older children in pushchairs!

AvadaKedavra

balletshoes wrote: »

I never said it doesn't happen - I said I wasn't bothered by it and it doesn't frustrate me.

I know, I was just saying.

mazza111

AvadaKedavra wrote: »

Oh ok, What I was saying was how it was 'ironic' a parent shouting at their kids to grow up when they themselves are treating them like babies.

Are you thinking that the disability your child has, is related to the walking they did?

Fairy nuff on the irony. But you have to remember it's not always parents who use push chairs that are like this. But then, back in the days of me using a buggy, we had to fold them to put them on buses etc.

I used to walk for miles with my dd as a toddler, we'd walk to the park, walk to the town, sometimes we'd get a cab back. We lived in a hilly part of Brighton at the time, and probably yes, the disability she now has could be related to the walking she did as a child, and other injuries as she grew up. She has Hyper mobility syndrome, unknown to us at the time and all that walking would have put extra pressure on her already lax joints. It wasn't until she was 8 and dislocated both ankles that I questioned it These days, she can barely walk at all, the little walking that she does leaves her in agony, but is resisting the wheelchair as long as she possibly can, quite understandably as she's only 21. I'm not saying the walking as a toddler caused her to have her disability, it's something she was born with, but all that walking on lax joints certainly didn't help. We were predicted with wheelchair at 30 when she was 8, so we're keeping our fingers crossed that she goes beyond that

AvadaKedavra

mazza111 wrote: »

Fairy nuff on the irony. But you have to remember it's not always parents who use push chairs that are like this. But then, back in the days of me using a buggy, we had to fold them to put them on buses etc.

I used to walk for miles with my dd as a toddler, we'd walk to the park, walk to the town, sometimes we'd get a cab back. We lived in a hilly part of Brighton at the time, and probably yes, the disability she now has could be related to the walking she did as a child, and other injuries as she grew up. She has Hyper mobility syndrome, unknown to us at the time and all that walking would have put extra pressure on her already lax joints. It wasn't until she was 8 and dislocated both ankles that I questioned it These days, she can barely walk at all, the little walking that she does leaves her in agony, but is resisting the wheelchair as long as she possibly can, quite understandably as she's only 21. I'm not saying the walking as a toddler caused her to have her disability, it's something she was born with, but all that walking on lax joints certainly didn't help. We were predicted with wheelchair at 30 when she was 8, so we're keeping our fingers crossed that she goes beyond that

Bless you, and my fingers are crossed for you, I think it is good that you walked everywhere while you had the opportunity, as maybe if you did not back then, you would regret it somewhat now. I also do lot of walking with my little ones, well the baby gets pushed about obviously until he can walk.

mazza111

Aye but what I guess I'm getting at. Stand her against a wall, and you wouldn't know there was a thing wrong with her. There could be a few children who are like that too.

Yes of course you get the lazy ones who just don't wanna be held up by their kids' pace. Or maybe they are busy, or maybe they know the kid will fall on it's 4rs3 and refuse to move any more when they've had enough :rotfl: That's what my dd used to do in all honesty, it makes sense now knowing what we know. If only we'd known it back then eh?

I know there are a few bendy (HMS) kids who get affected earlier in their life than my dd, so guess what I'm trying to say is, maybe don't judge the book by the cover. And please don't judge us as lazy mothers. Yes there are a few, but we aren't all like that

shortdog

I was in town a few days ago, with my son. He was whining and moaning at me, it was hot and busy, and we were stuck in a queue. In a fit of exasperation, I told him "Stop whining at me, you are 6, not a baby, and there is no need for that noise". He stopped instantly, and looked shame faced, however, the nasty comments coming from the ladies in the queue behind us had me in tears, and my son was very upset as well. I really wish I had said something, but was too angry and upset to.
My son is disabled, he can't walk far for various reasons, and so he uses a buggy. However, he looks like a normal, albeit small, boy, and acts and sounds like all other 6 year olds. I'm sure the ladies who were calling him and me all the names under the sun would have been mortified if they had realised, but they obviously didn't, and certainly didn't stop to think, but just assumed, in their words "he's obviously a lazy little ****".
I'm sure if he was in a wheelcahir, no-one would assume that he was just lazy, but my son doesn't want a wheelchair, and we manage just fine with a buggy.
What I'm trying to say (I think) is think what you like about parents with older kids in buggies, or with dummies, or drinking from a bottle, etc, but please do not say anything within either the childs or parents hearing - it really isn't fair or nice.

