three of ours £10 each per week. I can get a weeks worth of food shopping for them for that. They then have enough to pay their phone bills, car insurance and car payments and put some money in their savings ready for when they move out.