legal rights to stay in house with my child as house in ex's name

peachyprice

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Why should her daughter have to move schools just because her relationship has broken down .

Because her mother and father can't afford her school fees.

Sorry, but unless OP could afford to put her daughter through private education without relying on someone she had only moved in with 7 months ago she shouldn't have signed up for it in the first place.

Marisco

Couldn't the child's father help? Or is he the sort who couldn't care if his daughter is "on the street"? TBH I think the op worded her first post wrongly, as in "what rights do I have" The short answer is none. The only thing the op can really do is apply to his "better nature" and not moving out of his bedroom really doesn't help! I think a slice of "humble pie" might be appropriate here. Maybe if he sees she is making every effort to find a solution, he might relent and give her a bit of time.

Pollycat

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Why should her daughter have to move schools just because her relationship has broken down and why should her daughter have to leave her friends and bedroom without any notice?

Because !!!! happens.

Of course the child is not to blame but then again, neither are the majority (or more probably all) of children whose parents' relationship breaks down.

Many women find themselves in a much worse situation than the OP - who has a flat that is rented out and is worried that she may not be able to afford to pay private schooling fees.

daska

Wonder whether the OP has appreciated that whoever is named on the school contract will have to pay at least a term's notice? If they've already gone back to school it'll be two now. Feeling sorry for the daughter because personally I feel there is a moral responsibility to carry through with commitments such as this (and yes I've been there and put my hand in my pocket and paid for a child's private schooling even though it was financially very tough simply on the basis of that moral responsibility).

minimoneysaver

Peachy I don't remember the OP saying anything about the father. Where did you get that from?

NewKittenHelp

daska wrote: »

Wonder whether the OP has appreciated that whoever is named on the school contract will have to pay at least a term's notice? If they've already gone back to school it'll be two now. Feeling sorry for the daughter because personally I feel there is a moral responsibility to carry through with commitments such as this (and yes I've been there and put my hand in my pocket and paid for a child's private schooling even though it was financially very tough simply on the basis of that moral responsibility).

Are you seriously suggesting that this man (who has had the police called on him because he dared to threaten to throw his ex out of his house) should pay for her child's private education?!:rotfl:

DVardysShadow

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

Are you seriously suggesting that this man (who has had the police called on him because he dared to threaten to throw his ex out of his house) should pay for her child's private education?!:rotfl:

I doubt daska is suggesting that for one little moment, never mind seriously. I hesitate to compare daska's position with the OP, but I understand her to have been responsible for a schooling contract which she paid up for.

daska

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

Are you seriously suggesting that this man (who has had the police called on him because he dared to threaten to throw his ex out of his house) should pay for her child's private education?!:rotfl:

Yes and No. I'm suggesting that people who make a commitment to a child should consider the enormity of that decision and stick with that commitment when it has a pretty fundamental impact on the child - however things work out in their private lives. I have no idea whether it was the OP who made the decision to put the child in private school or whether it was a joint decision.

Are you suggesting that people should play fast and loose with a child's security and emotions just because they fall out with another adult? Essentially punishing the child for their or another person's actions?

(Thank you DVS, my position was very difficult, but you're quite correct in thinking it bore very little resemblance to the OP's in any other respect.)

Fire_Fox

must*save*money wrote: »

He became threatening in the arguments and scremed in my face threatening me and I logged the frightening event to the police. he has taken resentment to this and has told me to leave and that we cannot work things out.
I did as he asked and moved out of the bedroom immediately, and he told me yesterday I have until 5pm Fri to get myself and my daughter and all my possesions out.

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

Are you seriously suggesting that this man (who has had the police called on him because he dared to threaten to throw his ex out of his house) should pay for her child's private education?!:rotfl:

According to the OP the threatening language preceded calling the police and throwing her out followed it. Perhaps you could edit some of your posts, this is not the first time you have twisted the story to make it seem worse than it is.

NewKittenHelp

Fire_Fox wrote: »

According to the OP the threatening language preceded calling the police and throwing her out followed it. Perhaps you could edit some of your posts, this is not the first time you have twisted the story to make it seem worse than it is.

The only threat the OP has had made against her was when he threatened to throw her and her stuff out onto the streets. Then she called the police. Then she (finally) left his bedroom. Then he gave her a week to get out.

It can't have been such a frightening experience if the OP is happy for her daughter to remain in the house, and is pursuing a court order to do it!