Rent at parents house

Colin297

Offer her 250 max.

Maybe im Mr Silver Spoon, but isn't the point of living at home to save money?

Unless your parents are actually financially restricted then i think 400 is too much. Unless you expect VIP treatment aka dinners every evening etc.

At the end of the day, i highly doubt they would be renting the spare room out to a stranger so what's the use of making "standard rate" comparisons? Family is different, IMO.

Do they have a hefty mortgage? If so, and they are getting it tight, especially given the fact that you could well be a beneficiary of this mortgage down the line, then maybe that's a consideration we've missed.

BTW, im 26, live at home and i pay nothing but i eat most of my own meals.

Zero_Sum

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I don't know what you earn but the norm is 1/3 board, 1/3 to spend and 1/3 to save.

it really isn't

adouglasmhor

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I don't know what you earn but the norm is 1/3 board, 1/3 to spend and 1/3 to save.

You don't tithe?

jamie11

Pay your Mum the amount she asks, it would not surprise me if she didn't give it all back to you when you inevitably decide to move out to your own place again.

I've just taken my son back to the airport after a visit of only 5 days, my god! I'd forgotten how frenetic he can be to have around, I would hate to have him move back permanently.

Brallaqueen

Are you going abroad next year for a holiday, or for work purposes?

I think the reason makes a big difference

Better_Days

I think £400 a month is a lot especially for the box room. I can't see that it is going to cost your parents that much extra to have you back home. So they will be making a profit from you. It is difficult as you have no option if you want to save.

Are they in any financial difficulty? If so I can understand why they are asking a bit more.

Why don't you sit down with them and have a chat about it? Ask how they arrived at the £400 a month.

I'm surprised your brother doesn't contribute anything - doesn't he have any income at all, not even JSA?

It also depends on their attitude to money. My mother screwed every penny she could out of my brother when he stayed with her, and it still makes me cross. Family, in my view, deserves better treatment. If your Mum is anything like mine, I certainly wouldn't count on seeing it back as jamie11 suggests!!

Could you do a deal with them, pay less rent, but in return do some jobs around the house and/or garden or clean the car regularly or do the shopping. This will make their lives easier and hopefully everyone will be happier.

One other thing, how this is handled could have a impact on how you feel about your parents and how you respond should either you or they need help in the future. Perceived unfairness, especially if the reasons behind decisions are not explained, can cause a lot of resentments in families. You really do need to get to the bottom of how they have arrived at the amount they have, and why your brother is paying no rent at all.

embob74

I think you have two choices - take it or leave it.
You may think it is high but then it would be undoubtedly higher staying elsewhere.
My mum always liked to make a profit out of me so I understand how you may feel a little bitter.
I do think it should be based on fairness though. If your brother pays nothing then why are you being charged?
My teenager paid us £30 a week out of JSA as I calculated she should have £20 for a bus pass and £5 for her own spending - it was an incentive to get a job as she paid the same when she was working (part-time).
I am happy to subsidise while the kids are still in education but when they get a full-time job which pays well the board will increase although not enough to make us a profit!

BitterAndTwisted

You've lived away from home for some time so you should know how expensive that was and how £100 a week compares to it.

What other parents consider a fair amount for keep is immaterial as yours think that £100 a week is what it's worth to them for having you cluttering the place up and increasing their outgoings.

Your brother hasn't left home yet, so perhaps your parents see themselves as honouring their commitment to supporting him until he either moves out or gets a job so he can make a contribution to the household.

In my opinion £100 is still a good deal so you should either take it or leave it rather than thinking you can argue the toss over it.

Torry_Quine

Zero_Sum wrote: »

it really isn't

It always has been as far as I've heard and others have said that on MSE. What's the problem with that. It saves arguments as its a ready made formula

adouglasmhor wrote: »

You don't tithe?

I was giving general advice but obviously if it were someone who tithed then that should come off first.

kelfen

Used to pay £300 a month all in, was on IB and DLA so it was still around/just over a third.