legal rights to stay in house with my child as house in ex's name

kittiej

Hmm, 'legal rights to stay in house', I can honestly say that if I was living with someone whom I had to bother the Police about then I would be looking for an alternative place to live pdq. Be it house, flat, bedsit or caravan I would not want to be around such an awful person.

I am left wondering if the Police involvement was an attempt to take things further to have him turfed out of his home thereby leaving you with a lovely new home.

If he is that bad then surely you would be doing everything possible to get out of there?

Errata

Blimey, if everyone phoned the police every time their OH/partner/bedmate yelled at them the unemployment situation wouldn't exist.

DVardysShadow

kittiej wrote: »

.... I am left wondering if the Police involvement was an attempt to take things further to have him turfed out of his home thereby leaving you with a lovely new home.

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek: What a jolly thought.

tesuhoha

It makes me wonder what you would all say if some guy posted on here the following:

I have a house in my name only and I pay the mortgage. My girlfriend and her 7 year old child live here with me. She does pay her half of the bills but its my house. She has a flat which she rents out as she moved in with me because we were engaged to be married.

Recently she had major surgery and was supposed to rest so I let her have the master bedroom. However, I did expect her to deal with the builders. Because she didn't do this to my liking we started having arguments which ended up with me accidentally screaming in her face and threatening her (only a little bit). She called the police which I thought was entirely unreasonable on her part and because of that I decided the relationship was over with no possibility of reconciliation.

I told her first I wanted her out of the bedroom and then on second thoughts out of the house completely. I've given her a week's notice for her and her daughter to get out of my house which I think is fair. She cannot return to her flat because the tenants require notice. She says I am being unreasonable and I should allow her to stay two months. Who do you think is in the wrong here?

Would you all agree with him and back him up? I don't think so. Personally, I think you would tear him apart.

Edwardia

kittiej wrote: »

I am left wondering if the Police involvement was an attempt to take things further to have him turfed out of his home thereby leaving you with a lovely new home.

There are some police forces which will not allow both partners to remain in the house together if one has called the police over a domestic incident as a matter of policy. They will remove him/her by force if necessary, and hold until the next day. If the person won't go quietly s/he gets a caution too if first offence or whatever else if not first time.

I think OP is playing dirty..

I'm sure some people would tear him apart because some people are like that but it doesn't change the fact that the OP called the police because her ex partner wanted to exercise his legal right to evict her from his house which she doesn't pay for because doesn't want to leave.

She wasn't throwing her total income in the pot she has been holding back some using it to pay school fees. Nor have they been living together long enough to give her rights on that basis.

She did bring the police in, and talk about getting a court order on the basis that her ex fiance can't make her homeless because of thechild. Not his child and since she owns a flat she's not homeless.

There's a woman in the Daily Mail saying her husband's sperm is a marital asset and that he shouldn't be allowed to donate sperm without her consent. On that basis a woman should have to get her husband's consent to donate eggs or have an abortion.

Some of these women seem not to have a grip on reality including OP.

NewKittenHelp

The so-called threat appears to be to throw her out of the house. She's playing very dirty and I do hope she finds herself on the streets for that is where she belongs.

DVardysShadow

Edwardia wrote: »

There are some police forces which will not allow both partners to remain in the house together if one has called the police over a domestic incident as a matter of policy. They will remove him/her by force if necessary, and hold until the next day. If the person won't go quietly s/he gets a caution too if first offence or whatever else if not first time.

Of course, it is largely a bluff. Not moving out of you own home when the police tell you to is hardly a crime - this is largely beyond police powers without them getting a court order and rightly so.

Even holding to the next day if no crime has been committed is largely outside their legitimate powers.

DVardysShadow

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

The so-called threat appears to be to throw her out of the house. She's playing very dirty and I do hope she finds herself on the streets for that is where she belongs.

Except for her daughter.

DVardysShadow

tesuhoha wrote: »

It makes me wonder what you would all say if some guy posted on here the following:

I have a house in my name only and I pay the mortgage. My girlfriend and her 7 year old child live here with me. She does pay her half of the bills but its my house. She has a flat which she rents out as she moved in with me because we were engaged to be married.

Recently she had major surgery and was supposed to rest so I let her have the master bedroom. However, I did expect her to deal with the builders. Because she didn't do this to my liking we started having arguments which ended up with me accidentally screaming in her face and threatening her (only a little bit). She called the police which I thought was entirely unreasonable on her part and because of that I decided the relationship was over with no possibility of reconciliation.

I told her first I wanted her out of the bedroom and then on second thoughts out of the house completely. I've given her a week's notice for her and her daughter to get out of my house which I think is fair. She cannot return to her flat because the tenants require notice. She says I am being unreasonable and I should allow her to stay two months. Who do you think is in the wrong here?

Would you all agree with him and back him up? I don't think so. Personally, I think you would tear him apart.

Well for me, the bit about the police is new from when I started on this thread. Without the bit about the police, I would be saying give her the chance to reclaim her flat. Now that the police have been mentioned, I would be saying [as it is his house] kick her out by all legal means.

NewKittenHelp

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Except for her daughter.

Hopefully the daughter's father will take her and he would have good reason if the mother has kept her in an environment that she claims is frightening.