Guests not trying (outfit)

duchy

I don't think it's an age thing ...although I totally get where you are coming from.

I think it comes from the fact that for a lot of people their wedding is the most expensive event they'll ever have in their lives and they want everything to be not just drop dead gorgeous but drop dead perfect ......unfortunately human nature/other people's views/circumstances doesn't always play along.

dingdong -maybe just putting a dress code on the invite might be more tactful LOL Something like No onecies, beards or low heels ?

jackieb

I haven't worn a dress to a wedding for over 20 years - but that's only because i've never felt comfortable in a skirt. Going to a wedding was the only time i'd ever wear one. I always buy a trouser suit but I still feel like a fish out of water because I rarely see any other women wearing trousers at a wedding. I wouldn't wear jeans though, and I do try to make it look like i've made an effort.

lisajane8482

I wouldn't be offended if anyone came in jeans to the evening doo but I would be a little miffed if family turned up in stone wash jeans to the ceremony.

I was asked by my auntie if there was any colours or styles her or my cousin (who will be 3) should not wear. My reply "as long as you both look nice and aren't wearing a wedding dress I couldn't care less" I guess to some people this could be ambiguous and they could take it as wearing jeans and a decent t-shirt but to be honest I don't actually know many people who would think that attire suitable for a wedding.

Saying that I have never seen OH family in a wear nice clothes situation (in fact I have only met his mum and seen 2 of his sisters from a distance) but since he's told them no jeans or track suits I am guessing they would think it appropriate....

BugglyB

I think maybe its a generational thing. My gran never had two pennies to rub together or the proverbial pot but she always looked clean and tidy and wore a hat to church. I dread to think what she would have said if she could hear people saying they are too poor to not wear jeans.

SUESMITH_2

went to a wedding last weekend and was surprised how lovely and smart everyone was, we had all made an effort. mind you, the dress i was wearing was reduced to 12 quid in the asos sale, a pair of shoes i had had for ages, a bag ditto and a fascinator that cost me less than 2 quid in the sale.

we go to a few do's and i have about 4 frocks that i can wear and that have matching accesories - all bought on the cheap in the sale. no one else knows that my entire outfit has cost less than 20 quid, they just think how nice i look (hopefully lol)

wannabemrs

For one wedding I went to, I raided my wardrobe at my mums and found a dress I had bought years ago. Tried it on and it fitted, so got to wear it again. I have changed sizes more often that I can remember, so it was just a case of trying everything on that I could find there. Though I am lucky that my parents have enough space to store my fat (or thin) clothes when I am another size.

dw85

SUESMITH wrote: »

went to a wedding last weekend and was surprised how lovely and smart everyone was, we had all made an effort.

I think that is the point here, is as long as 'an effort' has been attempted (if you get what i mean).

SUESMITH wrote: »

mind you, the dress i was wearing was reduced to 12 quid in the asos sale, a pair of shoes i had had for ages, a bag ditto and a fascinator that cost me less than 2 quid in the sale.

we go to a few do's and i have about 4 frocks that i can wear and that have matching accesories - all bought on the cheap in the sale. no one else knows that my entire outfit has cost less than 20 quid, they just think how nice i look (hopefully lol)

Thats great moneysaving! :T I guess part of that is finding something that wont date and can easily mix and match accessories, something im not so great at!

Ive just done a quick poll round my office and general consensus is that if you are at the ceremony, then an effort should be made (no jeans or onesies!), but smart jeans (dark, no rips, stonewash etc) and shirt is acceptable for a reception only invite.
Bare in mind i'm the only female in an engineering bay full of guys ranging from 19-late 40s but thats what they said.

Saturnalia

I was raised with the idea that you show respect for the occasion by showing up dressed for it. You could have the best CV ever but show up to the interview in a tracky & you won't be hired. Go on a date looking and smelling like you've fallen out with your shower and you won't get another. Go to a Goth nightclub in a sparkly white minidress and TOWIE tan and you won't get past the bouncer.

There is Primark, there's Peacocks, there are charity shops. Doesn't everyone have a pair of smart-ish black trousers in their wardrobe? Don't most people have a trendy friend who could lend them a top?

74jax

I couldn't care less what people turned up in as long as they do :rotfl: If they come in what they would normally wear to town then that's fine to me (even if that's jeans) as their my friends and that is how I know them.

Yes it's nice to wear smart clothes to weddings but some of my friends just aren't like that and I think I'd rather have them the way they normally are, than try and dress how they *think* they should.

That said, we're having a 'wear the most outrageous Hawaiian shirt that you can' competition at ours, so doubt anyone would dress up :rotfl:

74jax

stir_crazy wrote: »

If it was a case of wearing my jeans or not going... I would be regretfully declining my invitation.

Aw I really hope my friends don't feel this way. I would love them all there come whatever, our wedding is for our friends to share in our celebration, I'd hate them to be sat at home thinking 'if only I had something *suitable*'