legal rights to stay in house with my child as house in ex's name

Somerset

must*save*money wrote: »

I did as he asked and moved out of the bedroom immediately

must*save*money wrote: »

is threatening to throw my possesions out if I refuse to allow him to return to the main bedroom tomorrow night

That's not what you initially posted. First post you said he wanted you out if you didn't give him his bedroom back - how did that happen since you are now saying you moved out immediately ?

must*save*money wrote: »

I would prefer to stay in this area and rent myself

must*save*money wrote: »

As the bills have always been half, to move into rented accommodation I cannot afford the schooling and pays bills as this will exceed my outgoings

You've already said you can't afford to rent/live in the area ????

DVardysShadow

must*save*money wrote: »

We both realised we werent compatible and arguments started while I was off on leave after surgery as I was expected by him to deal with workmen coming in and out of the house and keep the house running when should have been laid up in bed. He became threatening in the arguments and scremed in my face threatening me and I logged the frightening event to the police. he has taken resentment to this and has told me to leave and that we cannot work things out.

And you wanted advice to keep yourself and your daughter in that situation. And you faced down his threats and got him into the spare room despite surgery. You should get a medal for something.

Errata

I will not be able to afford education if I have to pay rent elsewhere as the costs are overall greater than the shared costs of living together, that is all.

Not his problem, it's yours, and your responsibility to solve it . Like good mummys do.

mountainofdebt

OP

If the situation is as you say it is (not calling you a liar but as someone has said before there's usually 3 versions of the story) then surely its better for your daughter to be out of the house and in any environment than the one she's in now?

I have to be honest I can't see why you didn't make plans to leve the moment after logging the incident with the police - surely you could see the end of the relationship there and then?

Personally I'd be looking at friends / family /doing deals with B&Bs / even going as far as looking at travellodges and putting my stuff into storage than be putting all my effort into staying there

PasturesNew

Marisco wrote: »

I'd prefer to live in *** as well,

It's not great.... there's nothing here to do. Have to get in the car for a takeaway or even a good corner shop (the one by the roundabout's very limited, so only good for 1-2 items). And the buses are unreliable. I'm moving out.

Millionaire neighbours... nice enough, but you can keep 'em in exchange for being closer to stuff/things/shops.

DVardysShadow

PasturesNew wrote: »

It's not great.... there's nothing here to do. Have to get in the car for a takeaway or even a good corner shop (the one by the roundabout's very limited, so only good for 1-2 items). And the buses are unreliable. I'm moving out.

Millionaire neighbours... nice enough, but you can keep 'em in exchange for being closer to stuff/things/shops.

Goodness me, if you live there you don't go out for stuff. You have someone deliver it. And buses are only for the domestics to come in to work.

Fire_Fox

must*save*money wrote: »

We both realised we werent compatible and arguments started while I was off on leave after surgery as I was expected by him to deal with workmen coming in and out of the house and keep the house running when should have been laid up in bed. He became threatening in the arguments and scremed in my face threatening me and I logged the frightening event to the police. he has taken resentment to this and has told me to leave and that we cannot work things out.

I did as he asked and moved out of the bedroom immediately, and he told me yesterday I have until 5pm Fri to get myself and my daughter and all my possesions out.
I would rather not return to my flat as it is happily rented with good tenants and I would prefer to stay in this area and rent myself, that cannot be done immediately either as need to go through credit checks and it would help if Rightmove updated their site as every property I called about is taken. Plus due to the nature of the surgery I am not supposed to do any lifiting and how on earth can I reasonably pack up go by Friday. plus not a lot will happen being a bank hol this weekend......

Why on earth would you even think of overstaying somewhere when your partner has such a temper?? Is this really the best place for your daughter?? Of course he is annoyed you went to the police and refused to move out of his bedroom, that is a natural reaction.

"Rather ... prefer ..." you are not in a position to get what you want, you need to find alternative accommodation fast. Have your daughter/ friends/ relatives/ ex/ colleagues help pack up or pay a removals firm and put your belongings into storage. Best thing to do is stay with friends or relatives or move into a B&B temporarily - presumably you are not working and your daughter is not at school so you don't need to be in a specific area for a couple of weeks. If you are not signed off work your doctor may be willing to, given the stress of your relationship breaking down and having to move shortly after an operation.

Sorry but I don't see the point of this thread if you are going to ignore what everyone is telling you.

emerald_starcat

Confused as to why the OP cannot afford schooling for her daughter. If I remember correctly school is state funded so why would she need to pay?

Edwardia

I had to deal with a team of electricians rewiring our house the day after day (gyny) surgery and I managed. Probably hard-working ex-partner figured you could at least keep an eye on workmen, make them tea, order stuff from Ocado and microwave it. If you had been on your own you would have to ! And even a seven year old can carry a few mugs to the sink or load a front loading washing machine if you helped sort it.

Lady Muck has to lay around resting but she's not too ill to start causing ex fiance trouble, calling the police because he lost his temper.

It's his house, you don't have any rights. it's up to YOU to solve the problems, you own a flat even if you don't like the area and he is not making your daughter homeless your totally unreasonable behaviour has done that.

I really dislike women who treat men as if they owe them everything as soon as they get in a relationship.

pimento

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

He sounds like a very lucky man to have escaped you.

Not half!