Guests not trying (outfit)

CupcakeLisa

I went to a wedding recently and all the wedding party didnt really want to be there (mum dad brother etc) after the ceremony they all went to their rooms and put their jeans on

PasturesNew

stir_crazy wrote: »

The majority of people who may not have "going out clothes" would surely have something that they could wear. Even work clothes - trousers and a blouse or smart top? And you dont necessarily have to buy new clothes, I was pointing out that if you absolutely have nothing to wear then places like Primark are always an option.

Surely work clothes would be the "everyday clothes" being complained about.

Primark isn't always an option, only for those who shop at Primark, who fit their clothes, who have the spare £15 (on top of already buying a gift/wrap/card, drinks at the venue, transport).

Maybe the bride should have got better quality friends for you.

zebramolli

I have a simple black dress that I keep in the wardrobe which can be dressed up or down depending on the occasion, most recently worn the other week to a friends wedding with a pair of £10 sale shoes from Matalan

I would have thought most people would have some form of smart clothing in their wardrobe for work, interviews etc. For weddings I think day invitations should be treated as smart dress (not necessarily top and tails but a suit and tie); evening invitations are a bit more relaxed but I think it should still be tidy, it is a party after all!

dw85

I think Pasteursnew is being a bit unfair. You dont have to spend a fortune. Primark is cheap if you want something new, NewLook have other ranges (petite/larger) where you could buy a key piece and dress up/down with accessories.

The other point that has been missed are charity shops or carboots. Clothes are cheap, you are helping a good cause and so what if you only wear it once.

I personally do not think jeans are acceptable, esp as it is a formal occasion. Though im prob not doing myself any favours....my fiance and i are planning a beach wedding and ive said its ok for him to be in shorts and smart casual shirt But we are having a reception/party when we get back and i hope that our guests will make an effort. Future hubby and his best man will be wearing #1 dress, as will our other military friends/guests. They dont get an opportunity to wear them much so its an excuse to!

stir_crazy

PasturesNew wrote: »

Surely work clothes would be the "everyday clothes" being complained about.

Primark isn't always an option, only for those who shop at Primark, who fit their clothes, who have the spare £15 (on top of already buying a gift/wrap/card, drinks at the venue, transport).

Maybe the bride should have got better quality friends for you.

I would like if my guests wore anything other than jeans (or their PJs, as some people in my area seem to think they are suitable to go outside in too). As to whether £15 is too much I guess its up to the guests priorities. Personally, I would rather make the effort to look nice, and spend a little bit less on the drinks. And to be honest, if my guests were that hard up then I'd be pretty annoyed if they spent their money on a gift for me.

BugglyB

Personally I wouldn't go to a wedding (or a funeral, or a job interview) in jeans and t-shirt.

wannabemrs

I definitely would have no issue with people turning up in work clothes, as in the most part, these are at least smart casual, if not full suits.

It really is personal opinion, but I agree, charity shops, ebay, so many options to get a really cheap outfit if you wanted something new to you, to me it would be the t-shirt that I would find inappropriate.

missprice

stir_crazy wrote: »

The majority of people who may not have "going out clothes" would surely have something that they could wear. Even work clothes - trousers and a blouse or smart top? And you dont necessarily have to buy new clothes, I was pointing out that if you absolutely have nothing to wear then places like Primark are always an option.

what if your a cleaner or work in a fish and chip shop, refuse collector? and many others.
I have the same problem as Pasturesnew, I own 2 Dresses (one is a tennis dress and therefore unsuitable for a wedding anyway) that probably will no longer fit me and no shoes to go with as I recently threw out my only pair of 'going out heels' as they were around 16 years old and worn and badly out of fashion.
I cannot contemplate spending even £15 on a dress that may get used only once assuming I found something I liked so I would rather not go than embarrass anyone which is a shame:)

zebramolli

dw85 wrote: »

I personally do not think jeans are acceptable, esp as it is a formal occasion.

Personally I don't mind dark or black smart denim (no stonewashed ripped Levis!) for the evening do, but I can understand why some people don't like it

Also guests usually have a few months notice that they'll be attending an event, for me, gives plenty of time to save a few pounds to put towards something nice... Plenty of low cost options mentioned above.

lisajane8482

stir_crazy wrote: »

or their PJs, as some people in my area seem to think they are suitable to go outside in too

I have actually seen someone come to a wedding in a onsie, she turned up around 10:30 (uninvited by the bride and groom).

As she came in she said to me "I didn't think anyone would be dressed up so I just popped down for the last hour and a half to spend some time with Dan"

The bride and groom's face (along with others) was a picture, the bride to say the least was not happy at all.... not only because she wasn't invited (they couldn't stand her) but also because she had the "sheer nerve to turn up in a onsie".

If I am honest I was slightly worried about OH's family turning up in "unsuitable" clothes. I had visions of my family as smart as can be and OH family looking like they've popped to the corner shop for some milk. OH has told them that jeans and tracksuits are not allowed.