Son's problem at interview

Idiophreak

teffers wrote: »

lol

Advice on here will always be slanted due to the gender of the majority of forum users, but, it never ceases to amaze me when women wear revealing clothing to work. I mean it's like a bloke wearing cycling shorts to the office.:eek:

Meh, I wear my lycra shorts around the office after lunchtime cycles.

Fortunately, as above, I work in IT - so there are only really other men to scare

joannaspanner

teffers wrote: »

lol

Advice on here will always be slanted due to the gender of the majority of forum users, but, it never ceases to amaze me when women wear revealing clothing to work. I mean it's like a bloke wearing cycling shorts to the office.:eek:

Lol, used to have a guy who changed into cycling shorts at lunch and did his bending down and touching down toes in front of me outside the reception window, he would then keep them on for the rest of the day, I always felt I could never take him seriously talking to him about work when I could see the outline of his nob through his shorts.

Hmm71

bap98189 wrote: »

Making eye contact is a sign of confidence. People who constantly look down or away from the person they are talking to appear to be shy or have no confidence. We're not talking about staring the interviewer down, but just acting the way you would during a normal conversation.

What the interviewers were wearing is irrelevant. So what if the people interviewing him were wearing low-cut tops. Women are entitled to wear whatever they like and still expect to be treated professionally. It's not difficult, and if your son can't deal professionally with people in low-cut tops then I suggest he focusses his mind on the interview a little more in future rather than on the interviewer's cleavage. he is going to encounter plenty of women during the course of his working life who will be wearing all sorts of clothes.

I'm not sure about women being entitled to where whatever they want and still be expected to be treated professionally. You could say the same should apply to men but if my male or female Doctor/Solicitor for example, went around in shorts and t-shirt or mini skirt and stilettos I don't think I would feel that they were going to act professionally on my behalf. Okay, that's just my prejudice you'll say and I'm the one with the problem but surely it's not too much to ask someone to dress appropriately for their job is it, irrelevant of gender?

purple.sarah

wantsajob wrote: »

Lack of eye contact and appearing nervous COULD be suggestive of Aspergers.

I have Aspergers and I struggle with eye contact but I suspect it's more likely that he was simply nervous in a job interview!

joannaspanner

There is a lady here who is very 'sexual' in everything she does... It makes everyone laugh to be honest as she can't do anything without walking like Barbara Windsor or playing the helpless female. She's 53 but thinks she is 23, it's really funny.

bap98189

Hmm71 wrote: »

I'm not sure about women being entitled to where whatever they want and still be expected to be treated professionally. You could say the same should apply to men but if my male or female Doctor/Solicitor for example, went around in shorts and t-shirt or mini skirt and stilettos I don't think I would feel that they were going to act professionally on my behalf. Okay, that's just my prejudice you'll say and I'm the one with the problem but surely it's not too much to ask someone to dress appropriately for their job is it, irrelevant of gender?

I agree that people should be expected to dress appropriately for their job, and also that attire has a huge impact on how people regard others. But wearing a low cut top in a hot office is hardly unusual, and in this day and age, I don't think it is acceptable to use a woman's attire as an excuse for acting unprofessionally.

Besides who sets the rules about what is and isn't low cut? We don't know what the OP's son saw, whether the interviewers were sporting a boob tube and hotpants, or just a blouse with the top button undone.

Evilm

geminilady wrote: »

Just wondered what he should have said?

also any advice for him would be greatly appreciated he is looking for work in IT.

He should have said nothing. He should have noted it internally and made sure to concentrate his attention on their eyes/heads! He is going to come across this all the time even in IT and its best not to even acknowledge what they are (or are not ) wearing at all.

Its a filter that is good to develop - almost imagine that the body of the person is just grey with no detail and there is nothing to see regarding clothing etc.

(Also as said by others: how low? push-up bra low? just about know they have boobs low? I ask specifically because if I wear anything that is not slit/tight t-shirt neck or higher I can't avoid the worst of the guys looking and noticing - even if its a relatively high V-neck. They get short shrift with me and soon stop though! )

Idiophreak

bap98189 wrote: »

Besides who sets the rules about what is and isn't low cut? We don't know what the OP's son saw, whether the interviewers were sporting a boob tube and hotpants, or just a blouse with the top button undone.

A 20 year old male? Interested in IT?

I'd have thought anything short of a burka would have him red cheeked and sweating

Taiko

I think the only way we can find out any further information is if a few of us men try and obtain an interview at this place..

ktothema

To be fair to OP's son, if I was interviewed by three women in low cut tops I'd find it hard to look elsewhere or maintain eye contact for long without feeling like a perv. And I'm a hetero woman!!!!