Oh dear, in a pickle now!

Dunroamin

Credit-Crunched wrote: »

For god's sake people, no wonder we are in such a pickle when comments such as

"I can only work to classical music" are heralded as someone who needs help.

I have worked some truly horrific jobs, in intense heat, noise, cold just to get to where I am today.

Just because you don't like a job, does not mean that you should not do it.

This government needs to toughen up and start telling people if they dont take jobs, then their benefits go.

Queue left wing barrage of abuse

I agree but don't think that yours is a particularly right wing stance.

It's other workers who have to pay for someone's pickiness and to suggest that this is due to a disability seems to me to be the reason that there's so much scepticism these days regarding people claiming disability benefits.

Sooki

OP although i think you are probably right about not persuing the original job you posted about, however, you come over as having quite a defeatist attitude finding lots of reasons to justify why you can not do things, is there any reason why you can not walk to the job centre?

Being out of work can give a quite depressive perspective on life, you may find it helpful to go to the doctors. If you don't feel like doing that try a vitamin D supplement it might make you feel better and shouldn't do you any harm.

seven-day-weekend

letthemeatcake wrote: »

dyspraxia symptoms include oversensitivity to noise and balance and coordination difficulties.

OP I wonder if you should visit your GP and see what their stance is on this?

Best of luck in your search for suitable work.

I was just going to say that. My son, especially when he was younger, was very un-coordinated and very sensitive to loud noises, to the extent that they hurt his ears.

He has never managed to pass a driving test,(taken five), although he does cycle everywhere. He was very late learning to do things like tie shoelaces and still can't tie a tie. He also did not learn to tell the time on an analogue clock until he was about ten, although he is very intelligent. These are all associated symptoms of dyspraxia/dyslexia/dyscalculia, which are all connected and all part of the same 'brain-wiring'.

His girlfriend cannot learn to ride a bike due to balance issues, causing her to fall off. She has also been learning to drive for five years! (Her father is a driving instructor and has never even put her in for a test as she is not up to the standard). She is quite often unable to express her thoughts clearly, either in speech or writing, although she has normal intelligence.

They both have Aspergers' Syndrome, where dyspraxia etc and sensory issues can be associated conditions, although of course dyspraxia can exist on its own. They both work, my son at a major supermarket and his girlfriend as a domestic assistant in an old peoples' home (quiet!).

I would recommend the OP gets checked out for dyspraxia.

I also hope that people come to accept these as real conditions, and are more understanding of them.
http://www.dyspraxiafoundation.org.uk/services/ad_symptoms.php

Furrtiv

I'm not trying to be defeatist, I'm usually a lot more up-beat, but find working in excessively noisy environments almost impossible. I've also tried to explain to my previous GPs countless times that I struggle with quite a lot of aspects of life, but in the past have been unable to convince them. I will try again.
Some of the things described by posters here seem familiar to me, especially the slowness in learning certain aspects, like telling the time, although for me, it's 24-hour clocks I find confusing. It also took me until a late age to learn to tie shoelaces, and I still struggle with lacing a shoe to begin with.
I don't see it as being picky, with regards to music - I hate working to pretty much anything at high volume, it hurts even with ear protection on, I can't seem to stop that no matter what I try. There have been times I've been tempted to stick knitting needles in my ears because occasionally, I've felt like deafness would be a better option, but then came to my senses and realised that that was silly. But nothing seems to stop the pain from loud noise, so I don't know what to do.
No thanks for all those comments alluding to me being a loser, I got enough of that in real life from my own family who thought I was !!!!!! just because I was clumsy. I hope it makes you feel better.
And I would happily do litter picking, if there were any litter-picking jobs available in my area. It would be nice to be on my own and only surrounded by a lower level of environmental noise, in a position where I could escape from loud noise if I needed to. See, I'm not fussy, I have just had to come to face the fact that I can't work in excessively noisy environments.
Thankyou to those who posted helpful advice. I shall be seeing my GP next week, though I doubt I will post here for help again.

seven-day-weekend

Please don't stop posting. I'm afraid people are not always very understanding about such things because they are so little known. When my son was younger, none of these things had been recognised as 'real' conditions, I wish they had have been, then he could have had the help he needed, instead of being labelled, lazy, clumsy, naive, irritating, and Uncle Tom Cobley and all.

People will understand better one day, hopefully.

I hope you get a job soon, it doesn't have to be a noisy factory, there are other things around.

MissPiggy50

You shuldnt have to work doin somat you dont wanna do. They tried to make me work in dog food packing place wiv loud noises all day and i told em to shove it and they havent stopped my money so far.

Dont listen to some prats on here, they probably got given loads of money or are on benfits too.

leveller2911

John_Clark wrote: »

Fine for those who are able, but make the litter picking a proper job, with proper pay.

But it would be "proper pay". If someone wants Society to pay them benefits then why shouldn't Society expect something in return?. If I was out of work (which I have been for 6 months in 29 yrs) I would have gladly got up early everyday to litter pick just to keep the routine of getting up early for a reason.


Go back 30 yrs or more and we didn't get people giving up jobs or refusing to work because they didn't like the job or were "too delicate" to work. Link benefits to NI stamps , the more years you pay into the system the higher the rewards.

Poppie68

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

You shuldnt have to work doin somat you dont wanna do. They tried to make me work in dog food packing place wiv loud noises all day and i told em to shove it and they havent stopped my money so far.

Dont listen to some prats on here, they probably got given loads of money or are on benfits too.

I think the dog food packing workers have had a lucky escape, and will be :j

Sooki

Furrtiv wrote: »

I'm not trying to be defeatist, I'm usually a lot more up-beat, but find working in excessively noisy environments almost impossible. I've also tried to explain to my previous GPs countless times that I struggle with quite a lot of aspects of life, but in the past have been unable to convince them. I will try again.

I didn't mean to upset you, maybe I was a bit blunt, but please don't stop posting, but you sound really low and this can push you into a cycle of negativity.

Furrtiv wrote: »

I hate working to pretty much anything at high volume, it hurts even with ear protection on, I can't seem to stop that no matter what I try. There have been times I've been tempted to stick knitting needles in my ears because occasionally, I've felt like deafness would be a better option.

Have you told the doctor this, I would tell him this first before anything else, such things can make you feel isolated and have a knock on effect. Im sure there are loads of things that could be causing this and you should demand a referral to a specialist. It is effecting your quality of life and should be taken seriously.

leveller2911

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

When my son was younger, none of these things had been recognised as 'real' conditions, I wish they had have been, then he could have had the help he needed, instead of being labelled, lazy, clumsy, naive, irritating, and Uncle Tom Cobley and all.

People will understand better one day, hopefully.



My son was shows signs of Asbergers but not all the signs.The Consultant told us he could "Label" him but it will impact on his future. Needless to say we didn't have him "Labelled" and I have no doubt he will find a suitable career as many do. How many parents had their children labelled (knowing they would receive extra benefits) but went for short term gain rather than looking at the childs future.

Go back 30-40 yrs and as you say they were not diagnosed with ADHD,Asbergers etc but how many of those same people went on to work and have careers?, probably the vast majority gained employment. I know children who have grown up and diagnosed with ADHD and all bar none received no dicipline at home or a stable family unit, they ran riot because they were allowed to and this has helped form their characters not illness.