Guests not trying (outfit)

poet123

Norma_Desmond wrote: »

Actually I don't have any of these inside an hour's round trip either!

I thought there were more charity shops than people in most places today.;)

Norma_Desmond

poet123 wrote: »

I thought there were more charity shops than people in most places today.;)

Not around here; there are more sheep than people tho'!

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For our recent wedding, given our mixed cultures we had on the invites "Dress: smart summer casual and/or traditional south Asian" so we had a full range from 'smart' jeans with well pressed shirt & jacket (fine with me) through to lounge suit & sarees.

The style (to me) doesn't matter but the fact that someone has made an effort in their grooming & dress for a special occasion. I don't want anyone to spend extra £££s on an outfit but turning up in sloppy clothes would have upset me quite a lot really.

For the few people making excuses above - would you wear trackies to a funeral? Everyone has something vaguely smart or that they can dress up as smart, can borrow something.

Not much suits me and I have little spare money for clothes and am limited in what I can wear due to a disability but I still look respectable & groomed. Much rather someone turned up in an old-fashioned dress borrowed from from a great-grandma than sloppy casual 'sports' gear.

I've bought a dress from ebay for £9, worn it then washed it & resold on ebay for the same money.

It's about old fashioned notions of respectability and respect for other IMO.

geri1965_2

Norma_Desmond wrote: »

Actually I don't have any of these inside an hour's round trip either!

There's always Pool Market.

ETA - sorry that was for PasturesNew

MrsDrink

I wonder whether the OP's bride and groom cared? If they didn't noone else should. If they did - fair enough it's their wedding. But if any of our guests looked down at anyone else simply because of their perceived 'effort' I wouldn't be happy.

cats2012

i was really unsure on my views on this but the funeral comment above is really interesting. wearing something hugely casual to a funeral would, in my view anyway, be incredibly disrespectful so surely if people can find something for that they could find something for a wedding...?

TheSeventh

MrsDrink wrote: »

I wonder whether the OP's bride and groom cared? If they didn't noone else should. If they did - fair enough it's their wedding. But if any of our guests looked down at anyone else simply because of their perceived 'effort' I wouldn't be happy.

I agree absolutely with this. As long as the couple themselves aren't offended, why should anyone else care? And if the couple are fine with it - then you're being incredibly rude to make their guests feel uncomfortable when they've done nothing wrong.

Scotsbride

I can't see what people wear being too much of a problem if there was no dress code on the invites isn't supporting the couple the most important thing.

Torry_Quine

cats2012 wrote: »

i was really unsure on my views on this but the funeral comment above is really interesting. wearing something hugely casual to a funeral would, in my view anyway, be incredibly disrespectful so surely if people can find something for that they could find something for a wedding...?

I absolutely agree here. I would always wear at least dark colours if not black and of course smart clothing to a funeral. The exception being if the family request otherwise.

Also I would never wear black or white to a wedding. Surely people don't need to be told this.:o

Miss_Havisham

I wouldn't mind smart jeans and t-shirt (clean, not ripped and no logos etc) as long as the wearers of said outfits were properly "groomed" (lovely old-fashioned word), i.e. washed and styled hair, manicured nails, nice make-up on the women (men's optional), clean shoes etc, smelling fragant and happy to be there.