Wrongly accused of shoplifting

pickpocketlocket

originalkitten wrote: »

Also I did not shout. I spoke loudly.

Speaking loudly, also known as shouting.

Jamie_Carter

I can sympathise with the OP for being angry. But it seems the security guard made a mistake, and maybe didn't go about aplogising in the right way.

You also have to consider that neither the security guard, or the manager would have known anything about either yours or your son's disabilities. And that he wouldn't have realised that the reason for your raised voice was due to your panic attack.

So I would personally put it down to an unfortunate incident, caused by a misunderstanding, and try not to stress yourself about it (as this won't help your health at all).

Jox

It is horrible to be accused of something and as a mother you wanted to defend your son which you did.

It would be best to forget about it now and put it in the past.

If your son is upset in the future maybe you can make a joke of it somehow to lighten the mood and say something like "that security guard must need his eyes testing" for example so your son knows that you're on his side and other people make mistakes.

I get upset about injustices as well, it can fester inside and burn me up but in the end I'm only hurting myself.

Gordon_Hose

No offence, but you've posted for advice on a public forum. You've been given advice but don't seem to like what people say so call them "arrogant".

If you don't like the advice given, then please feel free to log out.

Personally I think you were in the wrong. I don't believe for a second that a security guard suspected your son of shoplifting and merely sauntered over and popped the evidence in a bin, and walked off. Most, if not all, supermarkets have a zero tolerance on shoplifting. If you're son had robbed a pie, the Police would have been placing him in a cell until they could review CCTV footage.

arcon5

So in summary the guard made an off hand comment, kindly put your sons litter in the bin and left you in peace.

You in turn follow him, start shouting at him and the manager, continue when asked to stop.

The guard is a !!!!!! and you are melodramatic.

Take_it_like_a_man,_sonny

TILAMS will inerperate for the hard of reading.

Mum and Son go off shopping. Son buys some tarts, leaves a big shop and goes back in. Securty grab his <insert region here>.

Mum then gobs off at said Security, a mistake is understood and forgiven, Mum wants to see the Big Chief. Boss Man called, Mum continues to gob off.

Unfortuatelty there was not a happy ending as Mum had a stroke 4 days later.

Looksguywalker

Take_it_like_a_man,_sonny wrote: »

TILAMS will interpret for the hard of reading.

Mum and Son go off shopping. Son buys some tarts, leaves a big shop and goes back in. Security grab his <insert region here>.

Mum then gobs off at said Security, a mistake is understood and forgiven, Mum wants to see the Big Chief. Boss Man called, Mum continues to gob off.

Unfortunately there was not a happy ending as Mum had a stroke 4 days later.

Fixed for clarity! :rotfl:

DCFC79

originalkitten wrote: »

Now my questions are....
1) what is the law regarding accusing people Perfectly fine for person A to accuse Person B of being a numpty
2) did the security guard break the law What law exactly ? The " do not falsly accuse people " law
3) was the manager intimidating me by telling me to lower my voice and trying to get the upper hand because it felt like it No he was trying to calm you down to then speak calmly and clearly, no 1 likes being shouted at plus you could take things too far and say stuff that wasn't neccessary
4) who do i write to and complain Why not just let it go which is what you should have done rather than go after the guard as you did. Focus on yourself and your son.
5) should i take this to the newspapers? For what pupose ?
6) a friend suggested I should get a lawyer ....what do you think?

Im surprised the ethnicity of the security guard was mentioned.
Not had 1 these shoplifting threads for a while now.

Take_it_like_a_man,_sonny

Looksguywalker wrote: »

Fixed for clarity! :rotfl:

Sugar,

Mum and Sun go shopping. Son Eats tart, and got clipped on ear. Mum ranted and raged. Big Boss came and told her so.

Mum still had stroke!

arcon5

powerful_Rogue wrote: »

Answered it as the OP was expecting it to be answered.

Oh you kind soul