legal rights to stay in house with my child as house in ex's name

tesuhoha

Edwardia wrote: »

There are some police forces which will not allow both partners to remain in the house together if one has called the police over a domestic incident as a matter of policy. They will remove him/her by force if necessary, and hold until the next day. If the person won't go quietly s/he gets a caution too if first offence or whatever else if not first time.

I think OP is playing dirty..

I'm sure some people would tear him apart because some people are like that but it doesn't change the fact that the OP called the police because her ex partner wanted to exercise his legal right to evict her from his house which she doesn't pay for because doesn't want to leave.

She wasn't throwing her total income in the pot she has been holding back some using it to pay school fees. Nor have they been living together long enough to give her rights on that basis.

She did bring the police in, and talk about getting a court order on the basis that her ex fiance can't make her homeless because of thechild. Not his child and since she owns a flat she's not homeless.

There's a woman in the Daily Mail saying her husband's sperm is a marital asset and that he shouldn't be allowed to donate sperm without her consent. On that basis a woman should have to get her husband's consent to donate eggs or have an abortion.

Some of these women seem not to have a grip on reality including OP.

We don't know for sure why she called the police. Its just what you're all reading into it. It also may well be that she feels very hurt that he could be so angry over the builders and finish the relationship so easily. He must be quite ruthless to expect her to get out so quickly. Is it justified or not? Does he think she is after the house?

I think there is more to this than meets the eye and we don't really know who is at fault.

POPPYOSCAR

I find it all quite sad that two people who supposedly loved each other enough to plan to get married in June, have degenerated so quickly into this situation, in only a matter of weeks.

Amazing.

janninew

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I find it all quite sad that two people who supposedly loved each other enough to plan to get married in June, have degenerated so quickly into this situation, in only a matter of weeks.

Amazing.

Me too, I also find some of the replies on here quite harsh and so many assumptions being made! I think people wishing she was thrown onto the streets to be just as bad as what they are accusing the OP of!

NewKittenHelp

janninew wrote: »

Me too, I also find some of the replies on here quite harsh and so many assumptions being made! I think people wishing she was thrown onto the streets to be just as bad as what they are accusing the OP of!

I would never allow my child to live somewhere that I thought was so frightening that the police needed to be called. Either a free house is more important to the OP than her and her daughter's safety, or she's not that scared at all and the police call was a calculated move to try and sponge for a longer time.

janninew

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

I would never allow my child to live somewhere that I thought was so frightening that the police needed to be called. Either a free house is more important to the OP than her and her daughter's safety, or she's not that scared at all and the police call was a calculated move to try and sponge for a longer time.

Have you ever been in that situation, many women find themselves victims of domestic abuse with children and feel trapped, not saying that is the case here, but things are not as black and white as some seem to think. My neighbours called the Police last month as a row had gotten out of control, they are still together and have 3 children.

NewKittenHelp

janninew wrote: »

Have you ever been in that situation, many women find themselves victims of domestic abuse with children and feel trapped, not saying that is the case here, but things are not as black and white as some seem to think. My neighbours called the Police last month as a row had gotten out of control, they are still together and have 3 children.

How is possible to be trapped when your partner is actively telling you to leave? :rotfl:

janninew

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

How is possible to be trapped when your partner is actively telling you to leave? :rotfl:

The OP said she was recovering from surgery, getting all her stuff out of the house isn't going to be that easy. I can see plenty of reasons she may feel trapped. Though I did say that might not be the case here, I prefer not to assume all sorts. I just know that life isn't always that simple.

Fire_Fox

tesuhoha wrote: »

It makes me wonder what you would all say if some guy posted on here the following:

I have a house in my name only and I pay the mortgage. My girlfriend and her 7 year old child live here with me. She does pay her half of the bills but its my house. She has a flat which she rents out as she moved in with me because we were engaged to be married.

Recently she had major surgery and was supposed to rest so I let her have the master bedroom. However, I did expect her to deal with the builders. Because she didn't do this to my liking we started having arguments which ended up with me accidentally screaming in her face and threatening her (only a little bit). She called the police which I thought was entirely unreasonable on her part and because of that I decided the relationship was over with no possibility of reconciliation.

I told her first I wanted her out of the bedroom and then on second thoughts out of the house completely. I've given her a week's notice for her and her daughter to get out of my house which I think is fair. She cannot return to her flat because the tenants require notice. She says I am being unreasonable and I should allow her to stay two months. Who do you think is in the wrong here?

Would you all agree with him and back him up? I don't think so. Personally, I think you would tear him apart.

The OP asked about her RIGHTS. If the man posted here asking about his ex's rights he'd have had the same answer, she has none. Nor has the OP said she wants to be allowed to stay two months, she has been quite clear she does not WANT to return to her flat, not simply that she cannot, and that she does not WANT to serve notice on her tenants.

NewKittenHelp

janninew wrote: »

The OP said she was recovering from surgery, getting all her stuff out of the house isn't going to be that easy. I can see plenty of reasons she may feel trapped. Though I did say that might not be the case here, I prefer not to assume all sorts. I just know that life isn't always that simple.

She's fighting to stay! That's not the actions of someone who feels trapped.

janninew

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

She's fighting to stay! That's not the actions of someone who feels trapped.

I thought the latest update from the OP was she had been looking at Rightmove and was looking for a flat to rent but was annoyed that the web-site wasn't being updated?

Seems to me the OP didn't know if she had any right to stay in the house which clearly she doesn't, she found out this advice on here and was given abuse, called a parasite, lady muck etc. She has now realised and started to look for somewhere to move into from this Friday coming?

The amount of 'this is what probably happened' on this thread is amazing, seems we have some talented mind readers!