AvadaKedavra

mazza111 wrote: »

Aye but what I guess I'm getting at. Stand her against a wall, and you wouldn't know there was a thing wrong with her. There could be a few children who are like that too.

Yes of course you get the lazy ones who just don't wanna be held up by their kids' pace. Or maybe they are busy, or maybe they know the kid will fall on it's 4rs3 and refuse to move any more when they've had enough :rotfl: That's what my dd used to do in all honesty, it makes sense now knowing what we know. If only we'd known it back then eh?

I know there are a few bendy (HMS) kids who get affected earlier in their life than my dd, so guess what I'm trying to say is, maybe don't judge the book by the cover. And please don't judge us as lazy mothers. Yes there are a few, but we aren't all like that

Yes I know you are right, And a few posts back I did apologize because of course not all kids / parents are lazy, and in my experience from the 3 or 4 parents I actually know, they are being lazy, however like you and others there are so many parents who make an effort with their kids. Well I do hope your kid holds out for as long as possible.

I have Rheumatoid arthritis had it since 11 I am 25 now, so I am praying my kids don't inherit it. Not the best inheritance eh.

Yes it would be great if you had known in hindsight. But there is nothing you have done wrong at all.

AvadaKedavra

shortdog wrote: »

I was in town a few days ago, with my son. He was whining and moaning at me, it was hot and busy, and we were stuck in a queue. In a fit of exasperation, I told him "Stop whining at me, you are 6, not a baby, and there is no need for that noise". He stopped instantly, and looked shame faced, however, the nasty comments coming from the ladies in the queue behind us had me in tears, and my son was very upset as well. I really wish I had said something, but was too angry and upset to.
My son is disabled, he can't walk far for various reasons, and so he uses a buggy. However, he looks like a normal, albeit small, boy, and acts and sounds like all other 6 year olds. I'm sure the ladies who were calling him and me all the names under the sun would have been mortified if they had realised, but they obviously didn't, and certainly didn't stop to think, but just assumed, in their words "he's obviously a lazy little ****".
I'm sure if he was in a wheelcahir, no-one would assume that he was just lazy, but my son doesn't want a wheelchair, and we manage just fine with a buggy.
What I'm trying to say (I think) is think what you like about parents with older kids in buggies, or with dummies, or drinking from a bottle, etc, but please do not say anything within either the childs or parents hearing - it really isn't fair or nice.

That is bad, I would try not to take it to heart. That is the problem when you judge a book....It is not and has never been my intention to criticize people who need pushchairs etc, it is the ones who cannot be bothered with their kids that gets me.

mazza111

AvadaKedavra wrote: »

That is bad, I would try not to take it to heart. That is the problem when you judge a book....It is not and has never been my intention to criticize people who need pushchairs etc, it is the ones who cannot be bothered with their kids that gets me.

Oh there are plenty of them around don't get me wrong. You can usually spot them up here with their blue carrier bag and the bottles of buckfast clinking away in the carrier bags though :rotfl: Especially when they are coming back from local shop in their jammies at lunch time

Hintza

balletshoes wrote: »

Neither I nor my OH have ever carried our toddler about on our shoulders outside, thats an accident waiting to happen in my opinion.

Oh crikey...... :wall:

AvadaKedavra

mazza111 wrote: »

Oh there are plenty of them around don't get me wrong. You can usually spot them up here with their blue carrier bag and the bottles of buckfast clinking away in the carrier bags though :rotfl: Especially when they are coming back from local shop in their jammies at lunch time

:T exactly what happens here in my area, opening their blinds at 1pm on holidays sending their young kids to the shops for them as theyre still in bed.