legal rights to stay in house with my child as house in ex's name

NewKittenHelp

daska wrote: »

Yes and No. I'm suggesting that people who make a commitment to a child should consider the enormity of that decision and stick with that commitment when it has a pretty fundamental impact on the child - however things work out in their private lives. I have no idea whether it was the OP who made the decision to put the child in private school or whether it was a joint decision.

Are you suggesting that people should play fast and loose with a child's security and emotions just because they fall out with another adult? Essentially punishing the child for their or another person's actions?

(Thank you DVS, my position was very difficult, but you're quite correct in thinking it bore very little resemblance to the OP's in any other respect.)

I'm suggesting that the parents are responsible for the child, no one else.

daska

Having thought about this a bit I reckon the OP really needs to be having a conversation with either Shelter or WomensAid. They'll be able to advise about emergency housing while she is homeless - which she is technically if unable to return to her own flat because it is legally occupied by tenants.

daska

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

I'm suggesting that the parents are responsible for the child, no one else.

Yes you are then - because your view as stated would let them starve on the streets if their parents are f e ckless or neglectful. How lovely :eek:

NewKittenHelp

daska wrote: »

Yes you are then - because your view as stated would let them starve on the streets if their parents are f e ckless or neglectful. How lovely :eek:

That's why we have Social Services. I am not responsible for anyone else's children. This situation doesn't have a child at risk of neglect, it's about a child who may (HORROR OF HORRORS!) might have to attend a state school!

daska

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

That's why we have Social Services. I am not responsible for anyone else's children. This situation doesn't have a child at risk of neglect, it's about a child who may (HORROR OF HORRORS!) might have to attend a state school!

So it's not only the parents who are responsible? Make your mind up!

Who ever said you were responsible? I stated my conviction that people who make commitments that have a fundamental affect on a child should stick to them. Assuming that you never make that level of commitment you'll never have to worry about it.

My children have attended both State and Private schools, as I did. It's a matter of choosing what is most appropriate at the time. Moving schools might not harm them but you can't guarantee it and sometimes a change can be positive, but the decision should be taken with forethought. Chopping and changing every six months is not appropriate and no one can argue that frequently changing schools is good for a child. This will, presumably, be the third school in a maximum of 7 months. How can any adult do that to a child without a qualm?

Fire_Fox

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

The only threat the OP has had made against her was when he threatened to throw her and her stuff out onto the streets. Then she called the police. Then she (finally) left his bedroom. Then he gave her a week to get out.

It can't have been such a frightening experience if the OP is happy for her daughter to remain in the house, and is pursuing a court order to do it!

Unless you are the OP's partner or the OP's sockpuppet then you are talking a crock of unsubstantiated carp. Which is it?

DVardysShadow

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

The only threat the OP has had made against her was when he threatened to throw her and her stuff out onto the streets. Then she called the police. Then she (finally) left his bedroom. Then he gave her a week to get out.

It can't have been such a frightening experience if the OP is happy for her daughter to remain in the house, and is pursuing a court order to do it!

I think that you are ordering events according to when they were revealed on this thread.The actual narrative order is I think, quite a bit different.

peachyprice

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Peachy I don't remember the OP saying anything about the father. Where did you get that from?

She hasn't made any mention of the father, but the child must have one. Surely OP should be turning to him to help fund the child's education, no?

FBaby

I've re-read OP's posts and I think the replies have been quite harsh. At no time she mentions that she wants some equity in the house, just to know if she has any right to stay until she can sort out her life when her partner is expecting her to get out in a week.

Looking at it this way, I think he is a complete a**. They were friends for 5 years, committed, about to marry. He must have known the daughter since she was 2, build some kind of attachment. How can he not care a bit about trying to make the transition a bit smoother at least for the child? The house is a 4 bedroom, they should be able to cohabitate for a few weeks until OP can sort herself out.

OP states clearly in her opening post that she knows she will need to find another school, nothing about expecting her daughter to still go to the private one. I can understand though that it must be really heartbreaking having invested financially to get this place in September to see it fallen through. She wants a good school for her daughter, that's understanding.

The guy is probably really angry that the police was called hence his reaction. Hopefully he will calm down though and give OP a bit longer to sort things out before expecting her to move for the benefit of the innocent child.

Unfortunately, to go back to the initial question, there are no law that means that he has to give OP notice.

Somerset

FBaby wrote: »

I've re-read OP's posts and I think the replies have been quite harsh. At no time she mentions that she wants some equity in the house, just to know if she has any right to stay until she can sort out her life when her partner is expecting her to get out in a week.

Looking at it this way, I think he is a complete a**. They were friends for 5 years, committed, about to marry. He must have known the daughter since she was 2, build some kind of attachment. How can he not care a bit about trying to make the transition a bit smoother at least for the child? The house is a 4 bedroom, they should be able to cohabitate for a few weeks until OP can sort herself out.

OP states clearly in her opening post that she knows she will need to find another school, nothing about expecting her daughter to still go to the private one. I can understand though that it must be really heartbreaking having invested financially to get this place in September to see it fallen through. She wants a good school for her daughter, that's understanding.

The guy is probably really angry that the police was called hence his reaction. Hopefully he will calm down though and give OP a bit longer to sort things out before expecting her to move for the benefit of the innocent child.

Unfortunately, to go back to the initial question, there are no law that means that he has to give OP notice.

Completely disagree, I guess different people read different things into the same words.

- First post, my take was OP was fishing for info about whether she had a beneficial interest in the house. Too much info on the buying process eg '' for convenience at the time my partner purchased the new house in his name'' ie it is legally his but maybe morally our's. As I said, my take.

- They weren't a couple any more. Ex appears to have got stroppy after OP refused to relinquish the main bedroom. The refusal prompted the ex to threaten to throw both out. I wonder if ''my rights'' was bandied about. Anyway, the OP regarded this reaction as aggressive and called the police. It's this escalation that caused the ex to give short notice.

- They may have known each other five year's but have only been in a relationship seven months. That's not a long time. I doubt the ex has formed any close bond with the child.

-It may be a four bedroomed house, but if you can't stand the person you were in a relationship with, don't trust them < my rights>, are wary of further police visits etc, why would you be accomodating ? Some break-up's aren't acrimonious, some are.

- The OP does state school re-location in first post but every subsequent post says she wants to stay in the area because of the fee-paying school. It's the driving force. But equally she says she can't pay rent, living costs plus school fee's - and essentially ask's how long can she drag it out at the ex's.